Giving Birth in USA/Living in USA while in CR1 process?

[mugatu300 8]

7 minutes ago, Redro said:

I think @mugatu300 should consult with a lawyer… maybe call in to a immigration show that supplies answers… 

Already two steps ahead. Have a meeting with them this week. Don't know whats so ridiculous about my question. If emergency scenario and her OB doctor is in US and he wants her to go there to hospital, why would she go to hospital in Canada? 

[beloved_dingo 1,976]

4 minutes ago, mugatu300 said:

Already two steps ahead. Have a meeting with them this week. Don't know whats so ridiculous about my question. If emergency scenario and her OB doctor is in US and he wants her to go there to hospital, why would she go to hospital in Canada? 

Because adding the complication of being admitted into the U.S. as a tourist during an emergency is ridiculous! In an actual emergency, she would need to go to the ER/hospital that is closest to her. And labor can VERY QUICKLY go from routine to emergency (life or death) in a heartbeat. Why add trying to cross a border into the mix? 

 

Edit: Let me put this a different way - in an emergency, the person that should deal with the headache of crossing a border should be YOU, going from the U.S. to Canada, not your spouse in labor.

Edited July 10, 2023 by beloved_dingo

[mugatu300 8]

9 minutes ago, beloved_dingo said:

Because adding the complication of being admitted into the U.S. as a tourist during an emergency is ridiculous! In an actual emergency, she would need to go to the ER/hospital that is closest to her. And labor can VERY QUICKLY go from routine to emergency (life or death) in a heartbeat. Why add trying to cross a border into the mix? 

 

Edit: Let me put this a different way - in an emergency, the person that should deal with the headache of crossing a border should be YOU, going from the U.S. to Canada, not your spouse in labor.

How many times I gotta say its she who wants to give birth in US. Stop acting like its me. Calm down virgil 

[Ontarkie 14,216]

You mentioned giving birth with doctors and health care you trust in the US vs in Canada. While  I do not have experience in every state but as someone who had given birth in Canada to 4  and 2 in the US. I would take the Canadian health care vs the US health care regarding birth in a heart beat. Plus she lives in a great area for top level health care. In the US I felt like a number, I actually changed doctors because the other one was talking about scheduling my induction date before I was even pregnant.  I hate to say it but she will have better care and  more options in Canada for pain management, midwives if she wants and recovery. She will be lucky if she gets much care after the birth of the child and not completely ignored by the staff in the US. In a country that everyone wants to sue a doctor, they tend to want to control everything and that tends to lead to C-sections. Oh and the likeliness that she will get the same OB to deliver that she has had care from is pretty low. They rotate and she most likely will deliver with a doctor she has never met. 

 

By the way I lived on a border town when I lived in Canada, the amount of USC having their babies and going to prenatal care was super high on the Canadian side. They said it was just better and not because of dual citizenship either. 

 

I feel she wants you to be a bigger part of this and she may think it is better to drive back and forth to the US for OB care and delivery. Yes it is legal but the border can deny her entry at any point. OB's also do not have to take on a patient in the US they can refuse to see her. It would be better to keep all care in Canada and in the long run so much cheaper for you. Even if you traveled to every appointment. 

[Ontarkie 14,216]

If she also gets Canadian citizenship then all of your future kids can be dual Can/US. The ones born in the US just will not be able to pass on Canadian citizenship to their kids unless born in Canada.

[beloved_dingo 1,976]

57 minutes ago, mugatu300 said:

How many times I gotta say its she who wants to give birth in US. Stop acting like its me. Calm down virgil 

Well you've only alluded to it being her preference once, below: 

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Mother's first option would be to relocate from Toronto to Fort Erie Canada and have baby in Buffalo, NY so really I am asking on her behalf regarding the logistics of it.

But prior to that post, you said this: 

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 I feel more comfortable with the OB care in Buffalo compared to the Fort Erie/Niagara Falls area.

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I work in healthcare in Buffalo so I am comfortable with the OB care here as compared to Fort Erie/NF region.

 

Regardless, I'm fairly certain that when she is actively in labor or is in an emergency situation, she will do what is best for her and the baby in the moment, regardless of whatever plan you both have. 

 

Good luck.

Edited July 10, 2023 by beloved_dingo

[Boiler 45,445]

It seems odd to me that if you are living in Canada and call an Ambulance they would head for the Border?

[mugatu300 8]

30 minutes ago, beloved_dingo said:

Well you've only alluded to it being her preference once, below: 

But prior to that post, you said this: 

 

Regardless, I'm fairly certain that when she is actively in labor or is in an emergency situation, she will do what is best for her and the baby in the moment, regardless of whatever plan you both have. 

 

Good luck.

Thank you! I will let you now what the immigration lawyer says as per your suggestions. Very excited for this next chapter! 

[Ontarkie 14,216]

1 hour ago, Boiler said:

It seems odd to me that if you are living in Canada and call an Ambulance they would head for the Border?

They used to do it all the time pre 911 when they would rotate services and doctor's schedules. Now days this would not be the case. 

[Boiler 45,445]

1 minute ago, Ontarkie said:

They used to do it all the time pre 911 when they would rotate services and doctor's schedules. Now days this would not be the case. 

Surprised they would pay US fees

[Ontarkie 14,216]

2 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Surprised they would pay US fees

Me too, my mother was one that the government thought is was cheaper to send  her  I think it was Traverse city then to bus her to Toronto for a MRI. She has all expenses paid to go there spend a few days and back. 

[LBeachey 44]

22 hours ago, Mike E said:

Citizen of what country(ies)?

US citizen thru father born in wedlock though making assumption he meets residency requirement which seems likely. No idea on Canadian laws.

[Ontarkie 14,216]

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