My beneficiary is not telling the truth...

[Mike E 11,733]

3 minutes ago, lifesaver786 said:

No

Good.

 

She cannot get a visa unless you submit I-864.

 

So do not submit I-864 until:

 

* you spend adequate time with her

* her health issues are resolved

3 minutes ago, lifesaver786 said:

I have not submitted anything

 

What about I-130?

 

[SinghSaab1 6]

1 minute ago, Mike E said:

Good.

 

She cannot get a visa unless you submit I-864.

 

So do not submit I-864 until:

 

* you spend adequate time with her

* her health issues are resolved

 

What about I-130?

 

Nothing has been submitted for her CR-1, and I mean absolutely nothing. 

She has at times mentioned how she would be willing to do a B2 visa, which as we know is NOT legal so flat out said hell no to that. 

[Ontarkie 14,162]

23 minutes ago, lifesaver786 said:

 I have thought about it. But I know her family does not believe in boundaries. I mean we were at a hotel down the street during a short visit, and her parents wants to come up to our hotel room at 4 am to give me medicine for my back pain where I told them over and over and including her, I am alright, I will get it sent over by the hotel staff or something to where she got upset why I am denying my parents access and called the police. 

That and my own mother is in kidney failure and on a transplant list where I have to watch out for her health to ensure she does not go into cardiac arrest. 

Thats the thing. When you have that idea in thinking you can fix things, you cant just walk away. I know she can get better and as you correctly said, only she will need to want to fix herself. Its just sad, her family is enabling her behavior and doubling down on her narrative blaming me saying "She was fine before the marriage, something happened afterwards, we are very concerned", yet initially her siblings spilled all the beans of how "she has destroyed many lives, so please save yourself, this is nothing new". Have all the proof in the world to refute anything they say. 

But I dont want to go down that route. My hope was this immigration process would in some ways "force" her to get help out of fear of being denied a VISA for the USA on the potential idea of someone lying. 

I also know, she will have some doctor write a bogus letter "clearing" her to come to the USA which worries me to what extent can they lie. 

I wish I could hug you. So much going on and the helpless feeling through it all. 

 

I truly do wish you the best. 

[TBoneTX 44,831]

15 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

the helpless feeling through it all

Absolutely.  Brother, maybe you've done this, but consider consulting with psychiatric colleagues.  It seems that the two distinct (and interrelated) issues are your wife's psychiatric conditions and her family's influence.  Rooting for an ultimately successful outcome on those two fronts and her uneventful immigration.

[pushbrk 12,624]

Since you haven't filed the petition yet, here are my thoughts about options.

 

You will notice the I-130 asks only about her address history and work history.  If she has no work history or there are gaps, that's fine.  No need to explain further.  Once you file the I-130 you are likely 12 to 18 months from needing to deal directly with any of this on further forms.  At that time, if you haven't resolved the issues with her medical history, you have some decisions to make.

This issue will only come up at the medical exam.

[JeanneAdil 6,402]

1 hour ago, SinghSaab1 said:

No I have not submitted anything. Anytime the conversation comes up. It stalls on the forefront of discussing her work/education history + medical history for the likely mentioned reasons above on having to disclose certain matters.

Its hard for families to "come clean"  when most do not understand the situation themselves and may feel they are "to blame"

they become enablers 

 

Not only will she need to disclose the mental health issues but be on a control plan of medications and therapy /   u know this  already

and CO should not approve a visa for someone who is a harm to themself or others

 

this is a hard road to travel and i wish u the best 

  get help for her - in Canada    insist on it

Edited September 28, 2023 by JeanneAdil

[SalishSea 17,550]

4 hours ago, pushbrk said:

Since you haven't filed the petition yet, here are my thoughts about options.

 

You will notice the I-130 asks only about her address history and work history.  If she has no work history or there are gaps, that's fine.  No need to explain further.  Once you file the I-130 you are likely 12 to 18 months from needing to deal directly with any of this on further forms.  At that time, if you haven't resolved the issues with her medical history, you have some decisions to make.

This issue will only come up at the medical exam.

It will very likely come up in the required RCMP records as well.

[pushbrk 12,624]

7 minutes ago, SalishSea said:

It will very likely come up in the required RCMP records as well.

It might well come up.  If so, that would tend to force some action in dealing with it.  A petitioner, in this case, always has the option of insisting the issue be dealt with openly and honestly BEFORE starting the immigration process.  Insisting on directly dealing with an issue, is the opposite of "abandonment".

[EM_Vandaveer 2,394]

7 hours ago, SinghSaab1 said:

Nothing has been submitted for her CR-1, and I mean absolutely nothing. 

She has at times mentioned how she would be willing to do a B2 visa, which as we know is NOT legal so flat out said hell no to that. 

Perfectly legal to try and get a B2 if she just wants to visit you on it & return to Canada after her visit...

[pushbrk 12,624]

14 minutes ago, EM_Vandaveer said:

Perfectly legal to try and get a B2 if she just wants to visit you on it & return to Canada after her visit...

Legal to try.  Unlikely to be successful, as she will need to disclose that she is married to a US Citizen.

 

US Permanent residents do not need a visa to visit Canada.  Do Canadian LPRs need a visa to visit the USA?

[SinghSaab1 6]

48 minutes ago, pushbrk said:

Legal to try.  Unlikely to be successful, as she will need to disclose that she is married to a US Citizen.

 

US Permanent residents do not need a visa to visit Canada.  Do Canadian LPRs need a visa to visit the USA?

Yes they do need a visa. She does not have a job, go to school or any property back in Canada, so very likely will be denied. Her family encouraged it and wanted to do an adjustment of status, but I actually got quite upset with them and said "thats fraud, that will never ever happen". 

[pushbrk 12,624]

34 minutes ago, SinghSaab1 said:

Yes they do need a visa. She does not have a job, go to school or any property back in Canada, so very likely will be denied. Her family encouraged it and wanted to do an adjustment of status, but I actually got quite upset with them and said "thats fraud, that will never ever happen". 

The lack of job, or property would be enough to assure failure if you were not married.  Doubly assured failure since her strongest ties are deemed to be to you anyway.

[EM_Vandaveer 2,394]

48 minutes ago, SinghSaab1 said:

Yes they do need a visa. She does not have a job, go to school or any property back in Canada, so very likely will be denied. Her family encouraged it and wanted to do an adjustment of status, but I actually got quite upset with them and said "thats fraud, that will never ever happen". 

Obviously trying to AOS on a tourist visa with preconceived intent is fraud, far be it from me to encourage that.

I simply meant, no harm in trying to get a tourist visa because IF successful at least she could visit you. No one can force you to file for AOS while she's visiting you.

Some time physically spent together may help clarify if the marriage has a future...

Edited September 28, 2023 by EM_Vandaveer

[carmel34 3,583]

3 hours ago, EM_Vandaveer said:

Some time physically spent together may help clarify if the marriage has a future...

Totally agree with this advice.  Given all the problems and OP's uncertainty, and 1-2 weeks physically together in two years of marriage, more visits to Canada to spend time with her, encourage her to get the help she needs, observe and see what happens with the relationship, is the best way forward.  The spousal visa from Canada to the US will take about 2 years anyway, so even if OP files an I-130 at some point, there is plenty of time after that to continue visiting her before deciding whether or not to continue with her immigration process at the NVC/I-864 point in time.

[Boiler 44,983]

You seem to be using Immigration as a means to avoid appointing a Divorce Lawyer.