I gotta say Thanks to you all

[brnidokiegurl 0]

I wanted to ask about his family also but didnt want to pry, dont you expect he will just turn it all around to be none of his fault....or maybe the family knows this flip side of him that wasnt seen before.

[♥JP♥ 5]

Dee, out of curiousity, how do you think his family will react to this? Did you have a good relationship with them?

my arabic is NOT good enough to relay all of this .. plus he made me erase all of their #'s out of my phone during one of our last fights

Well maybe the Imam can relay the story for you? I'm sure you can get the number from an old phone record. If he went to all the trouble to erase the #s then he knows he is being a jacka$$.

[amrssnowangel 0]

I have to wonder why he had you erase the family numbers????? Im soo sorry you have gone through this...

Alhamdolellah you and the kids are safe...May God be praised for His wisdom and mercy in your case. You could have been hurt worse..or the kids. Allahu Akbar. I am praying for you sister. Keep your eyes on Allah, He is most merciful and all compassionate. Stay close to God, He will carry you through. Sending you peace and love....

Salam Alaikum,

Faith

[Aymerlu 3]

i cant believe this is my life.......

Dee, you are going to pick yourself up from all this and you will move on. I'm not saying this is an easy thing to do, but I know you're a strong woman and you will do it. I truly beleive all the bad things that happen to us in life do happen for a reason and from it we become stronger. I once muttered those exact same words to myself and although I wouldn't want to repeat those things that happened to me in the past, I know that I'm a stronger person because they did happen. (I'm hoping that remotely makes sense) I wouldn't go back till you know he's gone. He has time to sit and dig through your belongings so he has time to sit and think about other things. Does he have any way to get back to home? Stay strong and keep your faith through God during all of this.

[amal 4]

{{{hugs}}} praying for you {{{hugs}}}

[♥JP♥ 5]

This is really bugging me. Why is he the one that gets to sit comfortably in YOUR home? I think you need go home and ask him to leave. If he doesnt leave, call the cops. If he asks you where he should, tell him its not your problem. He got himself into this mess, let him figure out a way to get out of it. He has not faced any consequences for his actions and he should.

[chri'stina 190]

Also sorry to hear about all this. I think what you are doing is the best decision for you and your kids.

I have one question though that kind of confuses me about the myspace. Did he know about your myspace? Only because I am not sure if you meant your myspace was private to non-friends or if it was private so that he could not see it? And then maybe you only made it private after the trouble started. Anyway just wondering if it was always private or just after the trouble.

Surely he had to know you had a past and how Americans might joke around in pictures. I guess really his problem is beyond that though.

[peezey 0]

The fact he comes from a place where same-sex affection is totally normal, even for men, in a way we aren't used to here, makes his blow-up even more ridiculous than it seems on the surface. He was looking for a way to ruin this.

[Becky&Sam 0]

I am so sorry..............I am very glad to hear that you and children are safe now. I have been thinking and praying for you and your children everyday. I sincerely hope that you and the kids can get to a place that you feel "Safe" and not threatened anymore in your own home!!

[peezey 0]

Dee, does he even know you are gone? You left without taking anything, does he think you just went to work?

[hollyw 0]

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. You are an exceptionally strong woman.

[AInfante-Saraireh 0]

fighting again.......

now i'm a lesbian... but yet having sex with other men.....

he went through MORE of my old boxes in my closets...... boxes i have checked in 10 years

he found a forgien language book that had lesbian terms.... not for nothing it was 10 years old.. and it had 5 languages in it

Dee, do you have anyone that can come get him?

Dee, I think you should have someone get him. Call the police and make a police report and let him be transferred to Immigrations to be deported. Cultural shock???? No way!!! This man is abusive by nature!

[peezey 0]

He isn't here illegally, he can't be deported. The police aren't going to take him anywhere, he is in his own house.

I'm hoping the imam can go to the apartment, get him, take him somewhere to stay overnight for a few days until his flight leaves.

Dee, I think filing a police report is a good idea. It solidifies this whole thing, and it can start to put into place a restraining order.

Edited August 10, 2007 by peezey

[Caladan 19]

dee, if you need (or want) to return to your house, please take along a friend or neighbor as a witness. Preferably a big beefy cousin or brother, but maybe ask the imam to come along with you.

[♥JP♥ 5]

He isn't here illegally, he can't be deported. The police aren't going to take him anywhere, he is in his own house.

I'm hoping the imam can go to the apartment, get him, take him somewhere to stay overnight for a few days until his flight leaves.

Dee, I think filing a police report is a good idea. It solidifies this whole thing, and it can start to put into place a restraining order.

I think the cops can actually request that he leave but they can't force him too. I know this has always been the case with my cousin and his wife. He gets drunk, comes home, she calls the cops, and they ask him to go somewhere for the night.

But I think you are right, the Imam is your best bet at this point. However I do think she needs to stress that she is scared for herself and her children at this point.