interview summary

[doodlebug 3]

Hi,

I just got home and hour ago. Usama had his interview a few hours after he dropped me off at the airport so I haven't heard from him about it until just now. Here's what happened and I'm so pissed off it's not even funny.

1) LAST Sunday we both went together to the embassy and waited for ONE HOUR before they gave us a number. We were number one. After one MORE hour we asked what was happeneing and they said they forgot about us so they said wait here. We waited another hour (we're up to 3 hours now) and a woman called his name. She looked not too pleased with him and asked him for his papers. He gave them to her and then she said that she needed to look over his file. We sat back down and then after a few minutes she called us back up again. She told him to pay the DHL fee and then to sit down. We did and then after a few more minutes she called us up again and said the consular never showed up to work today and we'd have to come back another time to have the interview. She made it for the 29th at 8am.

I'll talk about the trip at another time since i'm fuming right now.

He went to the Embassy and was called after a little while. I don't have exact miniscule details that I want because the poor thing hasn't slept and has been crying since I left him so I got what I needed for info and then told him to go to bed.

He got a black guy who I guess hated Usama from the start. He asked him if he wanted to have the interview in English or in Arabic so he said English thinking it would look better. Then the guy apparently talked wicked fast and looked like he was annoyed at Usama for even being there for some reason.

He asked how we met.

He asked when we got married.

He asked WHEN WE FIRST HAD SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

####### IS THAT ALL ABOUT THAT IS NONE OF THIS LITTLE PUKE'S BUSINESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Usama told him that I was there for the date the interview was SUPPOSED to happen but the guy could have given two shits. He gave him the paper telling him that he needed admin review and that he needs to bring in two more pictures. (he had already brought 4 extras and gave it to him but they wanted two more)

Then he said they'll be in touch in 1 to 2 months.

Never took his passport.

That was it. I'm pissed. I want to complain to someone but I don't wanna fk it up you know??????

plus i'm jet lagged and my ankles look like elephant woman and this post posted too soon so I had to edit all this in.

i hate my life right now.

Edited July 29, 2007 by doodlebug

[~~~water~~~ 0]

Hi,

I just got home and hour ago. Usama had his interview a few hours after he dropped me off at the airport so I haven't heard from him about it until just now. Here's what happened and I'm so pissed off it's not even funny.

1) LAST Sunday we both went together to the embassy and waited for ONE HOUR before they gave us a number. We were number one. After one MORE hour we asked what was happeneing and they said they forgot about us so they said wait here. We waited another hour (we're up to 3 hours now) and a woman called his name. She looked not too pleased with him and asked him for his papers. He gave them to her and then she said that she needed to look over his file. We sat back down and then after a few minutes she called us back up again. She told him to pay the DHL fee and then to sit down. We did and then after a few more minutes she called us up again and said the consular never showed up to work today and we'd have to come back another time to have the interview. She made it for the 29th at 8am.

I'll talk about the trip at another time since i'm fuming right now.

He went to the Embassy and was called after a little while. I don't have exact miniscule details that I want because the poor thing hasn't slept and has been crying since I left him so I got what I needed for info and then told him to go to bed.

He got a black guy who I guess hated Usama from the start. He asked him if he wanted to have the interview in English or in Arabic so he said English thinking it would look better. Then the guy apparently talked wicked fast and looked like he was annoyed at Usama for even being there for some reason.

He asked how we met.

He asked when we got married.

He asked WHEN WE FIRST HAD SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

####### IS THAT ALL ABOUT THAT IS NONE OF THIS LITTLE PUKE'S BUSINESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Usama told him that I was there for the date the interview was SUPPOSED to happen but the guy could have given two shits. He gave him the paper telling him that he needed admin review and that he needs to bring in two more pictures. (he had already brought 4 extras and gave it to him but they wanted two more)

Then he said they'll be in touch in 1 to 2 months.

Never took his passport.

That was it. I'm pissed. I want to complain to someone but I don't wanna fk it up you know??????

plus i'm jet lagged and my ankles look like elephant woman and this post posted too soon so I had to edit all this in.

i hate my life right now.

[~~~water~~~ 0]

Its ok, just get them the two pics and im sure it will all be fine. It sounds like your in AR/AP welcome to the club. It really makes little difference or not if he had a chip on his sholder you did not get denied. Don't think to much about it you did all you could do and it seems things are on the right track even if it was less than reassuring , at best I think you just get someone indifferent. I hope you can rest, I know these next few days will be so hard.

Your in my prayers.

water girl

[JJWashington 0]

I am very sorry this happened. It will all work out in the end Just stay strong which I know is easy for me to say. You are in my thoughts and prayers

[doodlebug 3]

How do I know he was not denied? Everyone else had their passports kept. I mean he paid the DHL fee and they don't keep the passport???? Makes no sense.

And it's NOT ok. That was downright rude and inappropriate to ask about our sexlife. What's next if this is acceptable behavior? What position we prefer? Should we just bump uglies on the freakin' counter for proof?????? You have no idea how I'm trippin' over that question. My husband alhumdulilah kept his cool and stated that we waited till after we were married but ONLY 'cause I coached him that he should suck whatever they give him up but had I not done that and were that anyone else he would have ###### slapped the mofo.

[m&n 0]

OH MY GOD!!!.................my husband had the same guy........he has a reputation for being EXTREMELY slow and I've tried asking a few others on here about who they had as their consular officer and it seems that a lot of people who had him have been on AP (translate as the file has been sitting on a desk somewhere collecting dust) FOREVER....

my husband was asked the very same questions.....except for the last one which I think is COMPLETELY rude of him to ask.......why the he$$ do they need to know THAT???

and it sucks that they made you waste a day from your vacation the first time you went to the embassy.

I hope the rest of your stay was pleasant.....try to get some rest....you're probably exhausted.

[~~~water~~~ 0]

I agree that was out there and not appopriate at all. I have heard of othes I think it was Nouna they did not keep the passport and he did you give u the standard A/AP reply.

obviously the interviwer was not kind. but maybe he was just trying to stress your husband and to see his reactions under stress. They all have different styles I gather. You can't read to much into the passport thing though. It seems they do it both ways, yet another way they are inconsistent. Im sorry they treated you so badly , it's not right.

Edited July 29, 2007 by water is wide

[doodlebug 3]

OH MY GOD!!!.................my husband had the same guy........he has a reputation for being EXTREMELY slow and I've tried asking a few others on here about who they had as their consular officer and it seems that a lot of people who had him have been on AP (translate as the file has been sitting on a desk somewhere collecting dust) FOREVER....

my husband was asked the very same questions.....except for the last one which I think is COMPLETELY rude of him to ask.......why the he$$ do they need to know THAT???

and it sucks that they made you waste a day from your vacation the first time you went to the embassy.

I hope the rest of your stay was pleasant.....try to get some rest....you're probably exhausted.

Whoa back up...so the consular that interviews you is the one in charge of your case from start to finish????? I just assumed they willy nilly picked who interviews and then the papers with comments from interview went to another dept to finish up.

If that is the case I'm wondering if I can request that the case be assigned to a different consular due to sexual harassment. Any thoughts? I'm serious about this. This was just abuse. He was trying to get a rise out of him and I'm sorry but my sex life is OFF LIMITS to the US Gov't.

[m&n 0]

maybe we need to take a poll to see who had the same consular guy and how long they've been in waiting.....

OH MY GOD!!!.................my husband had the same guy........he has a reputation for being EXTREMELY slow and I've tried asking a few others on here about who they had as their consular officer and it seems that a lot of people who had him have been on AP (translate as the file has been sitting on a desk somewhere collecting dust) FOREVER....

my husband was asked the very same questions.....except for the last one which I think is COMPLETELY rude of him to ask.......why the he$$ do they need to know THAT???

and it sucks that they made you waste a day from your vacation the first time you went to the embassy.

I hope the rest of your stay was pleasant.....try to get some rest....you're probably exhausted.

Whoa back up...so the consular that interviews you is the one in charge of your case from start to finish????? I just assumed they willy nilly picked who interviews and then the papers with comments from interview went to another dept to finish up.

If that is the case I'm wondering if I can request that the case be assigned to a different consular due to sexual harassment. Any thoughts? I'm serious about this. This was just abuse. He was trying to get a rise out of him and I'm sorry but my sex life is OFF LIMITS to the US Gov't.

and don't feel bad about the passport thing.....they didn't keep my husband's passport and a few others on here also were not asked for their passports......

and so the waiting continues.............

[monnik 0]

Hi Doodle and welcome back! We missed you. I hope you get some rest and I completely know how you feel about the elephant ankles I got those after a long road trip to Monterrey, Mexico and I looked deformed!!!!!!!!

Anyway, I am sorry to hear that the interview was so screwy and that you guys have been upset. I also had the fear that the officer would ask about our sex life because my hubby would freak out! I don't know why they would ask stupid questions like that! Especially in a country where they should know it's disrespectful to talk about your wife in that way.............Come to think about it, it's disrespectful in any country! They are a bunch of jerks.

And about paying the DHL fees and them not keeping the passport, we did the same thing. Because we paid the fees before the actual interview. After our denial, they gave us back the passport, but I think they keep the receipt from DHL. Just to be sure, though. Make sure that when your hubby takes or sends his passport to the embassy that he makes a copy of the DHL receipt to go along with it. I don't think that you were denied, but a follow-up email might help you get a clear answer.

Talk about rude behavior! The consular doesn't show up for work and you guys get treated like #######! I had a similar experience in that during our interview, the consular stepped away from the window and took personal phone calls/text messages for about 20 minutes and walked around laughing with co-workers! So unprofessional!!!! And, I handwrote a letter to the consular general and had it hand delivered to their office ( what good it will do, I have no idea) and told them that our interview was not conducted properly and that the officer was rude. (btw, his officer wasn't the black guy, it was a chubby white guy)

Even if you do complain to their office, it will probably go into the huge pile of "we could give a sh!t" correspondence.

I hope you can find some comfort here in venting with your fellow VJers. And, I hope you get some rest and relaxation soon. You sound very stressed

(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

NIKI

[deadbird 2]

-hugs- you're in my thoughts, doodle!!!! If you're not already in contact with your local congressman. I would bring this to their attention instead of the consulate and they might be able to step in and help. No one deserves this kind of harassment and you guys already put up with enough b.s.

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

welcome back doodle

[~*Dorothy*~ 2]

Welcome back Doodle!

Sorry to hear about this awful experience. I hope that this is just a standard AP and that you will have your husband at your side soon.

Take care,

Dorothy

[mybackpages 0]

Doodle, it doesn't sound like you were denied....I've seen people going through Cairo post both scenarios they keep the passport and they give it back, so don't read too much into that. You are in for the hard part now..the wait through Cairo. I think the suggestion to write a well thought out professional sounding email asking about te interview is a great idea. Be sure to include the facts of your case while you were there and why you would like clarification.

Take care of yourself now above all else.

[lion_lioness 0]

Hi Doodle,

Sorry to hear what happened? THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME I'VE HEARD OF AN OFFICER ASKING THE PERSONAL QUESTION though, it happened to my sis and a few others she knows. I know you are upset, but I would let it go until after he has visa in hand. No telling what this guy will do if he gets wind that you're making complaints. By the way your hubby didn't get denied, just have him take a couple more pics and you'll be fine. Sometimes they keep the passports, sometimes they have the immigrant sent it in right before they are ready to issue the visa so no worries there.

I hope you are feeling better and get some rest.

LL