Is my situation worth trying to withdraw sponsorship?

[JoshintheDesert 11]

18 minutes ago, OldUser said:

This thought just crossed my mind after re-reading the thread...

 

@JoshintheDesert if you knew she started affair in April 2023, why did you sign I-751 in September 2023 stating marriage is bonafide?

 

If you bring this to USCIS, they may (small chance) not only accuse her of fraud, but you participating in it. It's relatively rare but possible to get serious penalties for that too.

 

This only supports my opinion to get divorced ASAP and get away from this messy situation.

 

At least I wouldn't drag it.

 

 

At that time (April 2023) the only thing I caught her doing was texting with a male coworker. I said at the time I considered it cheating as the messages were flirty/suggestive, but she apologized and swore she would block the guy and ignore him at work. So at that time, even though I still struggled with it, I took her word for it and figured trust could be rebuilt and we could move on from that. So in my mind in September 2023 there was no reason not to file her removal of conditions as she appeared to be back on the straight and narrow. Then I later found out (Jan 2024) that she never did stop and actually progressed into much worse betrayals with same guy and I decided to accept the marriage was dead and it was time to make changes. As for the past 8 months being separated I know it looks like I've been dragging my heels filing divorce, but I've needed time to try to digest all that happened. But I am now ready to get all of this resolved and officially move on. 

Edited September 3 by JoshintheDesert

[OldUser 6,976]

16 minutes ago, JoshintheDesert said:

 

At that time (April 2023) the only thing I caught her doing was texting with a male coworker. I said at the time I considered it cheating as the messages were flirty/suggestive, but she apologized and swore she would block the guy and ignore him at work. So at that time, even though I still struggled with it, I took her word for it and figured trust could be rebuilt and we could move on from that. So in my mind in September 2023 there was no reason not to file her removal of conditions as she appeared to be back on the straight and narrow. Then I later found out (Jan 2024) that she never did stop and actually progressed into much worse betrayals with same guy and I decided to accept the marriage was dead and it was time to make changes. As for the past 8 months being separated I know it looks like I've been dragging my heels filing divorce, but I've needed time to try to digest all that happened. But I am now ready to get all of this resolved and officially move on. 

I'm sorry this happened to you

[Timona 4,208]

1. I would file for divorce NOW before her ROC is approved because she'll have to switch to "ROC with divorce waiver" which if she doesn't and gets her GC AFTER divorce is final, she'll be in hot waters with USCIS come that citizenship that she's dreaming of. If I'm you, I'd use those evidences to swing divorce division of items in my favor BUT then

 

2. still send those evidence to USCIS fraud department too. 

 

The above 2 may be icing on the cake for her. 

 

As soon as you file divorce, stay away so as not be be accused of DV etc. 

[JoshintheDesert 11]

12 minutes ago, OldUser said:

I'm sorry this happened to you

Thank you for your concern and all of your input. It is definitely not the happily ever after I dreamed of. I do have a question for you. Do you still think I can be accused of participating in fraud given my explanation above?

[JoshintheDesert 11]

12 minutes ago, Timona said:

1. I would file for divorce NOW before her ROC is approved because she'll have to switch to "ROC with divorce waiver" which if she doesn't and gets her GC AFTER divorce is final, she'll be in hot waters with USCIS come that citizenship that she's dreaming of. If I'm you, I'd use those evidences to swing divorce division of items in my favor BUT then

 

2. still send those evidence to USCIS fraud department too. 

 

The above 2 may be icing on the cake for her. 

 

As soon as you file divorce, stay away so as not be be accused of DV etc. 

Thank you for your reply! Yes divorce now seems to be the consensus. I definitely plan to not only stay away, but move on in another relationship. What is "DV" short for?

[Boiler 45,731]

https://www.soundimmigration.com/i-864-enforcement/

 

If this does not scare you, well it should.

 

USCIS are not going to be interested unless you have SOLID evidence of immigration fraud, not marital issues.

 

I agree with the others divorce asap.

[OldUser 6,976]

31 minutes ago, JoshintheDesert said:

What is "DV" short for?

Domestic violence it is

[Family 4,065]

You want some revenge …but unfortunately she managed to string you along not only to the joint filing but also 8 months of its processing,

 

I am sorry you ended up with someone who betrayed you, but don’t contemplate she will be charged with fraud or deported.

 

 

You can write to USCIs and withdraw support of the JOINTLY FILED I-751 , truthfully state and prove the 8 months separation, go ahead and tell your heartbreak story …but please don’t be That Guy …off w her head!  Deport her!

 

But if you are going to do it, take action today …as her case could be approved without an interview any day. Don’t wait to file divorce, just say marriage is broken and you are divorcing .
 

They will pay attention and she will at least have the inconvenience of navigating a divorce waiver.

 

If you really want her to sweat, get a good divorce attorney and drag it out as long as possible….she needs the final divorce decree to get USCIS out of her hair….but you don’t 

Edited September 4 by Family

[JoshintheDesert 11]

49 minutes ago, Boiler said:

https://www.soundimmigration.com/i-864-enforcement/

 

If this does not scare you, well it should.

 

USCIS are not going to be interested unless you have SOLID evidence of immigration fraud, not marital issues.

 

I agree with the others divorce asap.

Thanks for the reply! Yes that would for sure be a nightmare to deal with on top of everything else...Well everyone seems to think divorce ASAP. I think I'll still send the letter, if the consider it great. If not then at least I'm still moving on with divorce. 

[JoshintheDesert 11]

33 minutes ago, OldUser said:

Domestic violence it is

Ah I should have known haha, thanks! And no chance of any DV accusations, I wish her well but I never want to see this chick again. 

[TBoneTX 45,591]

Josh, ICE has its hands full with large cases.  In instances such as yours, the FDNS Officer at your local USCIS office would be the appropriate individual to receive information about individual fraud, potential or actual.

 

You would need to compile all evidence -- more than enough to convince a dubious stranger (FDNS officer) -- and hand it over, optimally in person and in dispassionate fashion.  The kicker surrounding this is that you will never hear of action (not) taken, so closure will elude you.

 

Follow the advice regarding divorce and protecting yourself, with our sympathy and best wishes.

[Lemonslice 4,917]

1 hour ago, Timona said:

1. I would file for divorce NOW before her ROC is approved because she'll have to switch to "ROC with divorce waiver" which if she doesn't and gets her GC AFTER divorce is final, she'll be in hot waters with USCIS come that citizenship that she's dreaming of. If I'm you, I'd use those evidences to swing divorce division of items in my favor BUT then

 

2. still send those evidence to USCIS fraud department too. 

 

The above 2 may be icing on the cake for her. 

 

As soon as you file divorce, stay away so as not be be accused of DV etc. 

1. Not hindering her path to citizenship (more than divorcing her) might be the quickest/easiest way to be free from the affidavit of support.  Maybe not applicable depending on work quarters already accumulated, but something to consider. 

[OldUser 6,976]

Just now, JoshintheDesert said:

Ah I should have known haha, thanks! And no chance of any DV accusations, I wish her well but I never want to see this chick again. 

If she's desperate, she could interact and provoke you, then use it to support her I-751. Do not interact under any circumstances. Use the lawyer to communicate throughout divorce. Good luck!

[JoshintheDesert 11]

30 minutes ago, Family said:

You want some revenge …but unfortunately she managed to string you along not only to the joint filing but also 8 months of its processing,

 

I am sorry you ended up with someone who betrayed you, but don’t contemplate she will be charged with fraud or deported.

 

 

You can write to USCIs and withdraw support of the JOINTLY FILED I-751 , truthfully state and prove the 8 months separation, go ahead and tell your heartbreak story …but please don’t be That Guy …off w her head!  Deport her!

 

But if you are going to do it, take action today …as her case could be approved without an interview any day. Don’t wait to file divorce, just say marriage is broken and you are divorcing .
 

They will pay attention and she will at least have the inconvenience of navigating a divorce waiver.

 

If you really want her to sweat, get a good divorce attorney and drag it out as long as possible….she needs the final divorce decree to get USCIS out of her hair….but you don’t 

Well I'm not trying to be vindictive. I actually found her a new house to rent, negotiated with the landlord for her since she never had credit, and paid to fill the house full of furniture. Though the main reason why I did all this is to be able to demonstrate that despite everything I was still looking out for her well being and wasn't interested in revenge. But all that aside, if what she did is considered fraud then its only fair that she accept the consequences. If USCIS says no harm no foul, then I'm perfectly fine accepting that too. 

[JoshintheDesert 11]

8 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

Josh, ICE has its hands full with large cases.  In instances such as yours, the FDNS Officer at your local USCIS office would be the appropriate individual to receive information about individual fraud, potential or actual.

 

You would need to compile all evidence -- more than enough to convince a dubious stranger (FDNS officer) -- and hand it over, optimally in person and in dispassionate fashion.  The kicker surrounding this is that you will never hear of action (not) taken, so closure will elude you.

 

Follow the advice regarding divorce and protecting yourself, with our sympathy and best wishes.

Thank you for the clear and concise input! I will look into directing my story and evidence I can produce to the FDNS officer at my local USCIS office. I will also get divorce started ASAP. Thanks for the well wishes!