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[Emancipation 2]

Question..

Would you stay in your hubby's ex's apartment over Christmas - as in one big happy family?

We've been asked.. I don't know how i feel about it?

It makes sence logistically .. but I'm not sure I can take it emotionally. But I also don't want to offend or make it a "big deal" ...

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Question..

Would you stay in your hubby's ex's apartment over Christmas - as in one big happy family?

We've been asked.. I don't know how i feel about it?

It makes sence logistically .. but I'm not sure I can take it emotionally. But I also don't want to offend or make it a "big deal" ...

Tough one. I think if you can't take it emotionally, then you've answered your own question. If you're on good terms with the ex then maybe...

[Krikit 1,165]

Tough one. I think if you can't take it emotionally, then you've answered your own question. If you're on good terms with the ex then maybe...

I agree with Mumsie. If the ex is quite normal, and no one harbours any grudges, I'd do it. Unless there's only one bathroom.

[Emancipation 2]

Question..

Would you stay in your hubby's ex's apartment over Christmas - as in one big happy family?

We've been asked.. I don't know how i feel about it?

It makes sence logistically .. but I'm not sure I can take it emotionally. But I also don't want to offend or make it a "big deal" ...

Tough one. I think if you can't take it emotionally, then you've answered your own question. If you're on good terms with the ex then maybe...

Well she's been in the past a right cow, but i think shes' turning around.. so.. i'm thinking that it's a gesture of peace.. which is something that I dont' want to just dismiss and be petty about..

*sigh.. ex things are so complicated..

Question..

Would you stay in your hubby's ex's apartment over Christmas - as in one big happy family?

We've been asked.. I don't know how i feel about it?

It makes sence logistically .. but I'm not sure I can take it emotionally. But I also don't want to offend or make it a "big deal" ...

Tough one. I think if you can't take it emotionally, then you've answered your own question. If you're on good terms with the ex then maybe...

Well she's been in the past a right cow, but i think shes' turning around.. so.. i'm thinking that it's a gesture of peace.. which is something that I dont' want to just dismiss and be petty about..

*sigh.. ex things are so complicated..

I should say recent past.. < six months.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Question..

Would you stay in your hubby's ex's apartment over Christmas - as in one big happy family?

We've been asked.. I don't know how i feel about it?

It makes sence logistically .. but I'm not sure I can take it emotionally. But I also don't want to offend or make it a "big deal" ...

Uh-oh. Toughie sister. My .02 cents, since you asked: it's your first holiday season in the US with the man, am I right? I say have it @ your place. invite the ex if she's done being a b!tch; but set that boundary.

Luvyah.

[Emancipation 2]

Question..

Would you stay in your hubby's ex's apartment over Christmas - as in one big happy family?

We've been asked.. I don't know how i feel about it?

It makes sence logistically .. but I'm not sure I can take it emotionally. But I also don't want to offend or make it a "big deal" ...

Uh-oh. Toughie sister. My .02 cents, since you asked: it's your first holiday season in the US with the man, am I right? I say have it @ your place. invite the ex if she's done being a b!tch; but set that boundary.

Luvyah.

Yep our first Christmas here in the US..

That makes sence.. except his ex lives in Atlanta, and we live in CT.. tee hee.. It's either us in a hotel over Christmas or us in the apartment with the children.. I think my hubby wants to be there where the kids are.. he doesn't care about the leftover #######.. he just wants to be there where they are.. so I may just have to "man up" and just do this.. *sigh.. the things we do for love tee hee

Edited December 12, 2007 by Emancipation

[SpiritAlight 1]

Question..

Would you stay in your hubby's ex's apartment over Christmas - as in one big happy family?

We've been asked.. I don't know how i feel about it?

It makes sence logistically .. but I'm not sure I can take it emotionally. But I also don't want to offend or make it a "big deal" ...

Uh-oh. Toughie sister. My .02 cents, since you asked: it's your first holiday season in the US with the man, am I right? I say have it @ your place. invite the ex if she's done being a b!tch; but set that boundary.

Luvyah.

Yep our first Christmas here in the US..

That makes sence.. except his ex lives in Atlanta, and we live in CT.. tee hee.. It's either us in a hotel over Christmas or us in the apartment with the children.. I think my hubby wants to be there where the kids are.. he doesn't care about the leftover #######.. he just wants to be there where they are.. so I may just have to "man up" and just do this.. *sigh.. the things we do for love tee hee

Okay now I see the missing pieces: the kids.

What you feel is what will manifest.

If you feel uncomfortable ask to go to a hotel.

You are completely allowed to do this after you get there and see how things are going.

There.

Good luck with it.

This is where a person gets to play BIG.

However never ignore your sixth sense(your gut)...it tells you what is really going on.

[Emancipation 2]

Okay now I see the missing pieces: the kids.

What you feel is what will manifest.

If you feel uncomfortable ask to go to a hotel.

You are completely allowed to do this after you get there and see how things are going.

There.

Good luck with it.

This is where a person gets to play BIG.

However never ignore your sixth sense(your gut)...it tells you what is really going on.

Darn it .. i was looking forward to pitching a fit!! But it is true.. it's Christmas and I've got to find somehow to make this work for hubby.. UGH.... and very true.. we can always go to a hotel if we need to..

This is going to make our trip VERY cheap though.. we are used to paying for a hotel!

[trailmix 77]

Ok you guys are all really nice and I guess I'm not, but oh well haha

I wouldn't stay at her apartment. If she has a mansion type apartment and you can have your own wing - that's one thing.

The thing I hear you saying is that she wasn't so nice up until the last 6 months when she has been trying. This would indicate that she is still holding some resentment. While you are many miles away it might be easier for her to control the anger, bitterness, whatever it is, but when you are all sharing the same living room it might be a different story!

That is not to say I wouldn't go, if I wanted to I would, but a hotel would be the only option.

[Emancipation 2]

Ok you guys are all really nice and I guess I'm not, but oh well haha

I wouldn't stay at her apartment. If she has a mansion type apartment and you can have your own wing - that's one thing.

The thing I hear you saying is that she wasn't so nice up until the last 6 months when she has been trying. This would indicate that she is still holding some resentment. While you are many miles away it might be easier for her to control the anger, bitterness, whatever it is, but when you are all sharing the same living room it might be a different story!

That is not to say I wouldn't go, if I wanted to I would, but a hotel would be the only option.

Tee hee. i don't think you are not nice..just a different way of looking at it.. and yep that's my fear is that i'll do something to piss her off and we'll be back at square one..

I think though if we state up front that if either side feels it's better if we stay at a hotel, then all it takes is saying one word and then we'll go to a hotel - no questions asked.. that way I don't have to explain if I'm feeling uncomfortable, and it doesn't end in a big fight if we cramp her style..

I know she works some of the holiday as well too so there will be times it will just be easier to be there so we can take care of the kiddies.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Ok you guys are all really nice and I guess I'm not, but oh well haha

I wouldn't stay at her apartment. If she has a mansion type apartment and you can have your own wing - that's one thing.

The thing I hear you saying is that she wasn't so nice up until the last 6 months when she has been trying. This would indicate that she is still holding some resentment. While you are many miles away it might be easier for her to control the anger, bitterness, whatever it is, but when you are all sharing the same living room it might be a different story!

That is not to say I wouldn't go, if I wanted to I would, but a hotel would be the only option.

Tee hee. i don't think you are not nice..just a different way of looking at it.. and yep that's my fear is that i'll do something to piss her off and we'll be back at square one..

I think though if we state up front that if either side feels it's better if we stay at a hotel, then all it takes is saying one word and then we'll go to a hotel - no questions asked.. that way I don't have to explain if I'm feeling uncomfortable, and it doesn't end in a big fight if we cramp her style..

I know she works some of the holiday as well too so there will be times it will just be easier to be there so we can take care of the kiddies.

I know many perfectly happy families that have relatives stay at hotels. Believe me, you'll be glad you did and that way she'll end up looking like the doodyhead if she tries something.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Ok you guys are all really nice and I guess I'm not, but oh well haha

Trailmix, you're a wonderful human being, not like that Demonic Aberration known as Len.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Ok you guys are all really nice and I guess I'm not, but oh well haha

Trailmix, you're a wonderful human being, not like that Demonic Aberration known as Len.

#######? This coming from YOU of ALL people?????????????? :angry: :angry:

OK, enough. I will not play anymore and will make new friends in the REAL Off Topic forum.

####### did I just say? Scratch that. Bad, bad idea.

and it's not 'demonic' it's 'commie'

[SpiritAlight 1]

NO wait wait!!

I would love the opportunity to play ref when fisty cuffs start flying.

:lol:

I'm kiddding, I'm kidding...

be good to eachother.

What you give out you get back

and

if you don't

walk away with your head held high that you did not stoop to cockroach level and did your very best.

ALWAYS SHINE (with grace) !

[SpiritAlight 1]

Hello VJers, me again...changing tacks for a moment; feel free to bring it back on track if needed.

A friend gave me a gift certificate for a massage.

I went today.

It had been so long since I had had a professional massage, that turning into a jelly fish and practically drooling was a good thing, nay, a great thing!

It kick started a much needed release of angst, frustration and anger.

Then on the Metro home, I fired up the iPod and was drawn to play U2's song Acrobat.

It had been ages since I'd heard it. Too many songs on that thingie.

OMG tears started rolling down my face, and so I put my sunglasses back on. Ha!

What a purge and release...played it 10 times in a row.

It felt like it was written just for me just for this time.

Have a

(close your eyes as this is not the video made by U2).

Do play it twice. B)

Let the healing begin.

Lyrics coming right up (I wonder if they'll get censored)...

U2 ~ Acrobat

Don't believe what you hear

Don't believe what you see

If you just close your eyes

You can feel the enemy

When I first met you girl

You had fire in your soul

What happened your face

Of melting in snow

Now it looks like this

And you can swallow

Or you can spit

You can throw it up

Or choke on it

And you can dream

So dream out loud

You know that your time is coming 'round

So don't let the bastards grind you down

No, nothing makes sense

Nothing seems to fit

I know you'd hit out

If you only knew who to hit

And I'd join the movement

If there was one I could believe in

Yeah I'd break bread and wine

If there was a church I could receive in

'cause I need it now

To take a cup

To fill it up

To drink it slow

I can't let you go

I must be an acrobat

To talk like this

And act like that

And you can dream

So dream out loud

And don't let the bastards grind you down

Oh, it hurts baby

(What are we going to do now it's all been said)

(No new ideas in the house and every book has been read)

And I must be an acrobat

To talk like this

And act like that

And you can dream

So dream out loud

And you can find

Your own way out

You can build

And I can will

And you can call

I can't wait until

You can stash

And you can seize

In dreams begin

Responsibilities

And I can love

And I can love

And I know that the tide is turning 'round

So don't let the bastards grind you down