Divorce and children

[Lemonslice 4,831]

12 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Just going back to the last post, there are lots of VAWA self help groups and mention of her spending a lot of time on her phone.

 

From the OPs perspective her going home would be the best option. I just do not see a win win.

Her going home, then I guess he has to see if he prefers to be a single dad to a newborn, or to rarely see his child.  Sad to see that with all the red flags they decided to get pregnant 😕

 

[Boiler 45,443]

4 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Her going home, then I guess he has to see if he prefers to be a single dad to a newborn, or to rarely see his child.  Sad to see that with all the red flags they decided to get pregnant 😕

 

Agree but we are where we are.

13 minutes ago, Mike E said:

She’s doing a poor job of playing the long game, and VAWA costs money.

She should have held out for the GC and for him to adopt her children

[NoMansLand2020 298]

19 minutes ago, Mike E said:

She’s doing a poor job of playing the long game, and VAWA costs money.

It's all Facebook and Tiktok stuff. 

[Mike E 11,739]

2 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

It's all Facebook and Tiktok stuff. 

Exactly

[Lemonslice 4,831]

11 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

It's all Facebook and Tiktok stuff. 

So, what is your plan now? 

[African Zealot 1,455]

Don’t be a sucker. Inasmuch as you’ve developed bonds with them, you would have no legal basis to keep them and the longer you stay with her before pulling the plug, the more locus she would have in demanding support from you for all the kids.

 

Pull her affidavit of support, you will thank us later for the advice. This relationship apparently was a train wreck ab initio!

[Timona 4,207]

1 hour ago, Mike E said:

She’s doing a poor job of playing the long game, and VAWA costs money.

Getting information from other Filipinas or new flame. 

[SalishSea 17,801]

4 hours ago, Mike E said:

Without a U.S. passport?

Obviously not.   And perhaps it was not clear, but I meant via a legal custody arrangement via the courts.  

Edited March 23, 2023 by Jorgedig

[Verrou 1,962]

14 hours ago, Mike E said:

Without a U.S. passport?

i dont know about PH, but in Indonesia, a child can have dual citizenship/passport until 21 yo and then have to choose one. 

 

in 2018 my friend got custody battle with her husband. both of wife & husband overstay their visa for 20 years, dont have any status in USA. they are married with 2 kids. both kids born in US and are US citizen. they have 2 passport ( USA and Indonesia ) because they are not 21 yet. she asked the judge to hold his passport, and the judge did. u know what happened? the husband took their kids back to Indonesia. how? he just reported that his passport is  "missing/stolen" to indonesian consulate in NY and the consulate give travel document to him without question.  obviously the mother is flabbergasted. 

 

so is it legal? of course not. but can it happened? it did happen. guess OP have to cover all ground just in case

Edited March 23, 2023 by Misscloud

[jan22 3,049]

Just a thought for the future, as you decide how to proceed:

 

If the baby does not yet have a US passport, but you think there is a chance she will try to get the baby one and leave the country, you should enroll the baby in the State Department's passport issuance alert program.  Once you do so, a US passport cannot be issued without you being notified and confirm you agreement to its issuance.  For details on how the program works, take a look at:

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/International-Parental-Child-Abduction/prevention/passport-issuance-alert-program.html

 

Has the baby's birth been registered with the Phillipine Embassy or Consulate?  If so, i don't know if there is a similar program for issuance of a Phillipine passport.

Edited March 23, 2023 by jan22

[NoMansLand2020 298]

15 minutes ago, jan22 said:

Just a thought for the future, as you decide how to proceed:

 

If the baby does not yet have a US passport, but you think there is a chance she will try to get the baby one and leave the country, you should enroll the baby in the State Department's passport issuance alert program.  Once you do so, a US passport cannot be issued without you being notified and confirm you agreement to its issuance.  For details on how the program works, take a look at:

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/International-Parental-Child-Abduction/prevention/passport-issuance-alert-program.html

 

Has the baby's birth been registered with the Phillipine Embassy or Consulate?  If so, i don't know if there is a similar program for issuance of a Phillipine passport.

The baby's birth has not been registered neither does the baby have a passport 

[Mike E 11,739]

1 hour ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

The baby's birth has not been registered neither does the baby have a passport 

Where was the baby born?

[NoMansLand2020 298]

1 hour ago, Mike E said:

Where was the baby born?

Baby was born in the US. But from what I have read, because her mother was still technically a Filipino citizen, the baby would have dual citizenship. 

[Mike E 11,739]

27 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

Baby was born in the US. But from what I have read, because her mother was still technically a Filipino citizen, the baby would have dual citizenship. 

And the baby has a U.S. birth certificate?

[Boiler 45,443]

1 hour ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

Baby was born in the US. But from what I have read, because her mother was still technically a Filipino citizen, the baby would have dual citizenship. 

Correct