What to do ?

[amal 4]

Very informative rahma.

I would love to see 1 of 2 things happen in the media...

1. every time they talk about something that happens, they have to say the religious background of the person... "mary, of a christian group, did this on this day" , "margaret, a devout catholic, was found guilty of..." , ahmed, from a muslim group, did thus and so".

I think you get what I'm saying

2. drop the religious categorizing alltogether..... <--- this would be so much better don't you think?

amal

by the way, my family all thought i was crazy when i told them i was going to marry a jordanian, muslim, arab. they said all the things that have been brought up.. wife beater, forced to wear head thingy, treated like a dog... now they have met him and they love him to death!!! time will bring the truth

[iceyspots 0]

I Think if you watch lifetime true stories on lifetime, and cold case files on A&E... you'll find men in general dangerous.. hispanic.. arab.. black.. white... sheesh..

[Together4ever 1]

My family wasn't very receptive either. I am, after all, marrying "one of those people". ARGH! However, even though they have not met Mohammed yet, my kids ADORE him. They chat, talk on the phone, see eachother on web cam, you know the drill. My parents are warming to him as they see how he is caring for me so devotedly from such a long distance. These things do have a way of working themselves out but bigotry in any form is maddening and hard to swallow.

It's a shame we can't all be seen as simply human beings who share the same hopes, dreams and even dysfunctions (haha).

Let's continue tearing down that wall of prejudice gals (and guys). Consider yourselves gentle warriors!

[morocco4ever 63]

Awww man....sorry about that. But you have enough stress in your life to let this piece of ####### sperm donor make it worse.

I think many of us have had to deal with this, so hopefully I can give you some advice that will help. Don't let them get to you, rather find the humor in it.

In ways you actually have already started it. You pointed out all of your dad's faults to his face...good job! Now just add a twist to it...a bit of sarcasm maybe.

For instance, when someone says to me "haven't you seen that movie Not without my daughter" I reply "OMG.....only Arabic muslim men kidnap women and children? Thank you so much for telling me".

Or when someone asked me why I didn't marry my own kind I said, "what, I should marry a woman? That's an option I never even thought about, thanks for the enlightenment.".

But the best thing is to remember, if these people can't accept your choices they aren't worth keeping in your life. Although this logic can be difficult in some situations I can't see how this could be so difficult with a man that can so easily abandon his flesh and blood.

Wishing you all the best!

[goldenheart 0]

For instance, when someone says to me "haven't you seen that movie Not without my daughter" I reply "OMG.....only Arabic muslim men kidnap women and children? Thank you so much for telling me".

Or when someone asked me why I didn't marry my own kind I said, "what, I should marry a woman? That's an option I never even thought about, thanks for the enlightenment.".

I swear people ask me the same questions. I think bigotry is so common and the best way to fight it is to educate them and move on. I'm now fighting the comments from employees at work, "WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT THIS LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?". I told them today that I don't think about the distance until someone (meaning them) bring it up. I gave them the analogy of a woman having a miscarriage. The woman will always feel the lost and pain of the miscarriage, however, when someone questions her about the miscarriage it forces the woman to relive the pain. Therefore, I would appreciate it if you would not force me to relive the pain of being away from my fiance. I think if you correct them in a firm and assertive way they will soon get the picture.

[honeyblonde 0]

Thanks for the laughs goldenheart, very good comebacks!

[goldenheart 0]

Thanks for the laughs goldenheart, very good comebacks!

Do you think they will get it???

[honeyblonde 0]

Thanks for the laughs goldenheart, very good comebacks!

Do you think they will get it???

If they don't, it's even better. Then you can look at them and say "Shwing!" and roll your eyes.

The first time my son did that to me I was furious, but I had to find out what it meant before I could be too mad.

Icyspots, you did an awesome job of throwing your dad's attitude right back at him. If you were my kid I'd be very proud of you.