Adjustments of status

[kunleP 0]

Hello everyone,  I need help please. After getting my work permit,  my wife has refused to work. I pay all the bills, I have a discussion with her but she said doesn't like to work. I have never hear that before in my life. Now, I saw on her phone, she is already talking to a guy and I saw another text messages telling her mother I am just a baby sitter for her kids and that she will leave me soon. I worked 12 hrs Monday to Friday to be able to pay the bills.  All she is complaining about is sex, that I only have Saturday and Sunday to stay at home and all I could do is sleep and I don't have much time for her. After working 12hrs for 5days, I think I need some rest but my wife is not reasonable and I told her she needs to work so that she can help with bills and that will give me the opportunity to reduce my hours at work and spend more time with her. Now I can tell by what I saw on her phone, she is planning to leave.  She told her mother I am selfish and she will leave soon and am just a baby sitter for her kids and I saw she talking to another man already.  I have record of all am saying. Alot is going on with me, this is a lady I have done so much for and I can't believe she said am just a baby sitter and she is already talking to a man. What can I do please 😔.  I need help

[Dashinka 24,493]

Sorry to hear you are going through this.  It is unfortunate how some people treat others they professed to love and even went through the process of immigration to get that person here, only to show their true self later.

 

That being said, where are you in the AOS process I.e. when did you file, have there been any RFE’s, have you had an interview, etc.?  If this is a toxic relationship, make sure you document everything, and make sure you keep your documents safe. Has your wife been threatening your immigration process?   Beyond that, you need to decide where this relationship is headed, and determine the best course for you.

 

Good Luck!

[kunleP 0]

24 minutes ago, Dashinka said:

Sorry to hear you are going through this.  It is unfortunate how some people treat others they professed to love and even went through the process of immigration to get that person here, only to show their true self later.

 

That being said, where are you in the AOS process I.e. when did you file, have there been any RFE’s, have you had an interview, etc.?  If this is a toxic relationship, make sure you document everything, and make sure you keep your documents safe. Has your wife been threatening your immigration process?   Beyond that, you need to decide where this relationship is headed, and determine the best course for you.

 

Good Luck!

Thank you Dashinka. Yes, they requested for rfe a Month after we file and it been submitted and received by uscis and 8 months after the submission we got work authorization but we haven't been called for interview.  I have enough document with me. We file our taxes together last year, lease agreement,  insurance and more. Is there anything I can do. Thank you 

[belinda63 3,038]

Withdraw your petition/I-864. 

[Crazy Cat 41,845]

***Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes To Immigration Benefits***

[nastra30 2,284]

1 hour ago, belinda63 said:

Withdraw your petition/I-864. 

Op is the beneficiary.

[kunleP 0]

1 hour ago, belinda63 said:

Withdraw your petition/I-864. 

How would that affect my Immigration case. We haven't been called for interview yet

[kunleP 0]

14 minutes ago, nastra30 said:

Op is the beneficiary.

Yes, I am the beneficiary and my wife is the petitioner.  She is the one filling for me but the marriage is toxic at the moment.  I need help

21 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

***Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes To Immigration Benefits***

As a beneficiary,  how will that affect my immigration case and how will I go about it

[Dashinka 24,493]

35 minutes ago, kunleP said:

Yes, I am the beneficiary and my wife is the petitioner.  She is the one filling for me but the marriage is toxic at the moment.  I need help

As a beneficiary,  how will that affect my immigration case and how will I go about it

 

2 hours ago, kunleP said:

Thank you Dashinka. Yes, they requested for rfe a Month after we file and it been submitted and received by uscis and 8 months after the submission we got work authorization but we haven't been called for interview.  I have enough document with me. We file our taxes together last year, lease agreement,  insurance and more. Is there anything I can do. Thank you 

The main impact to you from an immigration standpoint is your wife as the USC/petitioner can withdraw her I864 from your AOS package.  This is why I asked where you are in the process.  If your spouse does do that, then your basis for adjusting status goes away, and by extension your EAD card becomes void.  If you are abused you may be able to refile using a VAWA waiver of which I am not very familiar with, but there are some fairly extension threads here (see below) with members that are quite knowledgeable.  If your spouse does not withdraw the I864, then at the interview time, you will have to convince the interviewing officer that you are in a solid relationship with your spouse.

 

Here are a few links that may be helpful, and keep in mind that even though VAWA is named "violence against women act", it is not just women that can use this option.

 

Good Luck!

 

 

https://www.ilrc.org/sites/default/files/resources/applying_for_aos_through_vawa_june_2021.pdf

[Boiler 45,486]

I initially read it that the OP is the USC.

 

On what basis are you adjusting? A K1.

 

Presumably there is a Joint Sponsor mind you surprised anyone would want to in this situation.

[kunleP 0]

4 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I initially read it that the OP is the USC.

 

On what basis are you adjusting? A K1.

 

Presumably there is a Joint Sponsor mind you surprised anyone would want to in this situation.

Am adjusting base on student visa

[kunleP 0]

15 minutes ago, Dashinka said:

 

The main impact to you from an immigration standpoint is your wife as the USC/petitioner can withdraw her I864 from your AOS package.  This is why I asked where you are in the process.  If your spouse does do that, then your basis for adjusting status goes away, and by extension your EAD card becomes void.  If you are abused you may be able to refile using a VAWA waiver of which I am not very familiar with, but there are some fairly extension threads here (see below) with members that are quite knowledgeable.  If your spouse does not withdraw the I864, then at the interview time, you will have to convince the interviewing officer that you are in a solid relationship with your spouse.

 

Here are a few links that may be helpful, and keep in mind that even though VAWA is named "violence against women act", it is not just women that can use this option.

 

Good Luck!

 

 

https://www.ilrc.org/sites/default/files/resources/applying_for_aos_through_vawa_june_2021.pdf

Thanks for your contribution 👍 

[Daphne . 1,853]

What status did you adjust from? It is kind of strange that the US citizen would go through all this effort of filing for the AOS and pay for all the fees etc. for a ‘babysitter’, especially since you mention that you work all day. 

How and when did you and your wife start your relationship and marriage? 

[Boiler 45,486]

9 minutes ago, kunleP said:

Am adjusting base on student visa

That makes sense, I would have a plan B are your still in F1 status, are you working on EAD or OPT?

6 minutes ago, Daphne . said:

What status did you adjust from? It is kind of strange that the US citizen would go through all this effort of filing for the AOS and pay for all the fees etc. for a ‘babysitter’, especially since you mention that you work all day. 

How and when did you and your wife start your relationship and marriage? 

And be the Sponsor with all that involves.

Edited January 12 by Boiler

[SalishSea 17,827]

I’d be surprised if USCIS doesn’t  look into this case for fraud.