How to cope with adjusting status?

[MaxP22 186]

36 minutes ago, Hughughug333 said:

Yes and at the time we determined that it would be worth it since we have done three months long distance which was very hard 

3 months long distance is hard??? No, it's not hard.

 

So you made the (bad) decision to AOS whilst visiting on the VWP, and are now moaning about the consequences?

 

I mean you decided to just stay there, living with your husband, as well as his parents? Like why would you ever decide to do that? Is he 18 or something, that he still lives with his parents?

 

Stop complaining, and accept the consequences of your own bad decisions and deal with it.

[SalishSea 17,987]

1 hour ago, Hughughug333 said:

Yes and at the time we determined that it would be worth it since we have done three months long distance which was very hard 

Well, separation is part of the deal with immigration.   Most of us weee separated for MUCH longer than that.

[Scandi 4,173]

17 hours ago, SalishSea said:

OP posted in the AOS from work, tourist, student visas, so it may not have even been a K-1.  

That doesn't change anything, they still made the wrong decision for their situation if working and being able to do other things right away were important. People jump into things too quickly without doing research, without planning and without any regards as to how things will work out practically.

 

If money was important, then OP would've stayed in his/her country and worked and saved enough to last a year or so in the US before moving here. If working right away was important then OP would've stayed in his/her country and waited for the CR-1 visa to be processed. So either they did a very bad decision, or money and work simply weren't that important after all. 

[Scandi 4,173]

52 minutes ago, MaxP22 said:

3 months long distance is hard??? No, it's not hard.

 

So you made the (bad) decision to AOS whilst visiting on the VWP, and are now moaning about the consequences?

 

I mean you decided to just stay there, living with your husband, as well as his parents? Like why would you ever decide to do that? Is he 18 or something, that he still lives with his parents?

 

Stop complaining, and accept the consequences of your own bad decisions and deal with it.

Wholeheartedly agree with this. It's hard to feel sympathy for someone who made their own bed and now complains about having to lay in it. I mean, nobody forced this on them, this was their own decision all along. And complaining about 3 months??? Wow, that's like a drop in the ocean compared to how long most of us were separated from our fiances and spouses. 

[SalishSea 17,987]

1 hour ago, Scandi said:

That doesn't change anything, they still made the wrong decision for their situation if working and being able to do other things right away were important. People jump into things too quickly without doing research, without planning and without any regards as to how things will work out practically.

 

If money was important, then OP would've stayed in his/her country and worked and saved enough to last a year or so in the US before moving here. If working right away was important then OP would've stayed in his/her country and waited for the CR-1 visa to be processed. So either they did a very bad decision, or money and work simply weren't that important after all. 

Totally agree.   I was pointing it out so that hopefully the OP would confirm that it was an adjustment from ESTA.   Hard to have sympathy with that choice, since the effect is circumventing the lines.

[Daphne . 1,912]

12 hours ago, Hughughug333 said:

Yes and at the time we determined that it would be worth it since we have done three months long distance which was very hard 

Okay, so your husband is aware and okay with you not being able to work, so no need to feel guilty about that. 
 

Are you both very young? 3 Months long distance really is not a lot and I hope that you’ve been in a relationship together a lot longer than that? 

[Ontarkie 14,324]

~~Moved to Moving Here and Your New Life in America, from AOS from W,S & T- As the OP is not asking an AOS question~~

[ScarletWitch6x 69]

Are you a book reader? You could use this time to work through your 'to be read pile'  

 

Once you have a library card you can use an app called "Libby" which allows you access to a network of ebooks that you can read on an e-reader, phone, or tablet.