K1 Visa Extreme Hardship Waiver Due to Current Circumstances

[Family 3,988]

1 hour ago, Adventurerjj said:

@SalishSea I'll just have to have some arguments with their mom, thanks. 

I strongly suggest you skip Debate with The EX and book your flight …for 2 weeks at least.  Give Ex adequate notice for the time period you won’t be available for children’s care. 
 

This long distance relationship and immigration may take a couple of years…and you should consider you may want to go spend time with your fiancée , at least once a year.

 

When you return, if EX gives you a hard time about time with the children , look up your local courthouse website for Voluntary Declaration of Paternity and draft a Parenting Plan. Legal aide clinics are also available and you can DIY this ..if $$ is tight.

Having a new woman in your life means a new woman in the children’s life….you need a court order put in place for the sake of your children and their future stepmother….so your lives are not  disrupted every time EX oversteps boundaries. 
 

Besides, you may love your new lady___but EX may be more critical or vice versa.

 

And , forget the waiver, they deny everyone 


 

[JeanneAdil 6,491]

Before starting this new adventure,  u need to settle the situation u are in

 

2 sites tell u what to do in California 

1 how to file

 

https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/child-custody/filing-options

 

2 parenting time and child custody

https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/child-custody

 

 It is not fair to the new proposed relationship to bring her into this without taking care of these issues  / u can't just throw another person into this

 

Family court doesn't necessarily require a lawyer

the judge will look at your attempts to visit

you paying child support and in the case of these disabilities,  do u carry health care insurance for them

the gifts u send for birthdays and Christmas

how the kids react to u

 

take care of your  initial responsibilites before taking on a new one

 

[Gary Rich 261]

6 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

Before starting this new adventure,  u need to settle the situation u are in

 

2 sites tell u what to do in California 

1 how to file

 

https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/child-custody/filing-options

 

2 parenting time and child custody

https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/child-custody

 

 It is not fair to the new proposed relationship to bring her into this without taking care of these issues  / u can't just throw another person into this

 

Family court doesn't necessarily require a lawyer

the judge will look at your attempts to visit

you paying child support and in the case of these disabilities,  do u carry health care insurance for them

the gifts u send for birthdays and Christmas

how the kids react to u

 

take care of your  initial responsibilites before taking on a new one

 

Exactly... courts would only want to know if you are paying child support ( then you get all the necessary visits you need with the court's approval. ) Keep your ex out of your business. Save money as well.

 any gift to the kids is not child support, and the best thing about it.. you can do it yourself..

[JeanneAdil 6,491]

1 minute ago, Gary Rich said:

Exactly... courts would only want to know if you are paying child support ( then you get all the necessary visits you need with the court's approval. ) Keep your ex out of your business. Save money as well.

 any gift to the kids is not child support, and the best thing about it.. you can do it yourself..

My concern is that this new woman not only has not met the OP but has to deal with the complications of an ex and children with disabilities/ it is not fair to put anyone into this slam dunk 

she needs to know and be able to handle everything /  first to meet the USC and be told the whole picture/  online communication is not the same as meeting in person 

[Moda25 48]

@JeanneAdil Your concerns are valid and I have the same concerns. The problem is that there’s a high chance the new woman will be told and she will still say she can handle it so she could get to the US. When reality finally sets in, she may then leave OP unfortunately. I’m not a prophet of doom but just being honest.

[Gary Rich 261]

2 hours ago, JeanneAdil said:

My concern is that this new woman not only has not met the OP but has to deal with the complications of an ex and children with disabilities/ it is not fair to put anyone into this slam dunk 

she needs to know and be able to handle everything /  first to meet the USC and be told the whole picture/  online communication is not the same as meeting in person 

it can and will be tough for sure.. but!! it can be done

[Ontarkie 14,218]

Personally I would just say you will not be in town from date to date and nothing else. I would not tell her about going to the PI and meeting your GF. It's not her business at this point, as long as the trip isn't coming out of the financial obligations to your kids. You need to figure out if this relationship is going to go somewhere. After you figure out that part than yes it will become her business as it will involve your children. 

 

 

4 hours ago, Moda25 said:

@JeanneAdil Your concerns are valid and I have the same concerns. The problem is that there’s a high chance the new woman will be told and she will still say she can handle it so she could get to the US. When reality finally sets in, she may then leave OP unfortunately. I’m not a prophet of doom but just being honest.

I've seen on here many times where the fiancée says they would love the child like their own and only to get to the US and become majorly jealous of the EX and the new step kids.