Tips and Advice on Avoiding a Fraudulent Marriage

[Nessa 23]

Look for the visible clues...

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roflmao :energetic:

[mawilson 2,133]

Look for the visible clues...

Wow dude -- Jinky looks good!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Look for the visible clues...

Wow dude -- Jinky looks good!

[maxnma 1]

Look for the visible clues...

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At first I thought, why is there an arrow pointing at the plant?

[smoke20 0]

Look for the visible clues...

At first I thought, why is there an arrow pointing at the plant?

[KarenCee 3]

OMGOMGOMGOMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That almost made me spew my diet dr pepper all over the monitor!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

OMGOMGOMGOMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That almost made me spew my diet dr pepper all over the monitor!

I've got that Tom Jones' song, She's A Lady, stuck in my mind.

[Clarky and Tarah 0]

I think there are always "clues" but no one can be certain...I'd say you'd need to question if the SO:

1. Talks of visa VERY early in relationship

2. Asks questions on your financial situation early on

3. Talks of his contributions to his family

4. Says how much you are missed, but then doesn't show for days

5. Claims this woman is his "sister" and you see her being a bit to friendly

6. When his friends and family come WAY before you

7. If he asks for money for emergencies (surgeries, business start ups, education)

8. If there is a huge age gap (although this ALONE is not one, but can be...I have an age gap)

9. If there are always excuses not to meet family and friends

10. If he talks of other "friends" who married foreigners and how they got their visas

11. If his family starts to investigate visas with you and makes suggestions on FASTEST way to get one

12. When familly talks of how they'd love to move to your country

13. When he receives calls from "female cousins" and seems very close to them

14. When he talks of marriage shortly after meeting

15. When he or his family doesn't seem to follow the customs of culture or religion to accomodate you

i.e for middle eastern: accepting you unseen with no knowledge of your background, being very acceptive of your divorces and kids, to fast to accept that age difference.

16. Has had past visa applications that failed

17. Has had past engagements or marriages that failed with foreigners

18. Has unaccounted time (maybe a wife over there he has that time with?)

19. Wont give ALL his names (first, middle, last)

20. Doesn't share phone numbers, addresses or doesn't want you to call at certain times or mail his home

21. When he knows more about the visa process then YOU do

22. There is a language barrier and its hard to communicate

Any of these alone, may not be cause for alarm, but a combination of them with your gut feeling should send you running. These are just some things i've noticed USCIS lists as well as from women that it happened to.

With that said....marrying someone from a 3rd world country or with poor financial mean, is a risk. But how can we really know. So, live, love and laugh as if there is no tomorrow. All that matters is that we do right....then trust God will handle the rest.

I think that is wonderful advice.

I also think that photo is hilarious ...and disturbing.

[Jenn! 918]

That photo is not safe for work!

[Fandango 1,439]

When you visit your so called ' mate, ' and he/she asks you to buy an expensive gift it's fraudulent.

not always, HAH!

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

What about cultural nuances?

Cultural nuance? gotta love the SACK?

[Magnolia31 0]

When you visit your so called ' mate, ' and he/she asks you to buy an expensive gift it's fraudulent.

LMAO!

Look for the visible clues...

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Ummm, eeeeww LOL

Where'd you find that at? I need to post that on my brother's myspace page.

[rika60607 215]

:lol:

Too bad nobody told me before I got married!

May be I would volunteer to be some handsome Cuban's mistress!

:lol:

Seriously, the ones I've met were handsome and dedicated to their family...

What about cultural nuances? Like say Cuban men are known for keeping a mistress?

[rika60607 215]

I think there are always "clues" but no one can be certain...I'd say you'd need to question if the SO:

1. Talks of visa VERY early in relationship

2. Asks questions on your financial situation early on

3. Talks of his contributions to his family

4. Says how much you are missed, but then doesn't show for days

5. Claims this woman is his "sister" and you see her being a bit to friendly

6. When his friends and family come WAY before you

7. If he asks for money for emergencies (surgeries, business start ups, education)

8. If there is a huge age gap (although this ALONE is not one, but can be...I have an age gap)

9. If there are always excuses not to meet family and friends

10. If he talks of other "friends" who married foreigners and how they got their visas

11. If his family starts to investigate visas with you and makes suggestions on FASTEST way to get one

12. When familly talks of how they'd love to move to your country

13. When he receives calls from "female cousins" and seems very close to them

14. When he talks of marriage shortly after meeting

15. When he or his family doesn't seem to follow the customs of culture or religion to accomodate you

i.e for middle eastern: accepting you unseen with no knowledge of your background, being very acceptive of your divorces and kids, to fast to accept that age difference.

16. Has had past visa applications that failed

17. Has had past engagements or marriages that failed with foreigners

18. Has unaccounted time (maybe a wife over there he has that time with?)

19. Wont give ALL his names (first, middle, last)

20. Doesn't share phone numbers, addresses or doesn't want you to call at certain times or mail his home

21. When he knows more about the visa process then YOU do

22. There is a language barrier and its hard to communicate

Any of these alone, may not be cause for alarm, but a combination of them with your gut feeling should send you running. These are just some things i've noticed USCIS lists as well as from women that it happened to.

With that said....marrying someone from a 3rd world country or with poor financial mean, is a risk. But how can we really know. So, live, love and laugh as if there is no tomorrow. All that matters is that we do right....then trust God will handle the rest.

Okay, let's see.

I (the foreigner) meet the following:

# 21

My USC spouse meets the following:

#2, 7, 13, 14

Should I be worried he married me for a Russian greencard (such does not exist)?

:lol: