Childsupport

[Ban Hammer 13,962]

I'm no expert either, but I know with my husband it's all spelled out very plainly in the agreement.

He pays for xxx / month for the children in child support payments

He pays for the health premiums 100%

he pays for 50% of the expenses that the health insurance doesn't cover

On top of that he pays extra (voluntarily) for therapy/ school etc. that are not covered directly in the agreement.

I know he & his ex wife negotiate a lot of the stuff that's not in the agreement themselves instead of going to a lawyer every time. You might want to ask your hubby to go over the child support agreement with you (he will have a copy) so you understand as well as give you some direction as to how they sort out the children's expenses between he & his ex wife. If something in the agreement is not being upheld you have the right to go to see a lawyer and fight for it (although you have to be prepared to deal with the consequences - bad blood, increase in child support etc if the rules of the state have changed etc.)

My hubby travels on our dime each and every time we go to see his children (16hr drive one way), i didn't know that stuff could be negotiated in an agreement.. interesting

Just some of my thoughts.. it's hard as wife #2 (esp when you don't have children yourself), but I value my husband's relationship with his children, and I respect that he and his ex wife are raising 2 beautiful children and try to do everything I can to support & keep out of the way of that. I want us to work this out as adults. My husband has done everything in his power to make sure that happens.

welcome to american divorce court! that with your husband sounds familiar - i pay $400 a month for one child, provide 100% medical (dental is provided by stepfather, i found that out after spending about $400 a year for two years on premiums!). no clue how she is doing in school or even if she attends church, as ex does not keep me informed on that.

i don't get to see her without her mother present. i don't get to have my daughter visit me, the few times i'd requested such have been denied so i gave up trying. visiting her is on my own dime and she's 2 states away. even though the divorce decree states i can have "possession" of her and specifies when, it's a lost cause. sure, i can go throw thousands of dollars at the problem, all i'll get is a headache and an empty wallet with no satisfaction. to me it seems when the father is responsible and pays child support, the ex wife holds all the cards, so get used to that.

for the op, get and read the divorce decree. it spells out everything. then realize that anything that applies to her does not really apply to her