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5 minutes ago, powerpuff said:

I’m assuming it’s referring to a separate website created by members here to present that data. 

I remember seeing a couple comments deleted which asked for donations from readers in the linked data site.  I'm not sure if that is the one referenced.  I wasn't aware someone was banned. 

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18 minutes ago, AndiB said:

The replies I am refering to are not misreading tone, using your imagery does not change things. My culture is very blunt and to the point, I know comments like that can be misread, I'm not mixing them. This is in reference to 100% rude and unhelpful commentary and pile ons. 

 

I hear numerous members with these complaints and see many OPs nope out if a thread or say they're not appreciating rude ess only for the rude person to double down 

 

If mods want to sweep it under rug of 'theyre just busy/blunt' then enjoy losing members you could have kept 

Are you implying mods should censure more….content or ban bad attitude posters ?

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3 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

Same here, but awaiting clarification.

It'll be this. People were (i think rightfully) upset they couldnt share the website or screenshots from it whereas you seemingly can for lawfully 

I-129f filed: 2022-10-21  ||  NOA1: 2022-10-24  ||  NOA2: 2023-09-21
NVC Received: 2023-10-13  ||  NVC in transit: 2023-10-24  ||  NVC Ready: 2023-10-26 

Medical: 2023-11-24  ||  Interview: 2023-12-14  ||  CEAC Issued: 2023-12-18  ||  VOH: 2023-12-20
Entry to US: 2024-02-14 || Married: 2024-02-29

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AOS filed: 2024-03-18 ||  NOA1: 2024-03-20 || Biometrics: 2024-04-01
EAD NOA2: 2024-04-02  ||  EAD Received: 2024-04-24
GC NOA2: 2024-07-30 || GC Received: 2024-08-08

 

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2 minutes ago, Family said:

Are you implying mods should censure more….content or ban bad attitude posters ?

I would just want people to be more courteous. What mod action, if any is taken is not for me to comment on

I-129f filed: 2022-10-21  ||  NOA1: 2022-10-24  ||  NOA2: 2023-09-21
NVC Received: 2023-10-13  ||  NVC in transit: 2023-10-24  ||  NVC Ready: 2023-10-26 

Medical: 2023-11-24  ||  Interview: 2023-12-14  ||  CEAC Issued: 2023-12-18  ||  VOH: 2023-12-20
Entry to US: 2024-02-14 || Married: 2024-02-29

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AOS filed: 2024-03-18 ||  NOA1: 2024-03-20 || Biometrics: 2024-04-01
EAD NOA2: 2024-04-02  ||  EAD Received: 2024-04-24
GC NOA2: 2024-07-30 || GC Received: 2024-08-08

 

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8 minutes ago, AndiB said:
11 minutes ago, Family said:

Are you implying mods should censure more….content or ban bad attitude posters ?

I would just want people to be more courteous. What mod action

I see. There is only a handful of frequent posters , perhaps you can DM them and point out the needed Attitude Adjustment.

When such comments are made directly in a thread ..mods will usually censure/delete them..so it’s not effective to simply call someone out in a post.

 

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DM may be effective, or it could inflame matters -- usually the latter.

Calling people out in threads definitely pours gasoline on the situation and clouds the discussion.

Your first step should be to report an issue.  Think hard (apply the imagery of above first), then report.

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06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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5 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

DM may be effective, or it could inflame matters -- usually the latter.

Calling people out in threads definitely pours gasoline on the situation and clouds the discussion.

Your first step should be to report an issue.  Think hard (apply the imagery of above first), then report.

Agreed, wouldn't wanna DM someone who probably doesn't wanna hear it. Reporting seems safest

I-129f filed: 2022-10-21  ||  NOA1: 2022-10-24  ||  NOA2: 2023-09-21
NVC Received: 2023-10-13  ||  NVC in transit: 2023-10-24  ||  NVC Ready: 2023-10-26 

Medical: 2023-11-24  ||  Interview: 2023-12-14  ||  CEAC Issued: 2023-12-18  ||  VOH: 2023-12-20
Entry to US: 2024-02-14 || Married: 2024-02-29

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AOS filed: 2024-03-18 ||  NOA1: 2024-03-20 || Biometrics: 2024-04-01
EAD NOA2: 2024-04-02  ||  EAD Received: 2024-04-24
GC NOA2: 2024-07-30 || GC Received: 2024-08-08

 

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8 minutes ago, AndiB said:

Reporting seems safest

You're absolutely right.  If any really recent thread has upset your sense of propriety as we've discussed it, feel free to file a report.  I'm out... uh, er (blush), I need to step away for an hour or so, but I or another member of the Mod team will take a look at it for you.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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22 minutes ago, AndiB said:
29 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

DM may be effective, or it could inflame matters -- usually the latter.

Calling people out in threads definitely pours gasoline on the situation and clouds the discussion.

Your first step should be to report an issue.  Think hard (apply the imagery of above first), then report.

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Agreed, wouldn't wanna DM someone who probably doesn't wanna hear it. Reporting seems safest

As you wish..though you must realize it invites even more censorship. 

My position on censorship is Musk-ish: none required. 
Nor do I believe any OP needs protecting..even sniper like ( perceived ( negative comments ( bad attitude) actually help one prepare for the unspoken , human -like thoughts . .of immigration officers 😂

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3 minutes ago, Family said:

As you wish..though you must realize it invites even more censorship. 

My position on censorship is Musk-ish: none required. 
Nor do I believe any OP needs protecting..even sniper like ( perceived ( negative comments ( bad attitude) actually help one prepare for the unspoken , human -like thoughts . .of immigration officers 😂

Lol asking people to be courteous is not censorship....

I-129f filed: 2022-10-21  ||  NOA1: 2022-10-24  ||  NOA2: 2023-09-21
NVC Received: 2023-10-13  ||  NVC in transit: 2023-10-24  ||  NVC Ready: 2023-10-26 

Medical: 2023-11-24  ||  Interview: 2023-12-14  ||  CEAC Issued: 2023-12-18  ||  VOH: 2023-12-20
Entry to US: 2024-02-14 || Married: 2024-02-29

---

AOS filed: 2024-03-18 ||  NOA1: 2024-03-20 || Biometrics: 2024-04-01
EAD NOA2: 2024-04-02  ||  EAD Received: 2024-04-24
GC NOA2: 2024-07-30 || GC Received: 2024-08-08

 

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Also been though immigration twice now, people don't need to be rude to 'prep you'. That's just an excuse 

I-129f filed: 2022-10-21  ||  NOA1: 2022-10-24  ||  NOA2: 2023-09-21
NVC Received: 2023-10-13  ||  NVC in transit: 2023-10-24  ||  NVC Ready: 2023-10-26 

Medical: 2023-11-24  ||  Interview: 2023-12-14  ||  CEAC Issued: 2023-12-18  ||  VOH: 2023-12-20
Entry to US: 2024-02-14 || Married: 2024-02-29

---

AOS filed: 2024-03-18 ||  NOA1: 2024-03-20 || Biometrics: 2024-04-01
EAD NOA2: 2024-04-02  ||  EAD Received: 2024-04-24
GC NOA2: 2024-07-30 || GC Received: 2024-08-08

 

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If I may add to it all, I think us, newer but not so recent members, definitely are feeling that the attitude in most threads is becoming super negative and a bit condescending.

I understand using the right immigration terms will result in better replies, and that people should do their research before getting into immigration processes, but well, as we all know, many do not. Many also don't speak English fluently. And when they come here asking for help, it seems they are turned down for not using the right word or sometimes being lost in translation, or for thinking something was right when it's actually wrong. Many jump to conclusions when there's not enough details to warrant that. 

Isn't the whole point of the forum to help those that are in the middle of their immigration journey? Some cases are more complex than others, but I would think most here deserve a honest, but polite and complete answer, no matter how silly the question may seem to those more experienced. Replying only "no" to a question (seem this a couple times) will only create more questions to those wanting to understand "why not". I understand replying the same thing over and over is annoying, but while moderators already replied one question thousands of times, the poster probably never asked that question before and never had any answers before. It's also not really a solution to report some answers because it's not like they broke any rules/it would seem the reporter is just picky about how things are worded.

I guess sometimes we all need to step back and see that one day we also found this forum without knowing anything at all about what we were entering in and I am glad most of us did find people that explained things well to us/helped us get through.

And I do think this feeling only grew after the aforementioned website was banned. It is the main source for K1/I-129f filers to be informed about accurate processing times and many members here could benefit from it without leaving VJ (hence why the thread that used to get daily posts every day is now dead). The donation links don't even exist there anymore, but if no outside links can be shared, then this rule should be consistently applied. Recent K1 filers overall are a group that has been overlooked by this forum recently, like we all chose an inferior visa when most of us had our reasons to do it, but that is a subject for another time.

As always, I over-write and repeat myself. But I hope this thread leads to a bit of reflection at how negative some replies can be and how it can turn people down from a once thriving community. I'm out.

Edited by Bh_sarah

February 2022 I-129F K1 Case Status Spreadsheet can be found here.
NVC Timelines spreadsheet can be found here.
NOA1:
Feb 22nd, 2022 | NOA2: May 12th, 2023 (444 days) | NVC Received: July 3rd, 2023 (52 days) | Case number: Aug 2nd, 2023 (82 days) | In Transit: Aug 15th, 2023 (95 days)  | Ready: Aug 17th, 2023 | Medical: Sep 22nd, 2023 | Interview: Sep 26th, 2023

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53 minutes ago, Redro said:

If you see someone post lawfully

Should be unlawfully (condoning or considering doing something illegal)?  Otherwise, great post.

 

By the way, it's unnecessary to report every questionable or disagreeable post in a thread.  Just report one (an early one, preferably) and ask for the thread to be reviewed for Terms of Service and tone.

 

The "tone" guideline is the Terms of Service provision that typically accompanies a violation of the "restrict or inhibit" provision:  "Make comments in a Post either direct or implied toward another member that are purposely designed to upset, antagonize, make fun of, belittle, harass, insult, or otherwise instigate an argument that takes away from the personal enjoyment of the Service by other users."  The "purposely designed" part is important.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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