update Help me day2 !!!!!!!!!!!

[shema/sach 0]

Will I called the job today and he's not there. he works at the front desk at from 6pm to 8:30am. Its about 2am in the morning in jordan. I call and someone else answered the phone. So They only closeure i get from this is that he is dead, or maybe he just decided at the last minute that he did want to marry me instead. I really dont know, but as much as it's hurts i can't let this consume me I a mother of a five year girl and she is my first priority and I guess i have to just move on. Ahmed was the only guy i've talked to since my divorce two years ago i refuse to put myself though this Ahmed will be in my prayers daily, and what ever the outcome All i couls say is that maybe it just wasn't my time lifes a ######.

WOULD LIKE TO JUST THINK YOU ALL FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND YOUR SUPPORT> I WISH EVERYONE THE BEST AND KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS ALWAYS.

Thank you

[Marriednow 4]

Gee, bless your heart that this happened to you. I feel so bad for you. This is indeed a bizarre story. You are right, either he is dead or he bailed on you and went off to his family to start over. I think if he was dead, they would have told you that on the phone---hopefully, somebody would.

But, either way, if he is going to be this irresponsible, you will be better off in the long run without him. With a young child, you need a stable man who will treat you well. It's true that time will heal you, even though now that sounds like a BS saying....

The sad truth is that this world is full of crazy ### people who just can't handle committment. But you sound like a wonderful person who deserves a special guy.

You are in my prayers that you get over this heartache!!! Debbie

[♥JP♥ 5]

When a door closes, a window opens. I wish you the best.

[doodlebug 3]

Honey I know it hurts. My first relationship after my divorce cut like a freakin' knife. It's like all the feelings from the divorce came back full force. Just count your blessings that things ended now before your daughter became involved too personally since as much as it hurts us it hurts the kids ten times as bad.

Focus on yourself, pamper yourself...you deserve it just because you're you! You have a lot on your plate raising a 5 yr old. I know because I was a single mom of two kids less than a year apart. Heck I still am since he's not here yet. It's hard doing this on your own. Focus on this time with your little girl. Those years are precious when they're that age and they grow up waaaaay too fast.

When you have healed you deserve a man who will treat you both like princesses...in real life! Trust me if I had it to do over again I'd shut the damned computer off and never look back. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband but it's too hard to go through this with someone living halfway around the world especially when you have kids to take care of.

[deadbird 2]

-hugs-

[Marriednow 4]

Honey I know it hurts. My first relationship after my divorce cut like a freakin' knife. It's like all the feelings from the divorce came back full force. Just count your blessings that things ended now before your daughter became involved too personally since as much as it hurts us it hurts the kids ten times as bad.

Focus on yourself, pamper yourself...you deserve it just because you're you! You have a lot on your plate raising a 5 yr old. I know because I was a single mom of two kids less than a year apart. Heck I still am since he's not here yet. It's hard doing this on your own. Focus on this time with your little girl. Those years are precious when they're that age and they grow up waaaaay too fast.

When you have healed you deserve a man who will treat you both like princesses...in real life! Trust me if I had it to do over again I'd shut the damned computer off and never look back. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband but it's too hard to go through this with someone living halfway around the world especially when you have kids to take care of.

Doodlebug--I know his is off-topic, but did your guy get his interview? What happened? Debbie

[doodlebug 3]

Honey I know it hurts. My first relationship after my divorce cut like a freakin' knife. It's like all the feelings from the divorce came back full force. Just count your blessings that things ended now before your daughter became involved too personally since as much as it hurts us it hurts the kids ten times as bad.

Focus on yourself, pamper yourself...you deserve it just because you're you! You have a lot on your plate raising a 5 yr old. I know because I was a single mom of two kids less than a year apart. Heck I still am since he's not here yet. It's hard doing this on your own. Focus on this time with your little girl. Those years are precious when they're that age and they grow up waaaaay too fast.

When you have healed you deserve a man who will treat you both like princesses...in real life! Trust me if I had it to do over again I'd shut the damned computer off and never look back. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband but it's too hard to go through this with someone living halfway around the world especially when you have kids to take care of.

Doodlebug--I know his is off-topic, but did your guy get his interview? What happened? Debbie

the guy never showed up at the original appt so he had it rescheduled for the 29th. now we're in ap.

[aya*abouelnasr 0]

I can only imagine the pain and confusement you are going thru right now. It is sad that he just disappeared without any explanation, and certainly not fair to you in any way. You know, it was 10 years after I broke up with my childrens father that I met my now husband. I was at a point in my life that I had started to doubt my own ability to love a man in that way again. It's sad that the first man you talked to seriously would treat you this way, but at least you know that part of your heart is not permantly frozen. I know it is early to say, but, you will love again. Take care and keep your thoughts positive and enjoy that little girl of yours,

[shema/sach 0]

THANKS for the kind words, but yhis really hurts like just think about getting to know someone over again makes me sick, maybe i'll just chiil for a while and just put things in gods hands.

[Jenn! 918]

So They only closeure i get from this is that he is dead, or maybe he just decided at the last minute that he did want to marry me instead. I really dont know

Please don't take this the wrong way, but it kind of sounds as though you saw this coming. If I had not been able to contact Wadi for several weeks (even a few days actually), and for some reason I could not get in touch with his family, I'd be getting an Arabic translator immediately and contacting everyone I knew that was his acquaintance, as well as the local authorities.

If this was someone in whom you were invested enough to marry, don't you want to make sure that he is ok?

[Caladan 19]

You poor dear. Take some time off from men and pamper yourself.

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

You poor dear. Take some time off from men and pamper yourself.

someone get a mop, this thread is dripping with sarcasm.

[Caladan 19]

I wasn't being sarcastic, charles.

[Rings 10]

I haven't posted, but I read your last thread and what happened with Ahmed and I am truly sorry to hear this, but he may have a good explaination who knows. Either way I know that your hurting and this is a hard thing to go through and these people are right.. you should take some time to be with your daughter and let time take your ache away. Men can come and go, but as long as you remember who you are and how strong you are, then you will beat this hurt ere the end.

Oh and stay clear of men who have too many assumptions and think they know it all too... for some reason most of them go by the name of "Charles" in my experience... just an opinion though...

[sara535 15]

I just think its a little wierd that he's not at his job either. you think he would quit his job as part of his dumping you? maybe there really IS something wrong, I dont think I would jump to the conclusion that I was being dumped, unless like Jenn said you already had some pretty strong suspicions.. Otherwise I would be worried as hell...