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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: France
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When i was in Ireland and my fiance in the US ... i was working quiet a lot.

Also voluntering for different events, going to the cinema, being with friends...

i was trying to do not spend so much times alone.

Some days were hard when my husband was telling me that he was going to do this or that...

Some days were pretty hard....

But i was trying to keep busy as much as i could.

We were trying as much as we could to send letters to each others, little care packages, e mail and phone.

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I have been fortunate to be with steve quiet a lot during this process, but that does not stop me dreading leaving or being alone without him when i am.

When i'm feeling down i moan to him, my mom, my sis, my mates, i take my little girl out and do mommy and daughter things (she is 4).

I read, oh i try to fill my time where and when i can.

I always think of the guys and girls from UK and USA in Iraq being away from there loves, that normally stops me moaning as 6 months to a year away from your love is nothing compaired to what they go through, often with the added heartache of will they ever return!

I saw the British tv show, Supernanny the other day, there was a mommy on there whos husband was going off to Iraq for 20 months, with NO leave at all!! she had 5 children and was to be alone the whole time. NOW THAT put my time away from Steve into perspective i can tell you! :yes:

((hugs to the lonely out there))

K1

September 15 - 2005: NOA1

October: Waiting

November: Waiting

December: In Security checks

January 2006: Waiting

February: Waiting..Contacted Congress

March 4th: APPROVED

March 17th: NVC posted file to London

March 20th: London Receives file

March 29th: Receive package 3

April 13th: London Receives package

April 19th: Medical - June 13th: INTERVIEW......APPROVED!!!!

June 20th: ARRIVE IN USA

Time taken for whole process 9 Months

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AOS

October: 13th: Sent off AOS Package

November 3rd: NOA1

November 14th: Snail mail ~ NOA1 ~ Case moved to the CSC for faster processing.

November 14th : CSC has petition for me and my daughter.

December 14th: Biometrics completed.

January 17th: APPROVED AOS!

January 22nd: Green card arrives in the mail:))

Time taken for AOS - 3.5 Months

Finished for 2 years.

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  knight3131 said:

I was just wondering how can some of you deal with the loneliness?

Yesterday was my fiancee's birthday. She went out with her friends and brother to celebrate. I wish I was there. I felt sad and angry. The reason I was angry is because it may take 16-24 months for her to get her visa. She is from the Dominican Republic and USA embassy over there is slow.

I called her and we sometimes speak 3 times per day. Maybe 5-15 minutes in the morning and in the afternoon at nights we would talk for 1-3 hours. But it is not the same. Yesterday we spoke only for 5 minutes. She didnt have cell phone service where she was, over there you need to have three different phone companies just to make sure you have services every where. Her batteries ran out, so ill have to wait until the electricity to come back for her to recharge her cell.

I'll have to wait until July 27th to visit her.

Invest in a webcam. Serious..you still go nuts but at least I can see mine watch tv, clean the house, deal with the kids.....its on 24/7. Obsessed? yep

  wait4ever said:
  knight3131 said:

I was just wondering how can some of you deal with the loneliness?

The Consulate has been delaying our visa for close to three years now. We have received so many blue slips I have lost count. I get to see my fiancee an average of once a year.

I won't sugar coat it, it's a very painful situation to be in. I have experienced bouts of fear, depression, anger and rage (internal) for what seems a very long time.

When people are in opressive situations with little control they develop methods for thinking that strenghten their mental resolve. I found that emphasizing growth in our relationship through regular communication really helped. When we talk. I try not to spend too much time lementing about the situation and focus on communicating my love and devotion to her. When she expresses fear, I am understanding but use that opportunity to remind her that we are in this for the long haul.

A method I use to keep fear from encroaching on my thoughts is to divide the idea of us together as dependant upon a visa, from our own relationship. Our relationship is something between only us, and as long as we tend it with love, hope and patience it will survive this process. There is no room for the Consulate in our relationship. Although it effects our relationship by preventing physical presence, it does not stop us from loving each other. The visa is another thing separate from our relationship.

It also helps to minimize the importance of the Consulate and the immigration process (in your mind). You have to look at your life together as a long timeline. Assuming that you plan to spend the rest of your lives together, how long would that line be? Now how much of that timeline will be consumed with this awful, drawn-out process. Two years, four years, out of how long a life from this point?,fifty+? If you think of the Consulate or the process as a slow, dark thunderstorm moving over your head, you know that eventually it will pass, and the storm will go along and rain on someone else.

I hope this helps. It's never easy, but all you can do is learn to cope. Get up every day and just go about your life as best as you can in this situation. What more could you do?

This couldnt have been explained better. You have put this craziness into perspective for me. Thanks for that.

Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Canada
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I worked. a LOT.

Sure, we talked all the time, and planned our wedding, etc etc but having something other than the immigration process to think about helped me to deal with being apart. So fortunately, I was doing a contract that required quite a bit of over time, and mutlitasking of multiple projects, so it kept me from dwelling on how much I missed him.

*Cheryl -- Nova Scotia ....... Jerry -- Oklahoma*

Jan 17, 2014 N-400 submitted

Jan 27, 2014 NOA received and cheque cashed

Feb 13, 2014 Biometrics scheduled

Nov 7, 2014 NOA received and interview scheduled


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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Brazil
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I cry, I scream, i break things, i kick walls, i punch doors, things like that...

what can i do?

I spend all my time talking to him, i wake up and i message him, i go to sleep, i pray to Gpd and then i message my baby

and im serious, i break things...

ahah one day i was so pissed with this process, i broke my mouse and almost my keyboard...

all the letters are deep on the keyboard, its so hard to type and my dad almost killed me

its soooooooo hard to be apart

but i need to wake up and thank god for one day less on this process and ask for strenght to keep going

one day, soon, we'll be together again

for sure

and you too!!

Visa Approved!

Removal of Conditions

21/03 - VSC Received it

24/03 - NOA 1

27/03 - Check Cashed

08/04 - Biometrics received

July 8th - Approved

"Do you think who made the ears wont listen to you? Do you think who made the eyes, wont see? God is always watching you and listening to you"

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I cry! I write about it in my journal. I call Jon if I am feeling lonely. I just try to be honest with him. I don't have a lot to keep me busy and no friends around here to do things with so it can get to me sometimes. Just do your best, that's all you can ask of yourself. :)

Lifting of Conditions

*Sent form 05/15 to CA Service Center

*NOA1 Received 5/19

*RFE Received 06/2009

*Biometrics 07/2009

*RFE sent to CSC 09/2009

*Notification of RFE acceptance 10/2009

*Interview Date: December 4th!

*January 9th: Received 10 year Green Card in the mail :)

Filed: K-3 Visa Country: Sweden
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Sometimes I cry. Sometimes I am not the easiest person to be around. I get very angry sometimes. But my husband will call and we will talk what little bit we can and afterwards I feel better .. until I do it all over again .. like everyone here .. the times apart are lonely.

I-130

2005-09-23 Sent I-130.

2005-10-05 I-130 NOA1

2006-02-19 *touched*

2006-02-21 RFE

2006-03-09 RFE received by CSC

2006-03-29 I-130 NOA2

2006-03-31 *touched*

2006-04-01 *touched*

2006-04-12 NVC assigned case number

I-129F

2005-11-18 I-129F Sent

2005-11-29 I-129F NOA1

2005-12-27 I-129F RFE :(

2006-01-13 I-129F RFE Reply sent.

2006-01-25 *touched*

2006-01-26 I-129F RFE received

2006-04-04 *touched*

2006-04-04 NOA2 **approved!!!**

2006-04-20 NVC assigned case number

2006-04-21 case forwarded to embassy

2006-04-26 packet 3 received

2006-05-02 packet 3 sent

2006-05-04 packet 4 received

2006-05-15 Interview in Stockholm **APPROVED**

2006-05-23 My sweetie is coming home!!

Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Germany
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I know how you feel... I get angry, mad, frustrated, and mostly sad that I can't be with him. I cry a lot. He doesn't have family in Germany and he is also soooo lonely and it breaks my heart every time I'm with my friends and he calls... I always make time for him even when I'm with friends... Every time I wish he was with us...

So you're not alone... hang in there... I wish you're case moves fast... I pray a lot... It helps me cope with all the loneliness, frustration and etc...

Yasi :star:

3/24/11 Received 10 year Green Card in the mail - Done. Feels good :-) 'till we do this again for US Citizenship.

12/5/11 mailed packet for Naturalization

12/9/11 was received by USCIS.

4/6/12 received letter for fingerprint appn.

4/23/12 9am fingerprint appointment - done :-)

4/30/12 Recieved Letter for Interview - Sche. 5/31

5/31/12 Interview & Testing

5/31/12 Testing Approved - Waiting for next step

6/21/12 Rcvd email, placed application in the oath sched. que :-)

6/25/12 Rcvd letter - Oath Ceremony is on 7/11/12 @ 9:15am :-)

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I cry alot. In fact right now while reading this post. Today was one of those days that I really miss him. I guess its because we don't get to spend as much as we used to on the phone, IM or webcam. In fact, he doesn't even have a cam anymore. He is working two jobs to keep himself busy and save up money for the move.

We have been through hell and back over the past two years and we haven't even filed the I-129F yet.

Hang in there! There is always somebody here to talk too! It helps me to read VJ to see how other people are handling this journey.

K-1 Process

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April 20, 2006 - Filed I-129F (Ahhhhh finally!)

July 31, 2006 - APPROVED!

September 28, 2006 - Interview!

September 29, 2006 - VISA in hand!

October 14, 2006 - WEDDING DATE!

AOS & EAD Process

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December 26, 2006 - Darcy's last day of employment on his 90-day work authorization. Bummer!

December 27, 2006 - Filed AOS and EAD paperwork

January 3, 2006 - Receipt date of NOA1

January 11, 2007 - 'touched'

January 17, 2007 - transferred to CSC

January 19, 2007 - biometrics appointment

January 22, 2007 - 'touched'

January 23, 2007 - 'AOS touched'

January 24, 2007 - 'touched'

January 31, 2007 - 'AOS touched'

February 1, 2007 - GREEN CARD ORDERED!!!

February 5, 2007 - Received Welcome Letter

February 11, 2007 - received GREEN CARD!!

Lifting Conditions

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December 31, 2008 - filed I-751

January 10, 2009 - received 1-year extension letter

January 28, 2009 - biometrics

February 13, 2009 - 10-year green card ordered

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when i get my "episodes" i tend to just concentrate on what i have to do in the office...work,vj, uscis(checking maybe the application has been touched-yeah right! =p), vj, work and more vj. hah! then i come home and cry. it helps alot. :D i go thru phases of depression and optimism all in a span of about 8 hours. crying i guess is the best outlet. just to let all that heavy feeling in your heart out once in a while is good rather than keeping it all inside, bottled up.

i totally understand where each and everyone here is coming from. the few outlets that i have are friends, write blogs, look at past pictures of me and him, read some emails, listen to his music, daydream, write my letters to my mom. she passed away just about three years ago, and i vent in my letters to her, like i would in real life when i talk to her on the phone and imagine what she would say to me, advices that she would give to me if she were alive right now. I pray to god to thank him for alot of things, i thank him because even if i get sad, i can genuinely say that despite this situation, i walk in confidence and say that i am truly at the happiest point of my life. i still ask for more patience in dealing with this whole stressful process, i pray for everyone who is in the same situation i am. I ask god for strength to help me get thru this... in time, we will all be happy. i really am thankful i have come across this site, to know i am not alone in this and that we all have each other to encourage us and help us get thru these tough times.

i do agree with the whole webcam idea, it helps, quite a bit. then there's emails, chatting, VOIp, text messaging, prepaid phone cards, celphones, picture messaging. thank goodness for technology. imagine all those people who had to go thru the same process with just snail-mailed letters? i console myself with that thought. that if they can be together and they got thru these trials with just a pen and paper, what more can we ask for now that we definitely more than one way of communicating with each other

i hope this helps :)

04-24-09 I-130 Application received by USCIS

04-29-09 Received NOA1

08-17-09 Approved

08-20-09 NOA2 Received

08-26-09 NVC Received

08-27-09 Case Number Assigned

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Thailand
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  Ana Castro said:
I cry, I scream, i break things, i kick walls, i punch doors, things like that...

what can i do?

I spend all my time talking to him, i wake up and i message him, i go to sleep, i pray to Gpd and then i message my baby

and im serious, i break things...

Ana... sometimes you scare me!!! hahaha :lol: You are a true Latina!

Me... I just e-mail, call, sleep, call, work, call, drink, call, sleep... what can you do? :clock:

Just count the minutes, the hours, and the days... and pray that when it is all over, you will never have to be separated from your loved one again.

Everyone should remember these times, and actually cherish them, so that when things do get rough, and times get hard after the marriage, you can think back and remember what you went through to get there, and use that to find the strength to make it through anything! Let's face it... this is nothing in the grand scheme of things, because everyone is still madly in love, and still fresh. It's when you've been together for a couple of years, or have kids, and financial problems, or lose a job... that's when you have problems. Come on people... this is the easy part!!!

Edited by roi_aggie

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: South Korea
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Cry, talk on the phone with him, work (though it's hard, my work requires great attention to detail and 98% accuracy and it's hard to concentrate because I'm thinking of him), and right now....helping him out with his end of the K-1 process..(I tell him I'm his visa manager)...really wish I could do that in person. As everyone on VJ understands, this is an engagement unlike other people's...because we can't be together. But I know my process is taking much less time than others' on here so I can't complain.

Shannon 명철

 
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