the wait is hell

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I am going to see my husband in 3 days.. I have seen him in December May and now August and wont see him till December. Hopefull I will have some kind of approval by then.. This wait is HELL. THIS WaIT IS PAINFUL. And I am sad but consumed with joy that I will see him North Africa in 3 days. This wait is HELL. No other words for it. Immigration is the hardest thing that I have ever dealt with besides childbirth. I miss my husband horribly and I love him immensely and I am glad there are people on the boards waiting along with me

[doodlebug 3]

It is hard at times but best to keep yourself busy in between visits. Think of all the things you want to get done before he gets here.

[angeljan 0]

Oh I know the waiting is so hard and for me sometimes I don't know if i will make it through the next day but I do cause of the love and hope that my husband and I carry for each other. But just hang in there. I hope and pray we all will get through this long waiting period and all of our S/O get their visas soon. Stay strong.

[Jasman0717 9]

I hear that, I was spending $300 a month in phone calls just to hear Claudeth's voice.

[a-jeanne 2]

My fiance and I talk about three times a day via Skype. If you both have computers, it doesn't cost a thing! We love it!

[Aymerlu 3]

I know how hard the wait can be. I agree with others. Keeping yourself busy really helps out a lot. You're also very lucky to be able to visit him often. Wishing you the best

[MelindaandTarek 0]

I hear you , the wait is tough. Happy that you can visit your SO though I am sure that helps some..I try to keep myself busy, planning things I want to have done...we talk on the phone and online everyday (when there is a connection) and I have to remain positive and tell myself that one day we will all be tog w/our SOs...although there are still days when I am quite down and blue...just stay strong...and it is good to be united w/others who can understand this process...as nobody else can....that is for sure...hang in there..........-melinda

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I hear you , the wait is tough. Happy that you can visit your SO though I am sure that helps some..I try to keep myself busy, planning things I want to have done...we talk on the phone and online everyday (when there is a connection) and I have to remain positive and tell myself that one day we will all be tog w/our SOs...although there are still days when I am quite down and blue...just stay strong...and it is good to be united w/others who can understand this process...as nobody else can....that is for sure...hang in there..........-melinda

I am in alot of credit card debt from plane tickets but I love him and i am so grateful that he is in my life

[Nagishkaw 510]

Enjoy your time together .

[Becky&Sam 0]

I am going to see my husband in 3 days.. I have seen him in December May and now August and wont see him till December. Hopefull I will have some kind of approval by then.. This wait is HELL. THIS WaIT IS PAINFUL. And I am sad but consumed with joy that I will see him North Africa in 3 days. This wait is HELL. No other words for it. Immigration is the hardest thing that I have ever dealt with besides childbirth. I miss my husband horribly and I love him immensely and I am glad there are people on the boards waiting along with me

I am happy that you are going to visit your husband, but take me with youuuuuu!!! I last saw my husband in 2/2007 and it feels like forever ago!! Waiting is hell for anyone who has to go through AP or extensive wait through any stage of this immigration process. Definitely this is one of the hardest things I have done in my life and has made me grow as a person. I hope that we are all reunited with our loved ones very very soon.

Everyone has had different lengths of waiting periods for whatever unknown reasons , but we all suffer no matter what the length of the wait is and no matter how long I am waiting, I am still happy for those that get their approvals. It is also a sad time too cause you wish that the approval for your SO would come too. This board is about support of anyone going through this process and I am glad that I have found it. It has been a great source of information, inspiration and support for me.

[Quinn 2]

You guys who get to visit your SOs are so lucky! I last saw the love of my life in February when I left South Africa. We won't see each other again until he gets his visa. If it weren't so expensive to get there, I'd be there now. It costs $2000 to fly there!

[anitacastillo 0]

I am going to see my husband in 3 days.. I have seen him in December May and now August and wont see him till December. Hopefull I will have some kind of approval by then.. This wait is HELL. THIS WaIT IS PAINFUL. And I am sad but consumed with joy that I will see him North Africa in 3 days. This wait is HELL. No other words for it. Immigration is the hardest thing that I have ever dealt with besides childbirth. I miss my husband horribly and I love him immensely and I am glad there are people on the boards waiting along with me

I am happy that you are going to visit your husband, but take me with youuuuuu!!! I last saw my husband in 2/2007 and it feels like forever ago!! Waiting is hell for anyone who has to go through AP or extensive wait through any stage of this immigration process. Definitely this is one of the hardest things I have done in my life and has made me grow as a person. I hope that we are all reunited with our loved ones very very soon.

Everyone has had different lengths of waiting periods for whatever unknown reasons , but we all suffer no matter what the length of the wait is and no matter how long I am waiting, I am still happy for those that get their approvals. It is also a sad time too cause you wish that the approval for your SO would come too. This board is about support of anyone going through this process and I am glad that I have found it. It has been a great source of information, inspiration and support for me.

Becky -- I was with my SO for his interview in April. After which his name is going through security clearance - ugh! I want to go visit him. But overall I'm sad (because after 18 mths of waiting for an interview, we are in name check HELL) and I don't want to be sad while I'm with him (does that make sense?).

I was really motivated to clean up our home for him, make space, etc before, but now I'm lazy and just get to work everyday. And I lurk in MENA because our sections of people moving quickly bugs me...

Take Care!!

[Henia 11]

I am going to see my husband in 3 days.. I have seen him in December May and now August and wont see him till December. Hopefull I will have some kind of approval by then.. This wait is HELL. THIS WaIT IS PAINFUL. And I am sad but consumed with joy that I will see him North Africa in 3 days. This wait is HELL. No other words for it. Immigration is the hardest thing that I have ever dealt with besides childbirth. I miss my husband horribly and I love him immensely and I am glad there are people on the boards waiting along with me

I feel you. Waiting ... then waiting some more... for something you have no idea when will come is terrible. One (major) reason I decided to forego seperation ... after we got married. I just about had enough of waiting, planning, meeting, then leaving, then pathetically sad enough to "break up" only to get back together after 5m of crying... thought it would be just suffer along with him in his country. LOL

Amusingly enough Wiki has made us a how-to LOL. But I personally love the countdown ritual: where you both do something to make the days pass with much more amusement counting down the days until you see each other again. I know we sure did this so years

[*Maureen* 0]

Waiting is the WORST! i can feel your pain. Hopefully, the time will go by and you will be reunited with your SO very soon.

Have a safe trip and enjoy your time together!!!

[aminah 6]

I'm waiting too.........27 more days until I leave to see my hubby. Inchaallah we will be out of AP and he will have his visa soon. Have a great time on your trip!