Chances of having the interview waived

[dosoruguitas 0]

Hi! I’m 29F (F1 student at graduate school) and my wife is 35F (US Citizen). We’re a gay couple and since we met last year our relationship grew very intensely. I went to my country of origin for Christmas and when I came back she proposed to me, we got married couple weeks ago in civil ceremony because we don’t have family here (all of our parents live in other countries) and we don’t have many close friends in our state so we decided to keep it low key. I officially moved with her when we got married (after I could get rid of my previous lease) but I’m not on the lease because we’re planning to move to another apartment (she has a roommate). We only submitted 20 photos of both of us(3 of wedding pictures) and a joint car insurance. We just opened a joint bank account so we didn’t think it was ok to include it because we haven’t even got the debit cards yet.

Is there any chance that our interview could be waived? I get really nervous and just thinking about going through that with a person who can decide my future makes me anxious.

Any similar cases that have gone through the whole process? Thank you!

[jackiegringa 419]

12 minutes ago, dosoruguitas said:

Is there any chance that our interview could be waived?

Not really, interviews are part of the immigration process. Understand the forms your filling, have a conversation with your spouse about the answers you both have for basic questions like where did you meet, habe you met family, names and dates for important things etc.

 

You don't have to worry if your relationship is genuine. After AOS you will have ROC and possibly naturalization if desired. Get comfortable with immigration forms, norms and procedures. You can't let anxiety ruin a straight forward process, even if it's stress inducing and infuriating as times.

[Daphne . 1,852]

If anything, be happy with the opportunity to interview so they can see you interact as a couple! I would be more worried if they would make a decision based on documents only..

[dosoruguitas 0]

1 hour ago, jackiegringa said:

Not really, interviews are part of the immigration process. Understand the forms your filling, have a conversation with your spouse about the answers you both have for basic questions like where did you meet, habe you met family, names and dates for important things etc.

 

You don't have to worry if your relationship is genuine. After AOS you will have ROC and possibly naturalization if desired. Get comfortable with immigration forms, norms and procedures. You can't let anxiety ruin a straight forward process, even if it's stress inducing and infuriating as times.

Thank you so much for your answer! Neither of us has big families and they don't live in the US. I dont have siblings, I don't talk with my father and my mother lives in Spain. My wife's parents live in Mexico but they're not close at all... They moved back awhile ago. We just opened a bank account and hopefully we will be able to find an apartment before Summer...

[dosoruguitas 0]

58 minutes ago, Daphne . said:

If anything, be happy with the opportunity to interview so they can see you interact as a couple! I would be more worried if they would make a decision based on documents only..

Thank you for your answer! We'd have to behave ourselves because our main love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation and that would be weird in an interview with a third person...

[Daphne . 1,852]

48 minutes ago, dosoruguitas said:

Thank you for your answer! We'd have to behave ourselves because our main love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation and that would be weird in an interview with a third person...

I assume you are both adults and know how to behave in a professional manner?
 

The officer will ask questions for both of you to answer, it’s not complicated. 

[jackiegringa 419]

2 hours ago, dosoruguitas said:

Thank you so much for your answer! Neither of us has big families and they don't live in the US. I dont have siblings, I don't talk with my father and my mother lives in Spain. My wife's parents live in Mexico but they're not close at all... They moved back awhile ago. We just opened a bank account and hopefully we will be able to find an apartment before Summer...

Ok, this is a great thing to learn when dealing with immigration: answer what was asked. Don't say anything extra. It will make things straightforward.

 

This is advice you pick up by hanging around forums and people sharing their experiences, so find the AOS monthly thread for your process and read the posts. I'm mentioning this because I stated some examples of standard questions you might be asked and you replied with both families backgrounds and issues. The answer to "have you met family?" is yes/no if yes, when. Nothing else is needed and might save you extra questioning for volunteering information.

 

The more financial mingling the better, photos and affidavits are secondary evidence. Treat it as a job interview where you need to put your best foot forward. The immigration officer doesn't care about your love language and anxiety, they care if you got married to get a green card or not - this is very matter of fact what is being probbed in the AOS process. Good luck!

Edited March 30 by jackiegringa

[dosoruguitas 0]

2 minutes ago, jackiegringa said:

Ok, this is a great thing to learn when dealing with immigration: answer what was asked. Don't say anything extra. It will make things straightforward.

 

This is advice you pick up by hanging around forums and people sharing their experiences, so find the AOS monthly thread for your process and read the posts. I'm mentioning this because I stated some examples of standard questions you might be asked and you replied with both families backgrounds and issues. The answer to "have you met family?" is yes/no if yes, when. Nothing else is needed and might save you extra questioning for volunteering information.

 

The more financial mingling the better, photos and affidavits are secondary evidence. Treat it as a job interview where you need to put your best foot forward. The immigration officer doesn't care about your love language and anxiety, they care if you got married to get a green card or not - this is very matter of fact what is being probbed in the AOS process. Good luck!

Thank you for your advice! 

That's something that I read a lot and it just doesn't sound... modern to me. Of course we married because we love each other. I didn't marry specifically for the green card, but it's important for our relationship to be able to live in the same place as my wife.

 

[Letspaintcookies 2,310]

5 hours ago, dosoruguitas said:

Thank you for your advice! 

That's something that I read a lot and it just doesn't sound... modern to me. Of course we married because we love each other. I didn't marry specifically for the green card, but it's important for our relationship to be able to live in the same place as my wife.

 

"Then why can't she move to your country?" See what I did here? This could be a follow up question from the officer. We all understand what you mean, the officer will understand what you mean, but don't open yourself up to this kind of conversation and questions 🙂

 

All that aside, I was shaking in the first minutes of my interview. The officer noticed it when I pulled my work permit out of my wallet. She was super sweet and pointed out a couple of times that the interview is just a formality and that there's nothing to worry to calm me down.

[Cathi 5,746]

19 hours ago, dosoruguitas said:

Thank you for your answer! We'd have to behave ourselves because our main love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation and that would be weird in an interview with a third person...

You're both adults and should be able to behave for an immigration interview. This is your future you're talking about.

 

[Marieke H 2,496]

21 hours ago, dosoruguitas said:

Thank you for your answer! We'd have to behave ourselves because our main love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation and that would be weird in an interview with a third person...

An interview is not a demonstration of your love for each other. It's a discussion about the details of your application.

 

It is very unlikely that your interview will be waived. It is a long process, so you still have plenty of time to get ready for the interview.