Divorce and children

[NoMansLand2020 298]

Just now, Boiler said:

So what is the plan?

I've set up some appointments with a few attorneys to see what my options are. 

[Mike E 11,739]

6 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

I don't want to have to fork over any assets or monies.

Your wife will love this plan:

 

* wait 20 years

* she files for divorce

* she gets alimony for life

* she gets say 45 percent of your assets because she can claim 50 percent of the appreciation on your assets

 

”Your honor he was cruel to me, and forced me to go back to the Philippines, and it took me  this long to rebuild my life in my own country to afford a lawyer to sue for divorce”

 

I am out.

 

 

[Lemonslice 4,835]

1 hour ago, Mike E said:

Your wife will love this plan:

 

* wait 20 years

* she files for divorce

* she gets alimony for life

* she gets say 45 percent of your assets because she can claim 50 percent of the appreciation on your assets

 

”Your honor he was cruel to me, and forced me to go back to the Philippines, and it took me  this long to rebuild my life in my own country to afford a lawyer to sue for divorce”

 

I am out.

 

 

Also, in prior thread, other members pointed out that his wife had enough to file for VAWA for herself and the kids.  OP might be out of the equation 😕

[NoMansLand2020 298]

10 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Also, in prior thread, other members pointed out that his wife had enough to file for VAWA for herself and the kids.  OP might be out of the equation 😕

Not when she says she's only married me out of pity and that she would divorce me as soon as she gets her GC. 

 

Not to mention that she's got a temper and has thrown things around the house, especially when I was holding a 2 month old baby. I may have punched her in the shoulder a year ago, but she also stuck her hand in my face while I was driving and nearly caused me to hit some pedestrians. 

 

 

[Redro 4,611]

31 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

Not when she says she's only married me out of pity and that she would divorce me as soon as she gets her GC. 

 

Not to mention that she's got a temper and has thrown things around the house, especially when I was holding a 2 month old baby. I may have punched her in the shoulder a year ago, but she also stuck her hand in my face while I was driving and nearly caused me to hit some pedestrians. 

 

 

How will the adjudicators know about these incidents of violence? 

if your wife files VAWA, they won’t be knocking on your door to hear your side of the story. 
You won’t even know if she files VAWA or not… 

 

But, she will be able to tell her side of the story. 
 

[NoMansLand2020 298]

42 minutes ago, ROK2USA said:

How will the adjudicators know about these incidents of violence? 

if your wife files VAWA, they won’t be knocking on your door to hear your side of the story. 
You won’t even know if she files VAWA or not… 

 

But, she will be able to tell her side of the story. 
 

And how will they be able to corroborate her story? Otherwise anyone could claim VAWA. 

[Timona 4,207]

1 hour ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

Not when she says she's only married me out of pity and that she would divorce me as soon as she gets her GC. 

 

I said this earlier. 

 

So you know this but still trying to be a knight in shining armor? Divorce her before she does you. Let her and her kids struggle. The father of those kids did it. Why should you be the one fixing a broken pipe? 

 

And do you feel good when someone tells you they married you out of pity?

 

Plan a trip to the Philippines for everyone. When you get there, leave them, pass by Thailand, enjoy all you can and then back to US for you. She can't come back because she doesn't have GC nor AP.

 

You must be feeling that you scored some young hot Filipina whom you can't let go, despite all the mistreatment. In a few months after she gets her GC and leave you for whoever currently waiting behind the curtains, you'll be back here asking us how to deport her. 

 

Man, there's something wrong with you. I'm Mike-E-ing. I can't. 

[powerpuff 6,697]

54 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

And how will they be able to corroborate her story? Otherwise anyone could claim VAWA. 

They will not be corroborating it through you. They will not contact you and you will not get to tell them any details. This will be adjudicated completely without you. That’s how it works. This is not a criminal court case. I’m not saying all VAWAs are honest but this is done to protect victims of violence so they do not become victims again once the abuser hears about the VAWA case.

 

 

Edited March 24, 2023 by powerpuff

[Boiler 45,466]

51 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

And how will they be able to corroborate her story? Otherwise anyone could claim VAWA. 

Hopefully you have twigged.

[NoMansLand2020 298]

33 minutes ago, powerpuff said:

They will not be corroborating it through you. They will not contact you and you will not get to tell them any details. This is will be adjudicated complete without you. That’s how it works. This is not a criminal court case. I’m not saying all VAWA are honest but this is done to protect victims of violence so they do not become a victims again once the abuser hears about the VAWA case.

 

 

That's hogwash. She could lie 100%. And blame me for everything. She has no proof of anything. 

[powerpuff 6,697]

6 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

That's hogwash. She could lie 100%. And blame me for everything. She has no proof of anything. 

That’s not for you to decide.

[OldUser 6,628]

22 minutes ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

That's hogwash. She could lie 100%. And blame me for everything. She has no proof of anything. 

Hence, as most people suggest here - move out, divorce, withdraw your petition.

 

The rest is up to her.

Edited March 24, 2023 by OldUser

[Adventine 3,196]

I debated for a while if I should comment on this thread or not. But there are two points that are worth emphasizing:

 

1. If she's constantly on her phone, she could be constantly recording audio in the background. Anything that can be interpreted as a threat to her or to the kids can and will be used against you.

 

2. No matter what path is taken (divorce or no divorce, go back to PH or stay in US, withdraw or don't withdraw Affidavit of Support), it's going to cost a lot of money and heartache. It's up to you what path you want to take. Plenty of posters have offered their experience. Lawyers will be able to explain the finer details according to state and federal law.

 

I'm out.