Am I committing fraud?

[Timona 4,207]

You do know both of you are legally allowed visitation or to spend time with the kid/ kid visits each of you. Looks to me that you wanna play the knight in shining armor and bring her to US in hopes that she stays with you. I mean, why entice her with your parents $$, if that's not the case? The moment she smells your desperation, you're done for as @ROK2USA succinctly explained. You'll be bankrolling her and her new husband while crying on your bed each day because you signed up on it. She must be really hot for you to even even even, yes, I said it 3×, think of such a unfortunate way to quickly run mad, in financial ruin and early grave

 

Divorce her. Take her to court if he refuses to let kid see the other side if the family. Additionally, plant seeds at home. It may make your life easier and your parents can visit easily. 

 

Wake up.

 

I'm Mike-E-ing.

[JeanneAdil 6,497]

18 minutes ago, CVincent901 said:

 

I read the brochure. From what I can tell, our situation doesn't fit into any of the specific scenarios mentioned. The marriage was not fraudulent. We got married with the intention of having a life together and started the visa process with our marriage intact. The breakdown of the marriage is recent, so at least thus far we haven't made any fraudulent representations, although that would change if we go through with the interview and don't answer questions truthfully.

Are u that native?

 

She committed fraud as u say 

"She just wants to get to the US by any means necessary"

 

I hope it is not a violation to say this but u were used for a visa 

she convinced u of love which obviously didn't exist 

that is very evident from your own posts

even US women will sometimes get pregnant to capture a husband 

 

I am out too

 

[CVincent901 22]

1 minute ago, Timona said:

You do know both of you are legally allowed visitation or to spend time with the kid/ kid visits each of you. Looks to me that you wanna play the knight in shining armor and bring her to US in hopes that she stays with you. I mean, why entice her with your parents $$, if that's not the case? The moment she smells your desperation, you're done for as @ROK2USA succinctly explained. You'll be bankrolling her and her new husband while crying on your bed each day because you signed up on it. She must be really hot for you to even even even, yes, I said it 3×, think of such a unfortunate way to quickly run mad, in financial ruin and early grave

 

Divorce her. Take her to court if he refuses to let kid see the other side if the family. Additionally, plant seeds at home. It may make your life easier and your parents can visit easily. 

 

Wake up.

 

I'm Mike-E-ing.

I have no desire whatsoever to be with her. I was the one who made the decision to split up. My only concern is to do what's best for my child (and secondarily for my parents). Lots of commenters on this thread are making it out like this is a no-brainer, but taking a step that will likely mean that my child will never live full time in the US is a very hard pill to swallow. I am leaning toward making what everyone on this thread thinks is the right decision, but it's an enormously difficult thing to do and will have lifelong consequences for my child, my parents and myself.

[OldUser 6,636]

1 minute ago, CVincent901 said:

but taking a step that will likely mean that my child will never live full time in the US is a very hard pill to swallow.

The divorce means you will never have full time with your kid, whether they live in the US or not. What makes you think the kid will never live in the US fulltime? Did you determine whether the kid is a US citizen? Even if not, you can always sponsor them. You're the immediate relative.

[Lil bear 4,198]

2 hours ago, CVincent901 said:

To clarify, my soon-to-be-ex and I are not currently living together and would not be living together in the US, so my child will not see his parents staying together in an unhealthy relationship.

Secondly, while money is not an issue, health is. My father, in particular, cannot travel for health reasons. So if we don't continue with the visa process there is a real chance that he will never meet his grandchild.

Immediate relative immigrant visas are for family reunification in the US. “Soon to be ex “ with separate addresses/ domiciles no longer meets this criteria. Don't push it 

[Lynxyonok 316]

First of all, my hat's off to the bravery that OP has shown and their willingness to do everything possible for their child. That's worth respect.

 

That said, we live in the world of technology where everything is recorded. And in the times where USCIS and other agencies desperately need a whipping boy to showcase as the cause for their processing delays. An interview that's soon, a single male child, financial support drawn from mother, posted country of origin, and even potentially a name: it is possible that with minimum effort your identity is already available for authorities.

 

That said, immigration is a very drawn-out process, and up until she crosses the N-400 line (and in her case that'd be 5 years away), you're at risk of law coming to you all the way to 2028. Or longer. And since it may be your mother's money financing the process, she may be in jeopardy too.

 

Before I jump on the "divorce" bandwagon, I want to ask one question.

 

You said "any means necessary" when talking about your spouse.

 

Is the child yours?

[CVincent901 22]

4 minutes ago, OldUser said:

The divorce means you will never have full time with your kid, whether they live in the US or not. What makes you think the kid will never live in the US fulltime? Did you determine whether the kid is a US citizen? Even if not, you can always sponsor them. You're the immediate relative.

Yes, my child is a US citizen. But I would need her consent to take my child out this country, and if I deny her what she wants she will probably withhold consent out of spite.

[JeanneAdil 6,497]

BTW

u asked the quesiton "am i committing fraud

and yes,   u r

marriage certificate is legal /  but not the marriage is at this point

 

Informal Separation 

In many instances, spouses will separate without obtaining a judicial order altering the marital relationship or formalizing the separation. An applicant who is no longer actually residing with his or her U.S. citizen spouse following an informal separation is not living in marital union with the U.S. citizen spouse.

[CVincent901 22]

1 minute ago, Lynxyonok said:

First of all, my hat's off to the bravery that OP has shown and their willingness to do everything possible for their child. That's worth respect.

 

That said, we live in the world of technology where everything is recorded. And in the times where USCIS and other agencies desperately need a whipping boy to showcase as the cause for their processing delays. An interview that's soon, a single male child, financial support drawn from mother, posted country of origin, and even potentially a name: it is possible that with minimum effort your identity is already available for authorities.

 

That said, immigration is a very drawn-out process, and up until she crosses the N-400 line (and in her case that'd be 5 years away), you're at risk of law coming to you all the way to 2028. Or longer. And since it may be your mother's money financing the process, she may be in jeopardy too.

 

Before I jump on the "divorce" bandwagon, I want to ask one question.

 

You said "any means necessary" when talking about your spouse.

 

Is the child yours?

Yes, there is no question about that. He looks exactly like me.

[Lemonslice 4,836]

3 minutes ago, Lynxyonok said:

First of all, my hat's off to the bravery that OP has shown and their willingness to do everything possible for their child. That's worth respect.

 

That said, we live in the world of technology where everything is recorded. And in the times where USCIS and other agencies desperately need a whipping boy to showcase as the cause for their processing delays. An interview that's soon, a single male child, financial support drawn from mother, posted country of origin, and even potentially a name: it is possible that with minimum effort your identity is already available for authorities.

 

That said, immigration is a very drawn-out process, and up until she crosses the N-400 line (and in her case that'd be 5 years away), you're at risk of law coming to you all the way to 2028. Or longer. And since it may be your mother's money financing the process, she may be in jeopardy too.

 

Before I jump on the "divorce" bandwagon, I want to ask one question.

 

You said "any means necessary" when talking about your spouse.

 

Is the child yours?

Who knows if she'd ever become a citizen? Mother-in-law said she'd provide unlimited funds ... why cut the $$$?

[Lynxyonok 316]

1 minute ago, CVincent901 said:

Yes, there is no question about that. He looks exactly like me.

 

So do about 75 other people in the world, an Easter egg due to a finite number of viable genetic combinations.

 

As long as you're considering options one of which is incarceration for yourself, your ex-spouse, your parent(s), and the resulting lifelong handicap for your child, you need to be 100% certain.

[CVincent901 22]

1 minute ago, Lynxyonok said:

 

So do about 75 other people in the world, an Easter egg due to a finite number of viable genetic combinations.

 

As long as you're considering options one of which is incarceration for yourself, your ex-spouse, your parent(s), and the resulting lifelong handicap for your child, you need to be 100% certain.

There is no doubt in my mind on this point. Besides the resemblance, we were in quarantine at the time of conception and were literally never apart for any significant length of time. I understand why you're asking these questions, but I have zero doubt that I am my child's father.

[Lynxyonok 316]

6 minutes ago, CVincent901 said:

There is no doubt in my mind on this point. Besides the resemblance, we were in quarantine at the time of conception and were literally never apart for any significant length of time. I understand why you're asking these questions, but I have zero doubt that I am my child's father.

Fascinating.

 

Perhaps the real question is, how did the two of you survive a quarantine but not a (I'm assuming) separation afterwards?

 

Being in quarantine with someone has got to be the best way to learn their inner world.

 

Thus, the question may not be "what to do now" but rather "what happened" and "can we go back".

 

People don't just burn bridges if they don't have a spare one on the side. And that bridge may have just made your likelihood of being apprehended by DHS and such much greater. For people talk.

Edited October 29, 2022 by Lynxyonok

[retheem 564]

One day a wise man said, "Anything can be solved as long as people now what they are doing". Am I communicating?

[OldUser 6,636]

@CVincent901 would it be better for your son if one of his parents was jailed or fined $250K? That's a high chance considering the circumstances.

Edited October 29, 2022 by OldUser