Desperate!!! Help!!!

[belinda63 3,038]

This more a family issue than an immigration issue. Daughter, who is an adult, moved out to be with baby daddy. Daughter expects parents to support her even though she has treated them like dirt. Daughter learns hard lesson in life of how tough it is to survive on your own. Daughter comes crawling back to parents apologizing. Cycle repeats. 

The I-864 is between you and the government, not you and her. She can whine all she wants but you have no obligation to give her a penny. If she does receive public assistance you might be on the hook for paying the government back. 

[PRGuy 3]

6 hours ago, Boiler said:

Get a job or joint sponsor.

 

Perhaps the plan was to use the money she expects to get from her Mother?

That's exactly what we are thinking. We are simply dumbfounded, never expected that from her.

[PRGuy 3]

17 minutes ago, belinda63 said:

This more a family issue than an immigration issue. Daughter, who is an adult, moved out to be with baby daddy. Daughter expects parents to support her even though she has treated them like dirt. Daughter learns hard lesson in life of how tough it is to survive on your own. Daughter comes crawling back to parents apologizing. Cycle repeats. 

The I-864 is between you and the government, not you and her. She can whine all she wants but you have no obligation to give her a penny. If she does receive public assistance you might be on the hook for paying the government back. 

Thanks, that's seems like it will be her cycle indeed!! What would be the kind of public assistance that will makes us liable for?

[carmel34 3,620]

Directly from USCIS:

 

Q1: What is an Affidavit of Support Under Section 213A of the INA?

A1: Congress amended INA 212(a)(4) in 1996 to require that certain immigrants submit a sufficient Affidavit of Support Under Section 213A of the INA (Form I-864 or Form I-864EZ) executed by a sponsor to avoid a finding of inadmissibility under this section. The new section, INA 213A, specifies who meets the definition of a sponsor, which immigrants must submit a sufficient Affidavit of Support Under Section 213A of the INA, the scope of a sponsor’s obligations, and how an affidavit of support may be enforced.

By executing an Affidavit of Support Under Section 213A of the INA, a sponsor creates a contract between the sponsor and the U.S. government. Under this contract, the sponsor agrees:

To provide support to maintain the sponsored immigrant at an annual income not less than 125% of the federal poverty line (or 100% if the sponsor is on active duty—and not in active duty for training—in the U.S. armed forces and petitioning for their spouse or child) during the period the support obligation is in effect;
To be liable for any reimbursement obligation incurred from the sponsored immigrant receiving means-tested public benefits during the period the obligation is in effect;
To submit to the jurisdiction of any federal or state court for enforcing the support obligation; and
That the U.S. government can consider the sponsor’s income and assets as available for the support of the sponsored immigrant when the immigrant applies for means-tested public benefits.
Receiving means-tested public benefits does not disqualify someone from becoming a sponsor. However, means-tested public benefits cannot be included as income that is used to meet the income threshold.

 

 

Benefits Considered
DHS will only consider public benefits as listed in the rule, including:

Supplemental Security Income;
Temporary Assistance for Needy Families;
Any federal, state, local, or tribal cash benefit programs for income maintenance (often called general assistance in the state context, but which may exist under other names);
Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (formerly called food stamps);
Section 8 Housing Assistance under the Housing Choice Voucher Program;
Section 8 Project-Based Rental Assistance (including Moderate Rehabilitation);
Public Housing (under the Housing Act of 1937, 42 U.S.C. 1437 et seq.); and
Federally funded Medicaid (with certain exclusions).

[SteveInBostonI130 3,432]

Walmart pays $15/hr, depending on your location.  Time for the daughter to earn her salary.

[Neonred 3,562]

15 hours ago, PRGuy said:

Hi Y'all

 

This might sound like the most bizarre petition for children of permanent resident. As some of you have followed and reply to several of my post, I want to let you know that my stepdaughter is finally in the USA, and, as many of you expect otherwise, It's been an absolute hell since she was on her way to the USA. 

For starters, she snapshot the part of the affidavit of support and sent it to us, like a "reminder" that we are financially responsible for her. She actually thinks that she will be getting a monthly salary from us just because the affidavit of support. 

She's been completely nasty towards her mother, even to the point that she attempted to hit her more than once. Constantly threatening us the she will make our lives miserable, etc. 

Now, the latest, Apparently the father of the baby arrived in the USA, we exactly don't know how since he's not from, and never being in the USA and she's planning to leave and be with him. She's expecting to receive a "salary" from us, as "stated" by the I-864.

 

Any guidance, Please? just as I was writing, I was about to call the police on her, throwing stuff, and getting into my wife's face.

Desperately,

 

PRGuy

She needs to get a job.  Hope she is not planning on staying home while collecting a "salary" from you.

 

We went through a somewhat similar situation with my wife's daughter.  Came here and because she couldn't drive she really couldn't get a job.  I put her to work in my office but she was unhappy as she had a graduate degree in business analysis that wasn't doing her any good in our town.  With the help of one of our ex-friends she ran away, or relocated without telling us where.  She didn't want anything to do with us.  Didn't see her for several years.  My wife cried a lot over this.  While were out of her life she moved to Boston, got a great job, got married, and had a child.  While searching online I came across her Instagram account and found out about her child.  

 

Long story short, mother and daughter reconnected through a mutual friend.  Took some time for the two to reconcile.  Now the daughter and her family live not too far from us in Florida and they are quite close again. 

 

A happy ending.   I hope you can have the same one day.

[.yana 597]

Honestly, culture-wise - it's not super common to have such poor mother-daughter relationship in Russia. From my personal experience co-dependency is way more common to see (I don't find either healthy for the record).

I wish you the best, OP. Truly terrible situation for everyone involved. I often see folks on this forum mention that it's hard to enforce I-864. While I personally don't have any experience with that, I hope they're correct.

[Boiler 45,442]

Not just Russia