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Personally I'd test her true intentions by saying you've decide you no longer want to live in the US and you'll move to her country instead after marriage. If she genuinely loves you and just wants to be with you, she'll be very happy with that. If she's not, then there is your answer……...

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5 hours ago, appleblossom said:

Personally I'd test her true intentions by saying you've decide you no longer want to live in the US and you'll move to her country instead after marriage. If she genuinely loves you and just wants to be with you, she'll be very happy with that. If she's not, then there is your answer……...

Yes -- and very closely observe her facial expression and body language when you tell her this.

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18 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Yes -- and very closely observe her facial expression and body language when you tell her this.

We spoke about it she never expressed any anger or grievances towards the idea, she suggested we live together in her home country around her family and friends. I’ve never seen her act angrily or provocative towards me we’ve always communicated but since I’ve posed this fear on innumerable occasions she thinks I don’t love her bcuz I don’t trust her , she said she’s not going to keep trying to make me believe she’s not using me . I don’t know why she had so many American male contacts she said she met them before she knew me but that I’m different because I’m more authentic and sincere and not just searching for s*xual things 

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19 minutes ago, Jm1999 said:

We spoke about it she never expressed any anger or grievances towards the idea, she suggested we live together in her home country around her family and friends. I’ve never seen her act angrily or provocative towards me we’ve always communicated but since I’ve posed this fear on innumerable occasions she thinks I don’t love her bcuz I don’t trust her , she said she’s not going to keep trying to make me believe she’s not using me . I don’t know why she had so many American male contacts she said she met them before she knew me but that I’m different because I’m more authentic and sincere and not just searching for s*xual things 

She says she has two phones to save extra photos , most of her contacts are males from the United States and Spain , countries she been interested in moving too .. only thing is extra photos could be saved on a computer and plus you’d have to pay another phone bill. After asking her all of this she just goes silent and says I don’t trust her after all this time and Al the good things she’s tried to help me with bcuz I’ve been dealing with anxiety and whatnot 

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