End relationship

[Mike20090622 45]

I decided to end the relationship, many here may know our case is in Warsaw embassy waiting for an interview. We got problems last meet in Moscow in July, we resumed talking later and I feel not good. I don’t think I need a heavy family life which I think I need to kill loneliness. I have some concerns.

1. Bring and raise her and her daughters will take me extra 4000$ monthly, not including trips back to Russia annually and financial support to her mom, why not spending such money on myself? Almost enough to buy a good sugar baby and change every 3 months.

2. I thought my life with her would be different from my previous marriage because my ex wife is a very successful professional and I was ignored in life completely and my Russian girlfriend will not goto work and should give me good care and companionship, our first meet was the best month in my life and I was very happy about that, but later meets proved all women are the same, they want to be head of household and make the rules in the family and control everything, she always put her kids on top of me and ignore me, she spent 3 days trying to book a Airbnb apartment in San Petersburg rather than giving me good care and attention, I was not happy and no trip to San Petersburg at all. So all women are the same, they are good at the very beginning and then will Change, my American girlfriend gave me great sex the first months and then lost patience and then we broke up and after sometime we make up and then she gave great sex again, so we should not be married at all, everything will change after marriage.

3. I love dancing, clubs, bars and fine restaurants and drinks but she said that’s for younger people only, I will lose those hobbies after marriage I think, what we do in family life? Besides she doesn’t speak English, so after sex which she also wants to control, what we do?

So I will keep my simple single life, she already complained I am lying in bed too much, don’t fix my teeth quickly, marriage means breaking your comfort zone, I am too old to change I think, so just dating and no marriage would be the best to do

[Rocio0010 5,579]

13 minutes ago, Mike20090622 said:

she already complained I am lying in bed too much, don’t fix my teeth quickly, marriage means breaking your comfort zone

Well, certainly nobody wants to be in a marriage like that 

 

14 minutes ago, Mike20090622 said:

and should give me good care

Wait, is she your mom or your partner?

[naturalgurl4 13]

So what is the question? 

[Mike20090622 45]

7 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

Well, certainly nobody wants to be in a marriage like that 

 

Wait, is she your mom or your partner?

I have been in a marriage for 25 years and I did all cook and clean floors, drive kids and wife to school and work, we go out every day in Moscow and she never cooked a dinner, she talked and stayed with her kids all the time, what can I do except lying in bed in the free time?

[Mike20090622 45]

Now understand why men not get married again after divorce 

[Rocio0010 5,579]

4 minutes ago, Mike20090622 said:

I have been in a marriage for 25 years and I did all cook and clean floors, drive kids and wife to school and work, we go out every day in Moscow and she never cooked a dinner, she talked and stayed with her kids all the time, what can I do except lying in bed in the free time?

We’re only reading one side of the story. 
You said you drove her to school. Was she a teacher or a student? Anyhow, if she was busy and you were at home, why wouldn’t you cook and do chores? We women shouldn’t be the only ones doing chores. Men can do them to, especially if she works outside of the house. 
I don’t know that I have much free time, but laying in bed is not an option. I go to the gym. I take care of me first, so I can be in a healthy relationship. Staying in bed just because doesn’t seem too healthy to me.

6 minutes ago, Mike20090622 said:

Now understand why men not get married again after divorce 

So what’s your immigration question?

[Mike20090622 45]

15 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

We’re only reading one side of the story. 
You said you drove her to school. Was she a teacher or a student? Anyhow, if she was busy and you were at home, why wouldn’t you cook and do chores? We women shouldn’t be the only ones doing chores. Men can do them to, especially if she works outside of the house. 
I don’t know that I have much free time, but laying in bed is not an option. I go to the gym. I take care of me first, so I can be in a healthy relationship. Staying in bed just because doesn’t seem too healthy to me.

So what’s your immigration question?

I got up at 6:30 am to drop my daughter to high school, and then come home to sleep again until 8:45am to drop my son to elementary school, then drive 30 minutes to drop my ex wife to her office and then drive another 15 minutes to my office, I often arrive at my office at 10 am, then I need leave office to pickup my ex wife at 5 pm, then I need cook, fortunately I am an software engineer and my work schedule is flexible 

[slavaskii 886]

I mean this in all due respect, but there was zero chance this K1 was going to get approved. The fact you are comparing her to an expensive "sugar baby" while nonetheless decrying your loss of dancing/clubs/bars/'good sex' really rubs me the wrong way. Rather than viewing (and generalizing) women based on their nationality, I think you should step back and try to be the best father to the family you already have here.

 

Wish you the best of luck moving forward. 

[Rocio0010 5,579]

19 minutes ago, Mike20090622 said:

I got up at 6:30 am to drop my daughter to high school, and then come home to sleep again until 8:45am to drop my son to elementary school, then drive 30 minutes to drop my ex wife to her office and then drive another 15 minutes to my office, I often arrive at my office at 10 am, then I need leave office to pickup my ex wife at 5 pm, then I need cook, fortunately I am an software engineer and my work schedule is flexible 

And again, what’s your immigration question?

[Boiler 45,479]

I remember your prior posts and this seems the best outcome.

[laylalex 7,284]

1 hour ago, Mike20090622 said:

Almost enough to buy a good sugar baby and change every 3 months.

Sorry, having a hard time drumming up much sympathy for you for a comment like that. Women are PEOPLE, not commodities. 

 

Also, when you marry someone with children, it is not out of line for them to put their children before you. I knew the deal when I got married to a man who has a daughter living in another country. We put her needs always above mine. Always. I'm a grown woman who can take care of herself; children need parents. If you can't accept that, you should not date/marry a mother unless her children are adults and out of the house. 

 

Take a break from dating/marrying/acquiring and recycling sugar babies and work on yourself. I'd give the same advice to anyone coming out of a marriage.

[Ontarkie 14,218]

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