Sponsor Wants To Report Soon To Be Ex Wife For Work Authorization Violation

[AsientoDelNegro 13]

Sponsor Wants To Report Soon To Be Ex Wife For Work Authorization Violation.

I have countless text messages of her discussing working at a cafe and as a nanny, throughout our 2+ year relationship (1+ of those years married), before she received her EAD/social security card, etc, in November 2021, for authorization to work 2/2022-2/2024.

She has her 2 year green card, travel and work papers.

I want to inform USCIS of her work violations.

My only hesitation is my liability in all of it.

I was aware she was working and warned her many times about working without a Social Security number, but she never listens to me.

On a side note, we're divorcing because I have screenshots of her cheating on me, and her stuff is still at my place after I kicked her out of my apartment, which she is not on the lease to. I have since refused her to retrieve her stuff, and was attempting to get her to sign an affidavit that would simultaneously prevent me from reporting her for any reason, and for her to not lie about anything she may claim I have done (she lies a lot, to get what she wants) in order to expedite her citizenship journey. I also have texts from her and her friends detailing that I'm a good guy and that she never said anything bad about me during the entirety of our relationship. Her friends, who were at our wedding, even expressed that what she has done to me was stupid, wrong, embarrassing and crazy (after I showed them the screenshots of her cheating). Literally, I have the messages/screenshots of all of this.

I'm just paranoid because she has a video of me shoving her the day I confronted her about her infidelity because she refused to initially leave the apartment.

 

Also, through the affidavit, I wanted her to pay me for back rent and medical insurance benefits to the tune of $5,000. 

Now she has refused to sign. So I'm concerned about the texts I've sent her detailing the affidavit while warning her that I would report her to USCIS.

But I have half a mind to report her any way, and just be honest with USCIS about me attempting to recover expenses, and my culpability in initially just taking her word for it, when she expressed that working prior to an EAD was "...no big deal and everyone does it," her words. 


What do you all think?



 

[Crazy Cat 41,836]

Let it go, and seek happiness for yourself...

[K1visaHopeful 2,814]

11 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

Sponsor Wants To Report Soon To Be Ex Wife For Work Authorization Violation.

Too late.

 

11 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

 

I have countless text messages of her discussing working at a cafe and as a nanny, throughout our 2+ year relationship (1+ of those years married), before she received her EAD/social security card, etc, in November 2021, for authorization to work 2/2022-2/2024.

She has her 2 year green card, travel and work papers.

 

11 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

I want to inform USCIS of her work violations.

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

11 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

 

My only hesitation is my liability in all of it.

I was aware she was working and warned her many times about working without a Social Security number, but she never listens to me.

On a side note, we're divorcing because I have screenshots of her cheating on me, and her stuff is still at my place after I kicked her out of my apartment, which she is not on the lease to.

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

11 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

I have since refused her to retrieve her stuff,

Also illegal.

11 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

and was attempting to get her to sign an affidavit that would simultaneously prevent me from reporting her for any reason, and for her to not lie about anything she may claim I have done (she lies a lot, to get what she wants) in order to expedite her citizenship journey. I also have texts from her and her friends detailing that I'm a good guy and that she never said anything bad about me during the entirety of our relationship. Her friends, who were at our wedding, even expressed that what she has done to me was stupid, wrong, embarrassing and crazy (after I showed them the screenshots of her cheating). Literally, I have the messages/screenshots of all of this.

I'm just paranoid because she has a video of me shoving her the day I confronted her about her infidelity because she refused to initially leave the apartment.

Again....assault. 

11 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

Also, through the affidavit, I wanted her to pay me for back rent and medical insurance benefits to the tune of $5,000. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

11 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

Now she has refused to sign. So I'm concerned about the texts I've sent her detailing the affidavit while warning her that I would report her to USCIS.

But I have half a mind to report her any way, and just be honest with USCIS about me attempting to recover expenses, and my culpability in initially just taking her word for it, when she expressed that working prior to an EAD was "...no big deal and everyone does it," her words. 


What do you all think?



 

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

[Boiler 45,467]

Agree you need to Lawyer up.

 

You still have your responsibility under the I 864 you signed. 

[AsientoDelNegro 13]

11 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Too late.

 

 

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

Also illegal.

Again....assault. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

..first of all, the domestic violence claim really irks me. Some people seem to have no idea what undeniable domestic violence is, and you throw it around casually without considering the one you're accusing. 

I'm sorry, but shoving someone once (after you catch them cheating and they refuse to leave when you tell them too (regardless of the legality of asking them to leave, that neither of us had awareness of at the time)), who popped right back up and wasn't injured in any way, is not domestic violence. Get real. She has never had any scares, bruises or injuries on her, ever, from anything I did to her. 

And if that is the standard for domestic violence, then I have a video of her aggressively taking my phone out of my hands with a scowl on her face. 

Also, there was one time we were arguing (usually about her never listening to me, and about me suspecting her of cheating or sketchy behavior and her vehemently denying it) and I was attempting to leave the apartment without telling her where I was going, and after she asked me where I was going; and then she puts her hands on me and pulls me back in the apartment, from the hallway, and wouldn't let me leave. 

There was another occasion where a similar argument occurred and I stepped out again, and was walking outside, and she catches up to me and doesn't let me out of her sight and harasses (since we're using legal terms with reckless abandon) me by refusing to let me walk alone. 

So if we're going to stark throwing accusations around, then we're going to have to consider her indiscretions also. 

I'm sorry, but she's not the dandelion you're making her out to be. Christ. Have an imagination and grow up and be sensible. 

I'm taller than her, yes, but she is a tall athletic woman and is very vocal and not shy at all. You have no idea what you're talking about. 


 

[iwannaplay54 985]

51 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

Sponsor Wants To Report Soon To Be Ex Wife For Work Authorization Violation.

I have countless text messages of her discussing working at a cafe and as a nanny, throughout our 2+ year relationship (1+ of those years married), before she received her EAD/social security card, etc, in November 2021, for authorization to work 2/2022-2/2024.

She has her 2 year green card, travel and work papers.

I want to inform USCIS of her work violations.

My only hesitation is my liability in all of it.

I was aware she was working and warned her many times about working without a Social Security number, but she never listens to me.

On a side note, we're divorcing because I have screenshots of her cheating on me, and her stuff is still at my place after I kicked her out of my apartment, which she is not on the lease to. I have since refused her to retrieve her stuff, and was attempting to get her to sign an affidavit that would simultaneously prevent me from reporting her for any reason, and for her to not lie about anything she may claim I have done (she lies a lot, to get what she wants) in order to expedite her citizenship journey. I also have texts from her and her friends detailing that I'm a good guy and that she never said anything bad about me during the entirety of our relationship. Her friends, who were at our wedding, even expressed that what she has done to me was stupid, wrong, embarrassing and crazy (after I showed them the screenshots of her cheating). Literally, I have the messages/screenshots of all of this.

I'm just paranoid because she has a video of me shoving her the day I confronted her about her infidelity because she refused to initially leave the apartment.

 

Also, through the affidavit, I wanted her to pay me for back rent and medical insurance benefits to the tune of $5,000. 

Now she has refused to sign. So I'm concerned about the texts I've sent her detailing the affidavit while warning her that I would report her to USCIS.

But I have half a mind to report her any way, and just be honest with USCIS about me attempting to recover expenses, and my culpability in initially just taking her word for it, when she expressed that working prior to an EAD was "...no big deal and everyone does it," her words. 


What do you all think?



 

You’re wasting time and need to move on with your life is what I think.  If I had  dollar for every bitter ex that has blown through here since ‘06 I’d be a rich man.  Forget it.  

Edited December 22, 2022 by iwannaplay54

[AsientoDelNegro 13]

34 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Too late.

 

 

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

Also illegal.

Again....assault. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

..Also, you're saying she's untouchable now regardless if I have clear evidence she violated her work authorization, because it's too late, according to your own words.

 

Yet on USCIS own website it clearly says that there is no statute of limitation.

 

Quote

 

With certain exceptions, an applicant is barred from adjusting status if:

• He or she continues in or accepts unauthorized employment prior to filing an application for adjustment of status; ^[1] or

• He or she has ever engaged in unauthorized employment, whether before or after filing an adjustment application. ^[2] 

These bars apply not only to unauthorized employment since an applicant’s most recent entry but also to unauthorized employment during any previous periods of stay in the United States. ^[3] 

 

 

 

..or am I missing something?

 

[AsientoDelNegro 13]

45 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Too late.

 

 

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

Also illegal.

Again....assault. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

EDIT:

..first of all, the domestic violence claim really irks me. Some people seem to have no idea what undeniable domestic violence is, and you throw it around casually without considering the one you're accusing. 

I'm sorry, but shoving someone once (after you catch them cheating and they refuse to leave when you tell them to (regardless of the legality of asking them to leave, that neither of us had awareness of at the time)), who popped right back up and wasn't injured in any way, is not domestic violence. Get real. She has never had any scars, bruises or injuries on her, ever, from anything I did to her. 

And if that is the standard for domestic violence, then I have a video of her aggressively taking my phone out of my hands with a scowl on her face. 

Also I have many texts of her using aggressive language towards me, and can pull quotes from her expressing that she's going to kill me. If we're going to be mindlessly literal and verbatim about everything, then fine. 

Also, there was one time we were arguing (usually about her never listening to me, and about me suspecting her of cheating or sketchy behavior and her vehemently denying it) and I was attempting to leave the apartment without telling her where I was going, and after she asked me where I was going; and then she puts her hands on me and pulls me back in the apartment, from the hallway, and wouldn't let me leave. 

There was another occasion where a similar argument occurred, and I stepped out again, and was walking outside, and she catches up to me and doesn't let me out of her sight and harasses (since we're using legal terms with reckless abandon) me by refusing to let me walk alone. 

So if we're going to start throwing accusations around, then we're going to have to consider her indiscretions also, and be consistent with these uninformed assessments of patterns of behavior. 

I'm sorry, but she's not the dandelion you're making her out to be. Christ. Have an imagination and grow up and be sensible. 

I'm taller than her, yes, but she is a tall athletic woman and is very vocal and not shy at all. You have no idea what you're talking about. 

[Lil bear 4,189]

3 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

or am I missing something?

 

Yep.
 

That it takes two to tango but only one to show maturity and stop the spiraling descent.  Your call on keeping the fight going or no longer fueling an insatiable fire    Just my thoughts 

[Family 3,988]

There is nothing to report, working without authorization was forgiven the moment they approved her green card. 
 

Get a friendly fast divorce and count your blessings she likes to work…cause if she finds her own attorney who is smart in the ways of I-864 you will be paying her $$. 
 

i know you are hurt , betrayed and wounds are fresh …but have a friend pack her things up and be done. 

[AsientoDelNegro 13]

46 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Too late.

 

 

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

Also illegal.

Again....assault. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

..But I appreciate the caution you advise and I still humbly thank you for the feedback. Really, thank you. Just trying to process all this and add my two cents. 

[K1visaHopeful 2,814]

7 minutes ago, AsientoDelNegro said:

..Also, you're saying she's untouchable now regardless if I have clear evidence she violated her work authorization, because it's too late, according to your own words.

 

Yet on USCIS own website it clearly says that there is no statute of limitation.

 

 

 

..or am I missing something?

 

She has been APPROVED for residency. 

Anything you quoted is in regards to AFTER FILING and PRIOR approval. 

[Kanja 201]

This sounds eerily similar to a post a few weeks ago where the OP was arguing with most of us about for what constitutes domestic violence. Even the tone of the OP sounds the same. 

 

i agree with everyone who says just let it go, you

mihjt get yourself in trouble also if she wants to get back at you. Domestic violence doesn’t require bruises or cuts, it doesn’t even require physical assault however in your case you did physically assault her. It seems like from your explanation she also assaulted you.

 

you also cannot kick someone out in New York (where your profile says you are) without going through court, it doesn’t matter if she’s not on the lease. You also can’t stop someone from getting their belongings(unless you have an order of protection or something). I know this for a fact because I helped countless women and men get BACK in their homes with the police after their spouse wrongfully kicked them out. 

 

maybe you can arrange for a police escort for her to get her stuff and she can be out of your life forever.

 

you can of course report her as you have a lot evidence but it may not go anywhere. I don’t think you will have liability in it, but you do have liability in everything else you have done and if she knew about the report (that likely won’t go anywhere), she may be pushed to attack back.

 

my question to you is what will you get out of reporting her? Do you want her deported? 

 

Edited December 22, 2022 by Kanja

[K1visaHopeful 2,814]

Just now, AsientoDelNegro said:

..But I appreciate the caution you advise and I still humbly thank you for the feedback. Really, thank you. Just trying to process all this and add my two cents. 

You're still welcome. 

I strongly suggest you do some research on DV in case it bites you in the hiney.

DV does NOT equivocate to physical violence. You are very misunderstood. 

DV is many things including a lot of which you have mentioned. 

If you are in an at fault state she could make your life complicated if she filed a contested divorce based on DV.

[AsientoDelNegro 13]

5 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

She has been APPROVED for residency. 

Anything you quoted is in regards to AFTER FILING and PRIOR approval. 

So if that's the case and she has her 2 year Green Card (not her 10 year green card, not her citizenship), then I should just go ahead and report her and see what happens, and leave it in the hands of USCIS.

Worst case scenario is USCIS does nothing.

Best case scenario is that something and someone finally holds someone accountable around here, for lies and deception.