Sponsored my husband and now divorce

[KikoandJudy 1]

I need some urgent help. I sponsored my husband on a fiancé petition and later sponsored three of his children to come to the United States from Mexico. After being married I found out what my children were telling me all along is true. I met him in Mexico and I am 22 years older than him. Soon after he arrived my only son died suddenly and during my grieving he tried to groom one of my daughters to have sex with him. He actually admitted to me that was true. I told him to leave and he did for a short while go to live with his brother in another state. He pleaded with me to come back and, unfortunately, I allowed him to. He has never contributed to the household even though he works and all he wants is my money which I have little of. I am now 76 years old and disabled. I finally told him I wanted a divorce but now, I read I will have to support him and his children for another 5 years. Does anyone know how I can get around this by filling a paper that claims states what he has done? I can’t afford an attorney. Thank you, in advance, for any advice you can give to me

[Boiler 45,445]

The I 864 has been used in Divorce Court.

 

Your best bet is if he naturalises, when did he become a Permanent Resident?

 

If you cannot afford a Lawyer then I assume there is not a lot he could do anyway.

 

Are they working?

[KikoandJudy 1]

He has been a permanent resident for five years and I never had the money to file for his citizenship. He and his 25 year old daughter who I also sponsored are both working and she just bought a new car while a drive a ten year old vehicle.

[Boiler 45,445]

He is certainly eligible to naturalise, no need for you to pay.

 

Working then they are unlikely to be able to enforce the I 864

 

He may have acquired 40 quarters of contributions anyway.

[Chancy 6,241]

*** Moved from What Visa Do I Need to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits, where similar topics about I-864 obligation and divorce are discussed ***

 

[Ontarkie 14,217]

I'm so sorry for your loss. 

 

With them working it is more likely your soon to be ex may end up paying you.  Go get a free or low cost consult with a lawyer, they can help you navigate things and may bill your ex their fee. 

Edited October 3, 2023 by Ontarkie

[Mike E 11,739]

6 hours ago, KikoandJudy said:

Does anyone know how I can get around this by filling a paper that claims states what he has done?

No. See https://media.ca11.uscourts.gov/opinions/pub/files/201914668.pdf

 

 

[JeanneAdil 6,489]

He was grooming your daughter and u didn't report this???

 

no girl is safe around a man that would do this

not even his own daughters or neighboring girls or any granddaughters

 

report the incident  and let the police investigate 

[beloved_dingo 1,976]

37 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

He was grooming your daughter and u didn't report this???

 

no girl is safe around a man that would do this

not even his own daughters or neighboring girls or any granddaughters

 

report the incident  and let the police investigate 

I think, perhaps, the word "grooming" wasn't quite the right word. OP is in their 70s - the daughter is most definitely an adult. It may be immoral and gross, but it is not illegal for a man to attempt to sleep with his adult stepdaughter. 

[Boiler 45,445]

1 minute ago, beloved_dingo said:

I think, perhaps, the word "grooming" wasn't quite the right word. OP is in their 70s - the daughter is most definitely an adult. It may be immoral and gross, but it is not illegal for a man to attempt to sleep with his adult stepdaughter. 

That is how I read it, presumably in the 40 to 50 range. Not that different to Husbands age.

[EM_Vandaveer 2,408]

1 hour ago, Boiler said:

That is how I read it, presumably in the 40 to 50 range. Not that different to Husbands age.

Indeed. Very messed up and immoral but not technically illegal...