Lost everything, husband can’t have a relationship.

[Wuozopo 4,293]

@M3gaaan

 

A pamphlet you should read and save concerning divorce in Idaho.
. https://courtselfhelp.idaho.gov/docs/publications/DCCS-7.pdf
Because it’s a pamphlet meant to be printed and folded, the first topic is on the second page. Prepare yourself for divorce because a pound to a penny you are headed that way because he’s still talking about possible divorce after he helps you get your 10 year card. I hope you understand you do not need his help and you could get on with it sooner with a divorce waiver. Does he think in 2024 he will be off the hook when you apply? Does he realize it is going to be pending a year or more after you apply?  I understand you are still hopeful, but you do need to be more informed anyway. 
 

He is not the good guy here. How many times has he changed his mind in a very short time? Four? Is he cheating on you or wanting to, so talked about a split to try out somebody else? Did that not pan out so he’s back again or does your crying make him say things to appease you? It sounds dodgy.

[OldUser 6,604]

5 hours ago, M3gaaan said:

ONLY if we go through every option and I have my ten year green card/ life over here that’s when we will divorce. 

Do you realize the plan of staying together so you can get immigration benefit can be perceived as fraud by USCIS?

 

Also, what are you gonna do if you're called for an interivew, and he changes his mind the evening before or day of the interview, he's not going to go there with you? What if he controls your finances, makes you meet any demands he may have. And if you're not doing what he wants, he threatens to not help you with I-751 or citizenship.

 

Are you ready living with him for another 3-4 years potentially before and while your I-751 is pending?

[M3gaaan 5]

30 minutes ago, OldUser said:

Do you realize the plan of staying together so you can get immigration benefit can be perceived as fraud by USCIS?

 

Also, what are you gonna do if you're called for an interivew, and he changes his mind the evening before or day of the interview, he's not going to go there with you? What if he controls your finances, makes you meet any demands he may have. And if you're not doing what he wants, he threatens to not help you with I-751 or citizenship.

 

Are you ready living with him for another 3-4 years potentially before and while your I-751 is pending?

I didn’t realise that could be perceived as fraud because that’s completely not my intention at all I think you misunderstood me it’s basically we will try to work things out as much as we can and work out all options and he wouldn’t go through with a divorce unless I had stability basically. It’s preferable that if he were to do anything it’d be after that if that makes sense sorry if it got confused. 😊 not saying we plan to stay together just for that that’d be ridiculous. Especially since we know I can still live in the US on my own. 

[M3gaaan 5]

I think I’ve got really all the answers I need and I’ll definitely talk to him about all the options we have. I know I don’t need to rely on him for anything in terms of ROC I just needed to know if I was ok to fly back really in the first place. It’s a very complicated situation but then again so is marriage. I’m really thankful for everyone’s support. ❤️ if it’s ok can the thread be closed I just don’t want any misunderstandings because I know basically all the answers I need to know. 

[OldUser 6,604]

2 minutes ago, M3gaaan said:

 he wouldn’t go through with a divorce unless I had stability basic"ally. 

If by stability you mean 10 year card, it's a big no, and it may bite you in the future.

 

If I was you I'd divorce him, get 10 year GC, get naturalized, work on my career etc and if by the age of 25-26 you're still together and your relationship matures -  just remarry. That way you have less problems with USCIS and your husband doesn't have any control over your life, at least when it comes to immigration. That would equalize any imbalance of power in relationship too.

 

Of course, you're the only one who knows what's best for you.

[M3gaaan 5]

4 minutes ago, OldUser said:

If by stability you mean 10 year card, it's a big no, and it may bite you in the future.

 

If I was you I'd divorce him, get 10 year GC, get naturalized, work on my career etc and if by the age of 25-26 you're still together and your relationship matures -  just remarry. That way you have less problems with USCIS and your husband doesn't have any control over your life, at least when it comes to immigration. That would equalize any imbalance of power in relationship too.

 

Of course, you're the only one who knows what's best for you.

With that I mainly meant stable work and more of a footing in the US because I only got my green card in July so I just started to work really in October (lost that job for others reasons)  so if worst were to happen I didn’t have to fly back I had more options. If that makes sense; I know he doesn’t need to do anything to do with ROC i really want to make that apparent. Basically work it out for a decent amount of time then both make a mutual decision together. Divorce is off the table for us now. 

[TBoneTX 45,248]

Thread is closed at OP's request.