What are my chances...? CR-1

[carmel34 3,631]

19 minutes ago, Worldismine03 said:

I have pages and pages of text messages, phone/video calls.

Text messages and phone/video calls are not strong evidence of a bona fide marriage relationship.  Focus more on gathering evidence of time spent together in person.  You have only one visit in person, when you got married.  You will need many more visits to be successful, go as often as you can throughout the process.  Save original boarding passes from each trip, also include passport stamps and hotel receipts.  A few photos together from each trip would also help show that you were together in person.  Some financial co-mingling evidence will also help convince the interviewing officer that the relationship is bona fide--joint credit card account (or the foreign spouse as an authorized user), add your husband to your US health insurance (all you need is your marriage certificate and his date of birth) and as the beneficiary on your US life insurance, bank accounts, and retirement accounts.  See an attorney and prepare a will, living will, and power of attorney for each other, and sign/notarize them on your visit in February.  Submit all of this evidence with the I-130 petition, and continue to visit and add more documents to your file to upload at the NVC stage about a year later whenever the petition has been approved.  Good luck!  

[Boiler 45,516]

According to your timeline you did not meet before filing the K1, is that correct?

[Worldismine03 2]

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

According to your timeline you did not meet before filing the K1, is that correct?

That is correct.

USCIS approved our 2 year meeting waiver 

I was unable to go to Afghanistan because of the taliban takeover and he was unable to leave because he didnt have a passport.

 

He was finally able to get a passport this year and got his visa to go to pakistan in July 2022. He had his interview Oct 2022 and that was the first time i met him.

 

I know also us marrying while I was out there on our first meeting is a red flag in itself. But we were already in a relationship for a little over a year by this time.

[Boiler 45,516]

It is extremely unusual to obtain a meeting waiver.

 

I am not surprised the K1 was sent back to die, it is going to be sometime before the CR1 interview so I would focus on getting more visits in.

[Worldismine03 2]

24 minutes ago, carmel34 said:

Text messages and phone/video calls are not strong evidence of a bona fide marriage relationship.  Focus more on gathering evidence of time spent together in person.  You have only one visit in person, when you got married.  You will need many more visits to be successful, go as often as you can throughout the process.  Save original boarding passes from each trip, also include passport stamps and hotel receipts.  A few photos together from each trip would also help show that you were together in person.  Some financial co-mingling evidence will also help convince the interviewing officer that the relationship is bona fide--joint credit card account (or the foreign spouse as an authorized user), add your husband to your US health insurance (all you need is your marriage certificate and his date of birth) and as the beneficiary on your US life insurance, bank accounts, and retirement accounts.  See an attorney and prepare a will, living will, and power of attorney for each other, and sign/notarize them on your visit in February.  Submit all of this evidence with the I-130 petition, and continue to visit and add more documents to your file to upload at the NVC stage about a year later whenever the petition has been approved.  Good luck!  

thank you for all your advise. I will get started on adding him to all those things now. I just so far have him as an authorized user on one of my credit cards and on my life insurance policy.

[Worldismine03 2]

5 minutes ago, Boiler said:

It is extremely unusual to obtain a meeting waiver.

 

I am not surprised the K1 was sent back to die, it is going to be sometime before the CR1 interview so I would focus on getting more visits in.

Yea even my lawyer said that he was surprised they approved our meeting waiver and approved our petition after only 2 months of me filing. 

 

But that meeting waiver did nothing for me since even me showing up and meeting him didnt matter to them.

[Boiler 45,516]

9 minutes ago, Worldismine03 said:

Yea even my lawyer said that he was surprised they approved our meeting waiver and approved our petition after only 2 months of me filing. 

 

But that meeting waiver did nothing for me since even me showing up and meeting him didnt matter to them.

It was an easy denial for the Consulate, he turns up for the interview when he had only met the sponsor a few days earlier.

[Worldismine03 2]

 

8 minutes ago, Boiler said:

It was an easy denial for the Consulate, he turns up for the interview when he had only met the sponsor a few days earlier.

The interview & medical was scheduled prior to me going there. He didn't just show up to the interview after he met me... 

 

We didnt meet earlier because of border closings due to the taliban situation in our home country and him not being able to get a passport & visa to go to a third country for his interview.

[Boiler 45,516]

Your case was like trying to win the lottery twice, anyway that is history.

 

There is some paperwork you can do but I would focus on proving up your case.

[pushbrk 12,883]

Your best evidence is always the evidence of time spent together.  Passport stamps and boarding passes are actual primary evidence.  He should be with you in Pakistan for the registration of your marriage and for goodness sake, take photos this time.  That age difference is not a big deal if you can show evidence of time spent together, the more, the better.  Neither USCIS or Consular Officers care why you did not or could not...anything, and they don't care what you "want".  People in real relationships just "DO".  It is what it is.

 

 

Edited November 28, 2022 by pushbrk

[Ted277 40]

Your age difference got nothing to do with the denial. They denied you for lack of spending time with your fiancé. How can you marry someone you haven’t met. I’m a Nigerian male and my wife(US citizen) is 21 years older than me. I was approved immediately I mentioned 5 visits. My interview didn’t last upto a minute. Visit more, spend more time with your partner  and you won’t have nothing to worry. 

[SteveInBostonI130 3,451]

@Worldismine03, what are your chances, per your plan?  Pretty good?

 

A member here went through a similar ordeal.  She was engaged to someone from a muslim country, she was older than him, their K1 was denied, they married and spent as much time together as they could, and their CR1 was approved.

 

I believe this member is @Jeanne Adil

[SalishSea 17,829]

8 hours ago, Worldismine03 said:

But that meeting waiver did nothing for me since even me showing up and meeting him didnt matter to them.

I suspect that it actually was a negative.

 

The bar is pretty high for you to overcome all the negative components to your case.  You will have to spend as much time as possible visiting, and it would be realistic to expect an extended AP.

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[Worldismine03 2]

On 11/28/2022 at 9:32 PM, Jorgedig said:

I suspect that it actually was a negative.

 

The bar is pretty high for you to overcome all the negative components to your case.  You will have to spend as much time as possible visiting, and it would be realistic to expect an extended AP.

I hope we can over come all the negatives. I am already planning on visiting again but I always get nervous as what they consider is enough time spent as proof. Id love to live there for a while and spend months with him even but with work I'm kind of stuck gathering my PTO (Time off) and saving up for plane & hotel costs.