Looking for work... Driving me crazy!!!!!!!

[ya falaha! 0]

Now THAT sounds like a plan.

Absolutely. You can be supportive without signing away your life on a $100,000 loan on a peabrained (pea is t3h new hare) fly-by-night scheme. First things first. Get the SSN, get the work authorization, get a job (maybe in the industry in which you hope to own a business), learn the language, get up your credit rating, find a colleague or business partner, put together a plan, then get the loan.

[♥JP♥ 5]

Absolutely. You can be supportive without signing away your life on a $100,000 loan on a peabrained (pea is t3h new hare) fly-by-night scheme. First things first. Get the SSN, get the work authorization, get a job (maybe in the industry in which you hope to own a business), learn the language, get up your credit rating, find a colleague or business partner, put together a plan, then get the loan.

To be honest, I think if I were to sign off on a business loan for him that it would put a great deal of tension between us. I'm pretty ####### and would probebly be up in his face all day about what he is doing wrong bcz he isn't doing it my way, LOL. So IMO he is better off doing it himself.

[Caladan 19]

And you can help with research, too. And when he is ready and prepared properly, the best thing you can do is relax and roll with the punches. That's when the guy needs your support and you to believe in him, once he's getting started, and you to breathe and not panic when the business falters. (They do. Daughter of a successful small businessman here. It blows.)

[♥JP♥ 5]

Everytime I go to a wedding, I always think about the vows they are saying:

For better or worse

richer or poorer

sickness and health

Its soooooo much easier said than done!

[tnh9479 1]

Student loans are usually really easy to get and you don't have to pay them back until you've been out of school for 6 months, and you can always request extensions. Also, the rates are tiny, like 2% right now, below prime, and the pay back monthly amounts are low, usually just what you can afford to pay, so this might be just $50/month and the interest is tax deductible. Oh, and they don't approve you based on credit, either. And depending on the time of year, there are Pell Grants, etc. You just fill out the FAFSA (federal student loan app) and you submit it, and you get back a list of what you qualify for. Grants normally you don't pay back. Of all my debt, my student loans are the least of my worries, plus I get a tax deduction on the interest every year. Plus, you aren't just approved for school fees, you can potentially get enough for living expenses, too.

Thanks peezey for stating this. My husband has been going to the local CC for a year now. He takes out minimal student loans to pay for furthering his education. One thing I would like to add...they really need to wait until they have their greencard before going to college. Why? Because it makes the whole financial end much easier. They can actually qualify for grants that way or, in the case of here in FL, can actually be considered as in-state residents because they are married to someone who has lived in the state for 5 years.

Twila

[peezey 0]

Student loans are usually really easy to get and you don't have to pay them back until you've been out of school for 6 months, and you can always request extensions. Also, the rates are tiny, like 2% right now, below prime, and the pay back monthly amounts are low, usually just what you can afford to pay, so this might be just $50/month and the interest is tax deductible. Oh, and they don't approve you based on credit, either. And depending on the time of year, there are Pell Grants, etc. You just fill out the FAFSA (federal student loan app) and you submit it, and you get back a list of what you qualify for. Grants normally you don't pay back. Of all my debt, my student loans are the least of my worries, plus I get a tax deduction on the interest every year. Plus, you aren't just approved for school fees, you can potentially get enough for living expenses, too.

Thanks peezey for stating this. My husband has been going to the local CC for a year now. He takes out minimal student loans to pay for furthering his education. One thing I would like to add...they really need to wait until they have their greencard before going to college. Why? Because it makes the whole financial end much easier. They can actually qualify for grants that way or, in the case of here in FL, can actually be considered as in-state residents because they are married to someone who has lived in the state for 5 years.

Twila

Everyone check out their state/county because in CA you are considered a resident after 6 months, married or not, green card or not.

[♥JP♥ 5]

Student loans are usually really easy to get and you don't have to pay them back until you've been out of school for 6 months, and you can always request extensions. Also, the rates are tiny, like 2% right now, below prime, and the pay back monthly amounts are low, usually just what you can afford to pay, so this might be just $50/month and the interest is tax deductible. Oh, and they don't approve you based on credit, either. And depending on the time of year, there are Pell Grants, etc. You just fill out the FAFSA (federal student loan app) and you submit it, and you get back a list of what you qualify for. Grants normally you don't pay back. Of all my debt, my student loans are the least of my worries, plus I get a tax deduction on the interest every year. Plus, you aren't just approved for school fees, you can potentially get enough for living expenses, too.

Thanks peezey for stating this. My husband has been going to the local CC for a year now. He takes out minimal student loans to pay for furthering his education. One thing I would like to add...they really need to wait until they have their greencard before going to college. Why? Because it makes the whole financial end much easier. They can actually qualify for grants that way or, in the case of here in FL, can actually be considered as in-state residents because they are married to someone who has lived in the state for 5 years.

Twila

Everyone check out their state/county because in CA you are considered a resident after 6 months, married or not, green card or not.

But to register for college in California don't you need 1 year + day before the semester begins? Thats what it says online.

[tnh9479 1]

Student loans are usually really easy to get and you don't have to pay them back until you've been out of school for 6 months, and you can always request extensions. Also, the rates are tiny, like 2% right now, below prime, and the pay back monthly amounts are low, usually just what you can afford to pay, so this might be just $50/month and the interest is tax deductible. Oh, and they don't approve you based on credit, either. And depending on the time of year, there are Pell Grants, etc. You just fill out the FAFSA (federal student loan app) and you submit it, and you get back a list of what you qualify for. Grants normally you don't pay back. Of all my debt, my student loans are the least of my worries, plus I get a tax deduction on the interest every year. Plus, you aren't just approved for school fees, you can potentially get enough for living expenses, too.

Thanks peezey for stating this. My husband has been going to the local CC for a year now. He takes out minimal student loans to pay for furthering his education. One thing I would like to add...they really need to wait until they have their greencard before going to college. Why? Because it makes the whole financial end much easier. They can actually qualify for grants that way or, in the case of here in FL, can actually be considered as in-state residents because they are married to someone who has lived in the state for 5 years.

Twila

Everyone check out their state/county because in CA you are considered a resident after 6 months, married or not, green card or not.

That's why I made sure to put FL in my post. However, the grant information, etc, is true nationwide. The local community college said it is MUCH MUCH harder to deal with a student who didn't come on a student visa and is not an LPR yet.

Edited July 25, 2007 by tnh9479

[peezey 0]

But to register for college in California don't you need 1 year + day before the semester begins? Thats what it says online.

yep, looks like one year now, it used to be 6 months, but that's going back 7 years now.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I just read the first post and had to stop and reply. I laughed so hard, not because I'm a sadist, but because this is all too familiar and my husband is not even here yet. I know this is coming because I'm already hearing it. They need to break that mold!

[Nasturtium 500]

You can also apply for in-state residency based on varying things like job transfers, etc. You just have to prove you have moved there and supposedly not for college (in most states). I've done it twice (in AR and in TN, and looked into it for AZ, NM, CA, OH, and OR) and both (actually all) processes were pretty similar. Here spouses will qualify in many states just by virtue of marrying a resident.

[Nasturtium 500]

Dee-- my husband asked me if you'd like him to explain things in Arabic for him. If so, PM me.

[ya falaha! 0]

Dee, my husband has also offered to help. You can PM me, also.

Dee-- my husband asked me if you'd like him to explain things in Arabic for him. If so, PM me.

[Nasturtium 500]

Dee, my husband has also offered to help. You can PM me, also.

Maybe our husbands have come up with the same conclusion then!

Mine thought maybe he doesn't understand. he said perhaps she is explaining it over and over, and perhaps he is agreeing or nodding or whatever but he just actually is not grasping it.

Personally, I'd probably take Moody's husband over mine (not because I don't think mine isn't awesome LOL) because he's Egyptian like Dee's husband and that could make some difference (can't blame him for being from country X where people are vicious dream-killers ). With mine it could come back to being the "confused Jordanian who sounds like my wife and just doesn't know what he is talking about!" But he's willing to help!

[Jenn! 918]

can't blame him for being from country X where people are vicious dream-killers