Fiancee visa proces

[Boxet838 0]

I understand, that I’ll need to disclose that with him. But I’m ussing medication for that , and visiting doctor every 3 months for new prescription and blood test

[appleblossom 2,238]

39 minutes ago, Boxet838 said:

I understand, that I’ll need to disclose that with him. But I’m ussing medication for that , and visiting doctor every 3 months for new prescription and blood test

 

All of which he'll find out about when you move and need to be added to his health insurance anyway. 

 

Telling him now isn't as good as being honest with him from the start….but it's better than telling him after marriage which would be an appalling thing to do.

[Boxet838 0]

I understand

[chrissandra 59]

1 hour ago, Boxet838 said:

I understand, that I’ll need to disclose that with him. But I’m ussing medication for that , and visiting doctor every 3 months for new prescription and blood test

How in the Gods name do you think of hiding something like that? And especially from a person who you love? Are you aware that you will have to have health insurance in the USA? You are aware that you will not be able to work for a significant period of time thus not being able to see a doctor without your partners insurance??? How would you explain to your partner that you need to see a doctor every 3 months? What if he had issues with it? 
 

I’m lost for words!!! 

[Daphne . 1,830]

1 hour ago, Boxet838 said:

I understand

His health is on the line here as well, protection might fail (I assume you are/will be intimate) and that puts his health at risk. 
 

Apart from the ethical and moral aspect, you have (and will want to have) to let him know this PRIOR to getting to the US. It is not fair to keep this from him..

[Joyoussinger 1,425]

4 hours ago, Boxet838 said:

Yes, we was meet in person and I was visited him in USA, also traveled together to Europe. I’m curious how immigration will interview us for fiancee visa at the Embassy. Because as I told in the begining, I’m living in Norway. So I’ll go in American Embassy in Norway, and he’ll go to American Embassy in USA, right? I don’t plan to hide hiv status, but I don’t think that my boyfriend would like to heard that, because that was happened 10 years ago when one guy rapped me. I feeling asshamed about that, and always blame myself, that I was in wrong place, wrong time and got hiv 

I'm so sorry this happened to you. There's no need to feel ashamed. You did nothing wrong and can never be blamed for being in the wrong place at the wrong time - ever. I do, however, understand that it's hard to talk about, but you do have to tell him. He may well feel betrayed if you wait until you're far into the immigration process. Best of luck to you.

[h02ejmajja 56]

3 hours ago, Boxet838 said:

I understand, that I’ll need to disclose that with him. But I’m ussing medication for that , and visiting doctor every 3 months for new prescription and blood test

I've been a nurse for a very long time - there are medications that someone can take who is NOT HIV+ to prevent them from becoming HIV+. If you are sexually intimate with your partner, it's very important that they know and understand this so they can protect their own health. In addition, there are 10 states in the US where it's a crime to NOT let a sexual partner know that you are HIV+. It's no longer the stigma it once was - there are many free clinics in the US and with proper medication, your healthcare and your partners are both protected - but I cannot in good conscience imagine entering into a relationship without your partner knowing. You can do your interview in Norway or any country that you have legal residency in (i.e. you can't just be a tourist in Norway)

[SalishSea 17,655]

4 hours ago, Boxet838 said:

Where they do interview in usa? Because I know, that apply for fiancee ir spouse visa online and need to wait sometime

You seem quite confused about the process.  Best bet is for you both to do as much reading as possible and educate yourselves.  The US citizen really needs to be part of this discussion.

[Mike E 11,739]

11 hours ago, Boxet838 said:

Will my boyfriend will know about my medical records from immigration officer?

If you have had sexual intercourse with your bf in a state or country that requires you disclose your HIV status to him, then you have broken the law. You will be required to disclose this crime as part of the end to end process to get a green card. If not the K-1, then surely the I-485.

 

I believe your U.S. immigration journey is over.

[Crazy Cat 41,469]

I could see a Consulate Officer hesitating to approve a visa if the US citizen is unaware of this situation.

Edited July 11, 2023 by Crazy Cat

[Beth & Achraf 328]

You must be honest with your partner.

    Especially if you had sexual relations while together........If so,  is there a chance now he can be infected?

 

[W199 327]

7 hours ago, Daphne . said:

His health is on the line here as well, protection might fail (I assume you are/will be intimate) and that puts his health at risk. 
 

Apart from the ethical and moral aspect, you have (and will want to have) to let him know this PRIOR to getting to the US. It is not fair to keep this from him..

 

And if he told him, then his bf could get medications that would prevent the spread of HIV to him,  I agree it is disgusting, sick, and cruel not to reveal this to him while having sex.  I believe some people have gone to jail over this. And he should too if you knowing have HIV and having sex with someone without their consent knowing this or even the opportunity to prevent the spread of HIV to themselves through the preventative medication that is widely used for this.  Its criminal, and not love.

 

The medication to prevent catching HIV is called PreP.   Its so sad you didn't give him the opportunity to take it before risking his life.  

Edited July 12, 2023 by W199

[Hamerenoh 0]

Hii 

 

[Cathi 5,740]

Why on Earth would you not tell him? You are putting his life in danger because you're scared of what he'll think, that's the most selfish and immature thing I've ever heard. And as others have already stated, it is illegal in several states to NOT tell him. 

I've been on this site for over 10 years and it never ceases to amaze me the things that people try to hide from their significant others. Not to mention the things thing people lie about and try to hide from USCIS and the embassy. This is one for the books.

[Joyoussinger 1,425]

I just want to add a note of hope for you, and I wish it had been the first thing I thought of. There's always the possibility that, by telling him, you'll find out how supportive he can be and that he really does love you. I know it takes courage, but you really need to do it without further delay. I really wish you the best.