Visitation

[Chinyu 0]

I have seen my wife just ones and we got married 3weeks later, she's has not come to see because she can't take off from work and travelling is too expensive for now, is it enough for the embassy to grants the visa thanks 

[Timona 4,208]

Heheheh you have a tough mountain to climb.

[MMDG 106]

You only have seen your wife in your whole life one time then you got married 3 weeks after? 
 

Your chances are zero.

Edited February 24, 2023 by MMDG

[pushbrk 13,003]

1 hour ago, MMDG said:

You only have seen your wife in your whole life one time then you got married 3 weeks after? 
 

Your chances are zero.

This is not necessarily true, but the chances are not good, given you are also coming from Nigeria.  The Consular Officer won't care about her reasons for not visiting again.  Time spent together in person, is the strongest evidence of a genuine relationship BECAUSE that's what people in real relationships move heaven and earth to do.

[Rocio0010 5,580]

How did you meet her?

where did you meet her?

How old are you? How old is she?

 

[SalishSea 17,981]

16 hours ago, Chinyu said:

I have seen my wife just ones and we got married 3weeks later, she's has not come to see because she can't take off from work and travelling is too expensive for now, is it enough for the embassy to grants the visa thanks 

No.

 

Also, doing it that way raises  so many red flags that even getting an immigrant visa is unlikely.

[Chinyere Married 1]

It doesn’t matter, as long as you have enough evidence to prove you are married for love.

 

My sibling only met her husband once and that was during the wedding. He only visited that one time and she got approved for a 10 year green card. She’s still with him now for many years even after entry. However she submitted enough evidence that prove they were married and both families were in support and submitted evidence. 

[TBoneTX 45,663]

45 minutes ago, Chinyere Married said:

It doesn’t matter, as long as you have enough evidence to prove you are married for love.

 

My sibling only met her husband once and that was during the wedding. He only visited that one time and she got approved for a 10 year green card. She’s still with him now for many years even after entry. However she submitted enough evidence that prove they were married and both families were in support and submitted evidence. 

They got away with it, but in many U.S. consulates, this is playing with fire.

[Redro 4,611]

9 hours ago, Chinyere Married said:

It doesn’t matter, as long as you have enough evidence to prove you are married for love.

 

My sibling only met her husband once and that was during the wedding. He only visited that one time and she got approved for a 10 year green card. She’s still with him now for many years even after entry. However she submitted enough evidence that prove they were married and both families were in support and submitted evidence. 

When did this happen? What year? 
Which country? 
What was the age gap? 
How much time did they spend together before/after wedding? 
How long did the entire process take? 
Nigeria has a very long backlog. People are waiting 3+ years from filing to interview.

Anecdotal evidence is not helpful if you don’t provide the entire backstory. 
If this was for Nigeria then I would be very interested in hearing more… 

 

[Rocio0010 5,580]

9 hours ago, Chinyere Married said:

It doesn’t matter, as long as you have enough evidence to prove you are married for love.

 

My sibling only met her husband once and that was during the wedding. He only visited that one time and she got approved for a 10 year green card. She’s still with him now for many years even after entry. However she submitted enough evidence that prove they were married and both families were in support and submitted evidence. 

Your name is very similar to OP. Are you OP and do you have more than one account?

[Chinyere Married 1]

12 hours ago, Rocio0010 said:

Your name is very similar to OP. Are you OP and do you have more than one account?

What’s the meaning of an OP?

 

Whatever that is, I’m not.

[Chinyere Married 1]

12 hours ago, ROK2USA said:

When did this happen? What year? 
Which country? 
What was the age gap? 
How much time did they spend together before/after wedding? 
How long did the entire process take? 
Nigeria has a very long backlog. People are waiting 3+ years from filing to interview.

Anecdotal evidence is not helpful if you don’t provide the entire backstory. 
If this was for Nigeria then I would be very interested in hearing more… 

 

 

12 hours ago, Rocio0010 said:

Your name is very similar to OP. Are you OP and do you have more than one account?

It’s kinda weird that I told someone something I’ve seen someone experience and I’m asked numerous questions. I will answer very briefly. Age gap was normal. I already said they only met once physically and that was during the wedding period. They only did their honeymoon together and he had to return back to work so he had to leave. Country is definitely Nigeria. Process took less than 3 years in total. It was during Covid. It’s not my story so I can’t be saying more. All I know is they provided evidence without irrefutable doubts. Lots of evidence and that was it but they had met way before the wedding, just not physically. The 3 years plus thing was recent. Precisely around end of 2021. It wasn’t like that pre Covid and during Covid.

 

Each case differs. You can’t judge them with the same spoon. What they wanna be sure of is that it is love and there is evidence of love. Once you can show them you are truly in love and married for love and having bonding evidence of shared life, family and experiences, that’s what they wanna see. Sadly many assume that just being married gives you the permit to come in. Prove the love factor! That’s literally what marriage is about.

 

[Chinyere Married 1]

21 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

They got away with it, but in many U.S. consulates, this is playing with fire.

They didn’t get away with anything. They were/are in love. Got married and they are still together till date and life has only gotten better for them in every way together. They travel together, they live together, they do everything together. If it wasn’t love, they wouldn’t be together till now. Their families all know one another. 

[Chinyere Married 1]

On 2/24/2023 at 3:50 AM, pushbrk said:

This is not necessarily true, but the chances are not good, given you are also coming from Nigeria.  The Consular Officer won't care about her reasons for not visiting again.  Time spent together in person, is the strongest evidence of a genuine relationship BECAUSE that's what people in real relationships move heaven and earth to do.

That’s coming from a place of privilege. If I don’t have money to travel, I could move that universe and the money won’t come out. Real life can make you unable to travel to be with each other. Life happens! People lose jobs, fall sick after marriage, many factors occur, people even have cases they are dealing with that prohibits them from traveling.

 

If you are unable to visit, can you prove communication? How often do you communicate; emails, text, phone calls. People marry for real love and one has to leave for work for a while. It doesn’t mean they love each other less but real people in real relationships must find a way to communicate. That’s for sure! 
 

Show them what you got! Be true and real. If you don’t have money to travel to meet your spouse, take it easy on yourself and do the best you can. Most officers go by their intuition and evidence. It’s not an absolute rule in life to anything. What can you show that makes you both committed to the marriage? 

[Boiler 45,769]

45 minutes ago, Chinyere Married said:

That’s coming from a place of privilege. If I don’t have money to travel, I could move that universe and the money won’t come out. Real life can make you unable to travel to be with each other. Life happens! People lose jobs, fall sick after marriage, many factors occur, people even have cases they are dealing with that prohibits them from traveling.

 

If you are unable to visit, can you prove communication? How often do you communicate; emails, text, phone calls. People marry for real love and one has to leave for work for a while. It doesn’t mean they love each other less but real people in real relationships must find a way to communicate. That’s for sure! 
 

Show them what you got! Be true and real. If you don’t have money to travel to meet your spouse, take it easy on yourself and do the best you can. Most officers go by their intuition and evidence. It’s not an absolute rule in life to anything. What can you show that makes you both committed to the marriage? 

Long distance relationships come from a place of choice.

 

I am sure for most people they are totally impractical

 

Something to consider if you wish to participate.