Bringing in parents and me being in closet

[JoJoJoJo 170]

Hello

I obtained citizenship through marriage. (I was an international student and am employed now.) Is there any possibility to keep my parents in the dark about my marriage while bringing them here?

I fear that the interview would be mission impossible. Would a lawyer be useful? Would me joining their interview be useful? They don't understand English.

 

[SteveInBostonI130 3,434]

The CO will ask what he/she wants to ask.  He/she may quiz them about your marriage, or he/she may not.  Having a lawyer or having you there has no effect on what is asked.  

Edited September 26, 2022 by SteveInBostonI130
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[Timona 4,207]

5 years and your parents haven't sniffed that you're married? Hard to belive this or you must be good at burying stuff.

 

And should your parents obtain visas without knowing about the marriage, how will you juggle your living arrangements? Is your spouse going to leave the house the whole time your parents are around? 

Edited September 26, 2022 by Timona

[Crazy Cat 41,836]

1 hour ago, JoJoJoJo said:

Hello

I obtained citizenship through marriage. (I was an international student and am employed now.) Is there any possibility to keep my parents in the dark about my marriage while bringing them here?

I fear that the interview would be mission impossible. Would a lawyer be useful? Would me joining their interview be useful? They don't understand English.

 

An attorney would be of no benefit.  I don't think there is any way to ensure they won't find out.  I think you're walking a tightrope.  Good luck. 

 

[Rocio0010 5,579]

The officer might want to ask them about your relationship and there is obviously nothing that an attorney can do if/when this happens.

But additionally, if they do indeed come, is your spouse leaving when they visit you? And most importantly is your spouse ok with this?

[arken 4,197]

The CO will either ask in local language or have a translator so don't worry about them not speaking english. Questions like what's your son doing there? How did he get the GC/citizenship? are normal.

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

Assuming you live with your wife and you’ve being filing your taxes as married (either joint or seperate) what happens when your parents upload proof of income? Or household members? You don’t think they’ll ask questions then?
 

What about when they go for their interviews? You don’t plan on giving them copies of this info to take with them?

 

how does your wife feel about you hiding her existence from your parents? 
 

honesty is the best policy.. time to come clean and inform them that your married 

Edited September 26, 2022 by Duke & Marie

[Mike E 11,739]

Do you file joint tax return returns with your spouse? If so, your parents will have access to the tax returns as part of the visa process (I-864).  

[SalishSea 17,818]

4 hours ago, JoJoJoJo said:

Hello

I obtained citizenship through marriage. (I was an international student and am employed now.) Is there any possibility to keep my parents in the dark about my marriage while bringing them here?

I fear that the interview would be mission impossible. Would a lawyer be useful? Would me joining their interview be useful? They don't understand English.

 

Do you mean that it was a marriage done for the sole purpose of immigration, rather than a relationship?

 

I don't believe you would be allowed to attend the interview.

Edited September 26, 2022 by Jorgedig

[nastra30 2,284]

Whatever reasons you have to keep your marriage a secret from your parents; be it cultural or societal or fear or fraud, etc etc, you'll be doing your parents a disservice by not letting them know if you want to sponsor them. They'll need all the relevant facts in order navigate the consular processing and interviews smoothly and get not tripped up the CO.

[JoJoJoJo 170]

Thank you all for your replies. The reason for not coming out to them is that gays are not culturally acceptable in their world but are acceptable to the US government.

[Mike E 11,739]

3 minutes ago, JoJoJoJo said:

Thank you all for your replies. The reason for not coming out to them is that gays are not culturally acceptable in their world but are acceptable to the US government.

I’m in the minority here and so  think your reasons for not disclosing your marriage are not relevant to your question.  Are you filing joint tax returns with your spouse?

[JoJoJoJo 170]

4 minutes ago, Mike E said:

I’m in the minority here and so  think your reasons for not disclosing your marriage are not relevant to your question.  Are you filing joint tax returns with your spouse?

Yes, joint returns.

 

Would my W2 not be enough for 864?

 

I was hoping to do all the paperwork so that my parents won't see any of it.

Edited September 26, 2022 by JoJoJoJo

[JeanneAdil 6,491]

Us lawyer  who knows immigration laws?  u can pay the price for one to travel and advise your parents? you want a lawyer to expose the relationship because u can't

if the embassy allowed a lawyer into interview,  he /she is not allowed to answer questions

 

• Attendees other than a parent or guardian accompanying a minor child may not answer a consular officer’s question on behalf or in lieu of an applicant, nor may they summarize, correct, or attempt to clarify an applicant’s response, or interrupt or interfere with an applicant’s responses to a consular officer’s questions.

Talking as a parent

U need to let them know as its important to the relationship u have with them

and to the relationship with your spouse

they will see all when they come / even your  daily friends will give you away

you can not just "not hide your marriage"

you   can not just "hurt your spouse in this way"

 

Tell them

then it will be up to them if they want to accept the marriage and come to stay with u

or refuse to acknowledge and stay in their home country

 

[powerpuff 6,697]

50 minutes ago, JoJoJoJo said:

Would my W2 not be enough for 864?

I-864 states that you must attach your tax return for the most recent tax year.