Withdraw sponsorship of unfaithful 2 year green card holder?

[NDL2022 42]

27 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

Why would she sign something like that?  What affidavit?  It is not a legally binding contract.  Personally, I think you're trying get guarantees which would not benefit her in signing.  

Cause her belongs are still here, and I won’t let her in the apartment. 

Also she doesn’t want me to send the screenshots to her friends and associates, and I don’t want her to disparage me or disperse the video to my family, etc. 
I also want her to reimburse me for certain expenses. 
These are the terms of the affidavit I’ve drawn up, so far, that she may sign.    
I reduced the amount she owes me, and because of that, I believe, she has come back to the table.
She also revealed that she understands why I’m disappointed, but maintains she has her side of the story in terms of the infidelity, and that she would never disparage me or destroy me. 

So there’s that. For what it’s worth. 

But I’d rather have it in writing and notarized. 
Which I’m trying to get done. 

Edited November 30, 2022 by NDL2022

[GEOntificator 281]

2 minutes ago, NDL2022 said:

Cause her belongs are still here, and I won’t let her in the apartment. 

Also she doesn’t want me to send the screenshots to her friends and associates, and I don’t want her to disparage me or disperse the video to my family, etc. 
I also want her to reimburse me for certain expenses. 
These are the terms of the affidavit I’ve drawn up, so far, that she may sign.    
I reduced the amount she owes me, and since she has come back to the table.
She also revealed that she understands why I’m disappointed, but maintains she has her side of the story in terms of the infidelity, and that she would never disparage me. 

So there’s that.   

This sounds like a family drama. I am sorry you have to go through this. You hitting the mirror with a baseball bat looks equally as bad as her cheating (which she is yet to admit).  Lawyer up and leave things be.

[Joyoussinger 1,425]

30 minutes ago, NDL2022 said:

No. 

But the day I kicked her out, after confronting her about her cheating, and after I gathered the screenshots from her phone, she refused to leave and was deny her cheating.
She’s an extremely stubborn and unwavering person, and she customarily would never listen to me, so at one point to compel her to leave I broke a mirror with a baseball bat and I pushed her, all of which she recorded, all the while repeating for her to leave and her refusing. 
Until she finally did. 
So the video is useless to her, by her own estimation, cause it shows her refusing to leave. 
Also, she had numerous health screenings for her HHA certification and for USCIS purposes and she was always healthy and with no signs of abuse.
I just know that she’s a documented liar now, and I don’t trust her at all. 
She still maintains she didn’t cheat and that I should hear her side of things. This, in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary from two of her phones. 
So yes, I worry about worst case scenarios of a demonstrated desperate person doing desperate things, at all costs and at the disparagement of anyone. 

You have no "leverage". In New York, it's illegal to evict your spouse. She did nothing wrong in refusing to leave. Breaking a mirror with a baseball bat is a form of domestic violence. Now, you're gaslighting and bullying her. It's not disparaging if it's true. The best thing you can do is divorce her and let her get on with her life.  

[Rocio0010 5,579]

32 minutes ago, NDL2022 said:

She’s an extremely stubborn and unwavering person, and she customarily would never listen to me, so at one point to compel her to leave I broke a mirror with a baseball bat and I pushed her

No matter how stubborn a person is, violence is never, EVER the answer.

An affidavit is not a legally binding contract. 
I feel like the thread is diverting from the original question, which has been answered countless times. 
I am also afraid there is much more to this story. But I am out . Good luck ! 

[Calicolom 265]

14 hours ago, NDL2022 said:

So I had leverage over my wife from Gerogia compelling her to pay for our divorce, after I collected screenshots from her two phones showing that she cheated on me. 

She has already received her two year conditional greencard and work authorization and SS # from around August-October, 2022. 

I kicked her out of my apartment, she’s never been on the lease and is not on the lease, but she would receive mail here since we’ve been married since August 2021. I’ve since demanded that she change her mailing address, I don’t know if she has. There’s still mail coming here for her as of 11/28/2022, we filed for divorce 11/14/2022.

So how can I withdraw my sponsorship of her without being held liable?

I’m in NYC by the way, and according to the divorce attorney, the divorce will be final in June or July 2023.
Also her belongings are still in the apartment, she only took what she could carry when I kicked her out on 11/13/2022. 

Buyer beware.

[Kanja 201]

44 minutes ago, NDL2022 said:

No. 

But the day I kicked her out, after confronting her about her cheating, and after I gathered the screenshots from her phone, she refused to leave and was deny her cheating.
She’s an extremely stubborn and unwavering person, and she customarily would never listen to me, so at one point to compel her to leave I broke a mirror with a baseball bat and I pushed her, all of which she recorded, all the while repeating for her to leave and her refusing. 
Until she finally did. 
So the video is useless to her, by her own estimation, cause it shows her refusing to leave. 
Also, she had numerous health screenings for her HHA certification and for USCIS purposes and she was always healthy and with no signs of abuse.
I just know that she’s a documented liar now, and I don’t trust her at all. 
She still maintains she didn’t cheat and that I should hear her side of things. This, in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary from two of her phones. 
So yes, I worry about worst case scenarios of a demonstrated desperate person doing desperate things, at all costs and at the disparagement of anyone. 

If you really live in NYC/NY she didn’t have to leave. You can’t just kick someone out, you have to go to housing court. I wish she would come On visa journey so we can advise her. You clearly are abusive. 

[Kanja 201]

39 minutes ago, NDL2022 said:

Cause her belongs are still here, and I won’t let her in the apartment. 

Also she doesn’t want me to send the screenshots to her friends and associates, and I don’t want her to disparage me or disperse the video to my family, etc. 
I also want her to reimburse me for certain expenses. 
These are the terms of the affidavit I’ve drawn up, so far, that she may sign.    
I reduced the amount she owes me, and because of that, I believe, she has come back to the table.
She also revealed that she understands why I’m disappointed, but maintains she has her side of the story in terms of the infidelity, and that she would never disparage me or destroy me. 

So there’s that. For what it’s worth. 

But I’d rather have it in writing and notarized. 
Which I’m trying to get done. 

If I were you I would be careful. Refusing her into her residence, refusing to allow her to get her belongings are illegal unless you have a reason to believe she will be physical but it seems you are the physical one. 

[Ontarkie 14,214]

~~Thread is locked and not to be restarted  as it is now going down TOS Violation hole. The OP's question has been answered - there is no withdrawing of the AOS and the OP's soon to be Ex does not need VAWA as she is already a PR. It is in the best interest of the OP to speak to a lawyer.~~

Edited November 30, 2022 by Ontarkie