Waiting for a NOA2 from CSC for your I-129F?

[TBoneTX 45,090]

TBoneTX, I just now read your post.......I'm SO sorry!!

James and I went through a stage like that last year between March and May and he had even told our friends that he was done with the relationship,thank God we were able to turn that boat around......I hope you guys get that chance too!! My respect on how you handle this painful situation!!!

All the best to you

Huggs

Nat

Thanks, Nat. If it's relevant and if you care to, let me know some details (by PM is fine, if you don't wish to clog the list).

Heartiest congrats to all who are moving up on the list! (Even to Mox the Groveler.) I continue to hang out here in order to share your tension and ultimate joy.

Edited January 30, 2008 by TBoneTX

[bakofoil 27]

TBone man, I promised my SO I wouldn't check VJ today, because it's freaking me out terribly and he reminded me that 'a watched pot never boils' and all that, but I suddenly recalled that you would probably be posting an update.

I don't have very much to say (for once) because I think you mostly have it nailed. What I can contribute is this; My SO is a Latino male and I can confirm that for him 'deciding on a mate' has definitely been about evaluating how the two of us have interacted in terms of mutual respect/care/love etc. Especially how I interact with his family. Family is ultra important in his thinking and I am certain that if I didn't get along with his family I'd have been history by now. Not sure the same would be true for me. I know these are factors that everyone considers in the course of a relationship but it is somehow more complex and defined with him so I understand what you're saying about her needs in the relationship.

I have enjoyed reading many of your comments on VJ because they are brimming with respect, empathy and care for others - as well as being incredibly humourous and positive despite what you've been experiencing lately. I get the impression man that you are a truly wonderful human being who does meet all those needs for her. It is tough conducting a relationship purely by email/telephone, but I am sure, in time, with the grace and patience you have shown so far, that she will feel more confident that you are the one. Si man!

I did babble on still

[Jeraly 4]

And because you are a glutton for punishment?!

Ahhh - your namesake babbles

[a-jeanne 2]

Oh my GOD - I'm number 2???????

Aw - it seems reachable.

[bakofoil 27]

And because you are a glutton for punishment?!

Ahhh - your namesake babbles

Can't keep away. I promised too

Oh my GOD - I'm number 2???????

Aw - it seems reachable.

I'm number 70 odd. I didn't look too closely - just sort of squinty eyed.

[TBoneTX 45,090]

I did babble on still

It's very sweet of you to be thinking of me. I am trying to attain the level of posters whom I consider more supportive and less selfish than I am.

It's interesting that your Latino acts and reacts as he does. Perhaps the "macho" culture is moderating. Lord knows that the women down there are past ready for that. I observed two other married couples in Ecuador, and both men were terrible Machos -- I was appalled at how they treated their lovely wives. Even my SO's dad is a Macho. We can't blame them, because that's the way they were raised.

And, since we already have The Prettiest, why can't we also have The Babbliest? Si, man?

Edited January 30, 2008 by TBoneTX

[Jeraly 4]

Does that make me the jeralyest?! Does that even make sense!?

[bakofoil 27]

I did babble on still

It's very sweet of you to be thinking of me. I am trying to attain the level of posters whom I consider more supportive and less selfish than I am.

It's interesting that your Latino acts and reacts as he does. Perhaps the "macho" culture is moderating. Lord knows that the women down there are past ready for that. I observed two other married couples down there, and both men were terrible Machos -- I was appalled at how they treated their lovely wives.

And, since we already have The Prettiest, why can't we also have The Babbliest? Si, man?

Oh, maybe it's because he grew up surrounded by women. His dad left when he was about 7 so two sisters and a very independent mother probably helped him out that way. He is incredibly respectful but still has a latin rage every now and again. He'll have one over me being on here - but I'm not telling

You've always been really supportive! Si man!

[TBoneTX 45,090]

Does that make me the jeralyest?! Does that even make sense!?

How about the Aly-Sunniest?

[TBoneTX 45,090]

Oh, maybe it's because he grew up surrounded by women. His dad left when he was about 7 so two sisters and a very independent mother probably helped him out that way. He is incredibly respectful but still has a latin rage every now and again. He'll have one over me being on here - but I'm not telling

You've always been really supportive! Si man!

Gawd, that must have been mortifying for him. Can you still Babble while being raged at? Si, man.

[bakofoil 27]

Does that make me the jeralyest?! Does that even make sense!?

How about the Aly-Sunniest?

She's definitely the sunniest poster on VJ! her enthusiasm exhausts me!

[Jeraly 4]

Does that make me the jeralyest?! Does that even make sense!?

How about the Aly-Sunniest?

Yay! I like that one better

[bakofoil 27]

Gawd, that must have been mortifying for him. Can you still Babble while being raged at? Si, man.

Yeah, he gets an earful sometimes, trust me

Usually I just laugh though. Bad thing to do because it really winds me up when kids laugh when i'm giving them a boll**king.

Edited January 30, 2008 by babblesgirl

[TBoneTX 45,090]

Yeah, he gets an earful sometimes, trust me

Uh, "Yes, Dear! No, Dear! Whatever you say, Dear!" (See? We have been previously trained, see man... er, si man.)

[bakofoil 27]

Yeah, he gets an earful sometimes, trust me

Uh, "Yes, Dear! No, Dear! Whatever you say, Dear!" (See? We have been previously trained, see man... er, si man.)

No I don't get away with that. But I feel better after having a rant sometimes.