Concerns and Trust

[allousa 1]

I don't get this "planting seeds of doubt" idea. I mean, how much power does a person have over another? If the story is made up, does it really matter? If it's someone's true story then that's all it is. Anyone who takes this story and makes rash decisions based on it is either really out of their minds or was already looking for a reason to get out and now this is serving as their excuse.

You know, the more I think about...

I'm really touched by your kind words of support Peezy. Thanks!

[sarah and hicham 3]

I don't get this "planting seeds of doubt" idea. I mean, how much power does a person have over another? If the story is made up, does it really matter? If it's someone's true story then that's all it is. Anyone who takes this story and makes rash decisions based on it is either really out of their minds or was already looking for a reason to get out and now this is serving as their excuse.

You know, the more I think about...

I'm really touched by your kind words of support Peezy. Thanks!

In addition, today has proven that there are clearly two sides to every story and that must be considered before applying it to our own personal situations.

Jackie, I am dissapointed in you.

Mohammed has every right to share his side of the story and I'm glad he did. You know very well that if you are questioning Islam then he has every right to leave- especially if you were questioning it to manipulate him to include you in prayer.

Thank you Mohammed for posting your side of the story.

Edited July 22, 2007 by sarah and hicham

[Mags 112]

I don't get this "planting seeds of doubt" idea. I mean, how much power does a person have over another? If the story is made up, does it really matter? If it's someone's true story then that's all it is. Anyone who takes this story and makes rash decisions based on it is either really out of their minds or was already looking for a reason to get out and now this is serving as their excuse.

You know, the more I think about...

I'm really touched by your kind words of support Peezy. Thanks!

In addition, today has proven that there are clearly two sides to every story and that must be considered before applying it to our own personal situations.

Jackie, I am dissapointed in you.

Mohammed has every right to share his side of the story and I'm glad he did. You know very well that if you are questioning Islam then he has every right to leave- especially if you were questioning it to manipulate him to include you in prayer.

Thank you Mohammed for posting your side of the story.

Do not bring issues from other threads here please, Sarah.

[sarah and hicham 3]

I don't get this "planting seeds of doubt" idea. I mean, how much power does a person have over another? If the story is made up, does it really matter? If it's someone's true story then that's all it is. Anyone who takes this story and makes rash decisions based on it is either really out of their minds or was already looking for a reason to get out and now this is serving as their excuse.

You know, the more I think about...

I'm really touched by your kind words of support Peezy. Thanks!

In addition, today has proven that there are clearly two sides to every story and that must be considered before applying it to our own personal situations.

Jackie, I am dissapointed in you.

Mohammed has every right to share his side of the story and I'm glad he did. You know very well that if you are questioning Islam then he has every right to leave- especially if you were questioning it to manipulate him to include you in prayer.

Thank you Mohammed for posting your side of the story.

Do not bring issues from other threads here please, Sarah.

This is my post that I was working on when the entire thread was deleted. Thanks.

[Mags 112]

I don't get this "planting seeds of doubt" idea. I mean, how much power does a person have over another? If the story is made up, does it really matter? If it's someone's true story then that's all it is. Anyone who takes this story and makes rash decisions based on it is either really out of their minds or was already looking for a reason to get out and now this is serving as their excuse.

You know, the more I think about...

I'm really touched by your kind words of support Peezy. Thanks!

In addition, today has proven that there are clearly two sides to every story and that must be considered before applying it to our own personal situations.

Jackie, I am dissapointed in you.

Mohammed has every right to share his side of the story and I'm glad he did. You know very well that if you are questioning Islam then he has every right to leave- especially if you were questioning it to manipulate him to include you in prayer.

Thank you Mohammed for posting your side of the story.

Do not bring issues from other threads here please, Sarah.

This is my post that I was working on when the entire thread was deleted. Thanks.

Then perhaps sending it via PM would have been the better action to take.

[sarah and hicham 3]

I don't get this "planting seeds of doubt" idea. I mean, how much power does a person have over another? If the story is made up, does it really matter? If it's someone's true story then that's all it is. Anyone who takes this story and makes rash decisions based on it is either really out of their minds or was already looking for a reason to get out and now this is serving as their excuse.

You know, the more I think about...

I'm really touched by your kind words of support Peezy. Thanks!

In addition, today has proven that there are clearly two sides to every story and that must be considered before applying it to our own personal situations.

Jackie, I am dissapointed in you.

Mohammed has every right to share his side of the story and I'm glad he did. You know very well that if you are questioning Islam then he has every right to leave- especially if you were questioning it to manipulate him to include you in prayer.

Thank you Mohammed for posting your side of the story.

Do not bring issues from other threads here please, Sarah.

This is my post that I was working on when the entire thread was deleted. Thanks.

Then perhaps sending it via PM would have been the better action to take.

I already talked to Jackie about this privately. Thanks though.

[SimoFati 0]

I don't get this "planting seeds of doubt" idea. I mean, how much power does a person have over another? If the story is made up, does it really matter? If it's someone's true story then that's all it is. Anyone who takes this story and makes rash decisions based on it is either really out of their minds or was already looking for a reason to get out and now this is serving as their excuse.

You know, the more I think about...

I'm really touched by your kind words of support Peezy. Thanks!

In addition, today has proven that there are clearly two sides to every story and that must be considered before applying it to our own personal situations.

Jackie, I am dissapointed in you.

Mohammed has every right to share his side of the story and I'm glad he did. You know very well that if you are questioning Islam then he has every right to leave- especially if you were questioning it to manipulate him to include you in prayer.

Thank you Mohammed for posting your side of the story.

I AGREE WITH YOU

[~Jackie~ 30]

Talked to me privately? You mean where you messaged me on yahoo? Are you sure you want to bring up that converstion Sarah? I'm sure Kelly would love to read it. Come'on let's chat some more.

Jackie

apoligies to the mod's --I just am not gonna sit back and ignore this. I'm trying, but not succeding.

apoligies to the rest of you--I never meant it to be like this. Of course he can state his side, but this would accomplish what? It's over. Anybody else want to hear it, pm me and I will give you his email.

[LaL 418]

Talked to me privately? You mean where you messaged me on yahoo? Are you sure you want to bring up that converstion Sarah? I'm sure Kelly would love to read it. Come'on let's chat some more.

Jackie

apoligies to the mod's --I just am not gonna sit back and ignore this. I'm trying, but not succeding.

apoligies to the rest of you--I never meant it to be like this. Of course he can state his side, but this would accomplish what? It's over. Anybody else want to hear it, pm me and I will give you his email.

We are not going to bring conversations from other websites/chat to VJ. If there are issues elsewhere - hash them out elsewhere. thanks.

[~Jackie~ 30]

I would never post here publically what was sent to me.... that's not in me to do. So no worries, I won't do anything here to get banned.

J

[LaL 418]

"spoilered" or not, calling other members names will not be tolerated. ME~n~HIM your post was removed and ones quoting as well.

[JODO 2]

Talked to me privately? You mean where you messaged me on yahoo? Are you sure you want to bring up that converstion Sarah? I'm sure Kelly would love to read it. Come'on let's chat some more.

Jackie

apoligies to the mod's --I just am not gonna sit back and ignore this. I'm trying, but not succeding.

apoligies to the rest of you--I never meant it to be like this. Of course he can state his side, but this would accomplish what? It's over. Anybody else want to hear it, pm me and I will give you his email.

We are not going to bring conversations from other websites/chat to VJ. If there are issues elsewhere - hash them out elsewhere. thanks.

"spoilered" or not, calling other members names will not be tolerated. ME~n~HIM your post was removed and ones quoting as well.

Lal you should get overtime pay today

[RAKASA 0]

"spoilered" or not, calling other members names will not be tolerated. ME~n~HIM your post was removed and ones quoting as well.

hmmm... didn't seem as tho i called anyone a name, just .................. oh whatever.................

[LaL 418]

Talked to me privately? You mean where you messaged me on yahoo? Are you sure you want to bring up that converstion Sarah? I'm sure Kelly would love to read it. Come'on let's chat some more.

Jackie

apoligies to the mod's --I just am not gonna sit back and ignore this. I'm trying, but not succeding.

apoligies to the rest of you--I never meant it to be like this. Of course he can state his side, but this would accomplish what? It's over. Anybody else want to hear it, pm me and I will give you his email.

We are not going to bring conversations from other websites/chat to VJ. If there are issues elsewhere - hash them out elsewhere. thanks.

"spoilered" or not, calling other members names will not be tolerated. ME~n~HIM your post was removed and ones quoting as well.

Lal you should get overtime pay today

*puts on the mod hat ~ albeit it a lil late ~*

[Becky&Sam 0]

This whole week and reading all the sad happenings here on MENA has made me really think about my relationship and where it is at with not seeing my husband for all these months and fighting the demons that are my own insecurities and questions that come up for me every day. Soooo, I have the pros and cons list of our relationship and what could possibly be a flag that maybe all is not what it seems to me, but when I look at the list I see that my husband truly loves me and I know I love him so very much. Will we have hard times yes, but will we make it through them I believe that we will with all my heart. Having said that I am putting up here the pros and cons list I have made and see if this compares to anyone else on this board that has done the same thing.

Pros and Cons

We have same religious beliefs We know each other about six months before marrying

As Christian he had to get a certificate from head priest

where he grew up that he has never married and is free to

marry. We have an age difference of about 10 years.

He was working in Europe when we met making a

good salary. We have only spent about 3-4 weeks total living together.

When first talking about marrying he planned for me I cannot have any more children due to previous illness.

to come live with him.

I have met all of his family and they accept our marriage Waiting now to be together for more than 1 year.

and have treated me as family when I was with them.

We have had the discussion about sending money to help his

side of family, but only after we have become stable with our

financial situation here first.

He treats me with only respect always and seems very proud to have

me as his wife with meeting his friends, coworkers and family.

We have had discussions about his culture and my culture and

that he will be the leader of our family, but we will always communicate

and discuss situations before making final decisions concerning our family,

finances, etc.

He wants to raise my children as his own and take care of them,

as they have no relationship with their birth father who has not seen

them or talked to them in three years.

He is working very hard to raise money for when he comes here to help

until pay living expense until he can work here legally.

He has a degree in Business management and is fluent in speaking and

writing English.

He takes my opinion when difficult situations have come up dealing with

his family or decisions that affect us, even though we are so far apart

right now.

I could put more pros up here (can't think of any more cons), but I feel that there is very strong side and believe completely that he is not "using" our relationship for a GC. So I move forward with our quest for the ever elusive VISA, hoping that THIS WEEK will be the week that he gets the call for his passport to put the visa in it and we will be together for the rest of our lives, which I believe this really with all my heart. The biggest issue I had with our marrying is that I cannot have any more children. He told me that he had really almost given up the idea that he would ever find someone and marry to have children and that he would take my children to raise as his own and with our marriage they would become his to care for and love.

I do not put this up here for anyone to attack, but just a comparison for others that have done the same with the pros and cons list and see what others feelings are about this. I have tried to be realistic about our differences and the difficulties that it will bring to our relationship, but even though we are from different parts of the world, that at heart we are alike in more ways that we are not.

Edited July 22, 2007 by Becky&Sam