Fiance purposely missed K1 Visa interview

[apnzz 268]

23 minutes ago, Pumpkinandchai said:

Hi, I am taking all of this into consideration. Yes he said “cold feet”.

He has never said this to me ever before. Thats why I believe him.

I still agree with the above responses, what is the online status at ceac? Is there even any proof of the interview being booked? 

 

I think everyone here is extremely concerned for you; for your safety & wellbeing, especially being a U.S. Citizen and potentially targeted for that reason. People here are trying to urge you that you do not seem to be taking this as serious as what it potentially is.

 

This is meant to be a relationship that is ready for marriage, but the basic fundamental questions of a relationship; truth/honesty, commitment, desire and willingness to do anything and everything to be together, appears to be absent from what you've discussed in the contents of this thread.

 

Any beneficiary who is willing to purposely miss their immigration interview, I can assure you there is something serious going on there. 

This process is long, difficult, expensive and stressful, to miss an interview on purpose; there are definitely underlying issues there that are deeper than just "cold feet".

 

 

Edited September 24 by apnzz

[Yareth 62]

Even though I'd give the beneficiary another chance, I'd be very critical of this situation. Not only due to missing the interview, but also the concerning situation where the beneficiary in question is starting a new food business a few months before leaving the country and their business behind?

This is a confusing course of action to me - unless the business in question is immediately taken care of by someone else and the beneficiary acts as an angel investor of sorts. 

OP, please be very careful and weigh your options. 

[Pumpkinandchai 1]

Hi all, 

Yes. Interview was booked. The caec says ready for interview. I saw all of the information.
I am consulting a lawyer now. 
To see what to do going forward. I really dont want to abandon all this and the relationship.

I Will update. 

[hplusj 140]

6 hours ago, Pumpkinandchai said:

Hi all, 

Yes. Interview was booked. The caec says ready for interview. I saw all of the information.
I am consulting a lawyer now. 
To see what to do going forward. I really dont want to abandon all this and the relationship.

I Will update. 

You're welcome to try to work at the relationship of course but here's a thought:

 

Just start the process over.  Suggest that you should be getting married NOW, since the spousal visa is much easier and more expedient than in previous years.  There is a lot of useful advice on these forums to that regard.  Put the offer up.  See what he says.

 

Heck, you can even suggest he use what funds he has for this new business to invest in the future for the two of you in America.  He needs to be at least willing to coordinate with you and show he actually wants this.  Bottom line, HAVE SOME STANDARDS AND DEMAND HE SHOW INITIATIVE TO DO THIS STILL.

 

Remember, you are the US citizen giving him all the opportunities for love, commitment, and prosperity in our country.  If there's pushback to that, guess what?  It's YOU who has the power to say no and move on. 

 

The cold, hard truth is that you sound desperate for companionship from someone who is just not on the same page.  At all.  Have some self-respect to know when someone doesn't love you to the degree you need. You can't force these things and they're not going to work if you demand they do.  You are much better off abandoning ship than ending up in a toxic, resentful, potentially abusive pairing where you get the pleasure of footing 100% of the bill.  

Edited September 29 by hplusj

[KJ2024 8]

On 9/22/2024 at 9:59 AM, Pumpkinandchai said:

Hello, 

Can I reschedule my K1 visa interview for my fiance or is my case closed?

My fiance purposely ditched out on his K1 Visa interview claiming “cold feet”

He did not notify me or the embassy until after the interview date that he had done so. 
I am so hurt to say the least. But I still want to be with him.

I’m so sorry that you are going through tough time but think again before you give the beneficiary another chance . Maybe this is a sign to move on .