Walking on Eggshells with Divorce

[Ontarkie 14,313]

~~Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes, from ROC - as similar threads are discussed here~~

[A110 96]

5 minutes ago, OldUser said:

@Boiler I'm not 100% sure this is a DIY case. We're missing a lot of information:

* Was OP married before?

* Was OP in status when I-130 and I-485 were filed?

* Was OP's spouse ever married before?

* Did OP's spouse ever sponsor anybody in the past?

* What is their ethnic background (unfortunately, sometimes certain nationals have extra scrutiny or bias towards them)

 

I can see some IOs not liking the fact they rented two apartments at the same time, even in both names. That alone should be rectified.

And so on, and so on...

 

We can agree to disagree

 

I was in status. Our backgrounds do not raise a huge red flag (I changed it here for anonymity). My spouse did not sponsor anyone, but she was married before. The apartment issue is understandable, but we have plenty of travel history, and ID'd are pointing to the same address.  I don't think that is a big issue, given that are main address is the same and we do have tons of bus tickets/amtrak/ plane that shows travelling together back and forth. 

[OldUser 6,999]

@Rocio0010 Please note, I never said it's impossible to do on your own. Almost everything in life is doable on your own. Some examples:

* DIY home renovation vs hiring contractors

* Giving birth at home vs in the hospital

* Learning language yourself vs going to classes

* Growing food in your garden vs buying produce at supermarket

 

I'm just saying it's very important time in OPs life. If money isn't an issue, it's an option to have.

 

Let's try to help the OP instead of discussing whether the lawyer is needed or not.

[OldUser 6,999]

9 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Valid question for a Greencard Interview.

 

This is removing conditions.

This is all valid until OP naturalizes. And beyond, if he ever sponsors anybody else in the future.

Edited September 16, 2022 by OldUser

[Rocio0010 5,580]

5 minutes ago, Dude41 said:

I don't think that is a big issue, given that are main address is the same and we do have tons of bus tickets/amtrak/ plane that shows travelling together back and forth. 

What about joint utilities? That'd be better, more concrete evidence than the bus tickets...

[A110 96]

3 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

What about joint utilities? That'd be better, more concrete evidence than the bus tickets...

Bank Statements and Joint Investments all point to the same address. The tickets were in response to show coliving and cotravelling

[Rocio0010 5,580]

3 minutes ago, Dude41 said:

Bank Statements and Joint Investments all point to the same address. The tickets were in response to show coliving and cotravelling

Ok, up to you... But I would definitely include joint utility bills

[A110 96]

Just now, Rocio0010 said:

Ok, up to you... But I would definitely include joint utility bills

Apt is inclusive. We don't have bills in that sense.

[Rocio0010 5,580]

If it helps....

Table of Contents

Exhibit A: FORM I-751

Original xxxxxxxxBank Personal Check, in the amount of $680.00 for payment of the I-751 Petition to Remove Conditions on Residence + Biometric fee

Enlarged copy of USCIS Form I-551 front and back (Permanent Resident Card)

Original Form I-751 filled and signed by xxxx and xxxx 

Addendum I and II to Form I-751

Copy of form G-1145.

 

Exhibit B: MARRIAGE

Copy of certified marriage certificate between xxxx and xxxx, showing marriage on May 17, 2019 in Morgantown, West Virginia.

 

Exhibit 😄 COHABITATION

Copy of Owners Title Insurance Policy with original recorded warranty deed for the property located at xxxxxxxx

Copy of American Land Title Association Settlement Statement showing xxxx and xxxx as buyers of the property situated at xxxxxxxx. 

Copy of Veterans United pre- approval letter showing xxxx and xxxx as pre-approved for a home loan. Dated: Jun 18, 2021 Signed by Kris Ball (Loan Officer) 

 

Copies of xxxx xxxxxxx and xxxx xxxxxx current drivers’ licenses showing joint residence at xxxxxxxx

Copies of xxxx xxxxxand xxxxxxxxxx old drivers’ licenses showing joint residence at xxxxxxxxx

Copy of xxxx Knotts’s updated Argentinian ID listing address at xxxxxxxxx

Copies of Spectrum (Internet) monthly statements showing xxxx as responsible for paying gas and electricity in our joint residence at xxxxxxxxx

Copies of Columbia Gas of Ohio monthly statements showing xxxx as responsible for paying gas in our joint residence atxxxxxxxx

Copy of lease agreement listing us as joint tenants at previous address (xxxxxxxxxx), beginning May 28, 2019 and copies of lease renewals for the same address for subsequent terms until May 31, 2022. 

Copy of xxxx xxxxx old argentinian ID listing address at xxxxxxxxxx

Copy of Horace Mann Insurance Company new business declaration listing us as jointly covered under renters’ insurance policy number xxxxxxx  for our residence at xxxxxxxxxxxx. Effective date: 02/02/2021. Expiration date: 02/02/2022.

Copy of appointment reminder from veterinary addressed to both of us.

 

Exhibit 😧 TAX RETURNS- STATE TAXES- PROPERTY TAXES

Copies of joint IRS tax returns for 2020 and 2021.

Copy of 2021 and 2022  Monongalia County Personal Property Return filed jointly.

 

2020 and 2021 joint West Virginia Tax receipts.

  

 

Exhibit E: FINANCIAL COMMINGLING

Copies of quarterly bank statements of our joint checking account (with United Bank) since inception of the accounts on 04/19/2019 to closing of the account on xx/xx/xxxx,, showing various financial co-mingling such as Veteran United payments, rent payments, car loan payments, insurance payments, grocery shopping etc.

Copy of Chase Deposit Account Balance summary showing us as joint owners of the Chase Premier Plus Checking Account ending in 6235. Dated 10/30/2021.

 

Exhibit F: JOINT MORTGAGE STATEMENTS, UTILITIES, AND VET BILLS.

Veterans United joint mortgage statements from August 2021 to January /2022

Copies of the city of Southwest Licking Community Water & Sewer District statements showing us as jointly responsible for paying water in our joint residence xxxxxxxxx 

Copies of AEP (Electric Company) monthly statements showing us as jointly responsible for paying the electric bill in our joint residence at xxxxxxxxx

Copies of Local Waste Services monthly statements showing us as jointly responsible for paying the trash pick up in our joint residence at xxxxxxxx

Copies veterinary bills showing us as jointly responsible for paying the veterinary bill

Copy of note from landlord in Morgantown stating he was responsible for paying the utilities on the property rented at xxxxxxxxx  for the time period we lived there.

 

Exhibit G:  JOINT HEALTH AND LIFE INSURANCE OVER THE YEARS.

Copy of xxxx’s current life insurance underwritten by Principal Life Insurance company listing xxxx as beneficiary of this insurance. 

Copy of current  dental/ vision insurance (with Principal), via xxxx’s current employer, showing us both covered under the same insurance plan. Effective date: 08/09/2021.

Copy of current United Health Care insurance, via xxxx’s current employer, showing us both covered under the same insurance plan.

Public Employees Insurance Agency certification letter showing xxxx as policy holder and xxxx as covered by this insurance. 

Copy of xxxx’s life insurance underwritten by United Omaha Life Insurance Company designating spouse xxxx as beneficiary.

Copy of previous health insurance cards (Independence), via xxxx former employer (xxxxx), showing us both covered under the same (former) insurance plan.

 

EXHIBIT H: Special Permissions

One Point of Care (OPOC.US) authorization for use and disclosure of private health information, providing authorization on behalf of xxxx to disclose private health information and listing xxxx as spouse.

 

 

 

Exhibit H:  JOINT RETIREMENT ACCOUNTS

Copy of xxxx  Individual Retirement Account from Teachers Insurance and Annuity Association of America (TIIA) beneficiary designation letter? listing xxxx as beneficiary of the account.

Copy of West Virginia Consolidated Public Retirement Board Pre- Retirement Beneficiary Designation showing xxxx as member, and xxxx as beneficiary of the account. 

 

Exhibit I:  JOINT VEHICLE AND HOME INSURANCE.

Copy of xxxx ’s xxxxxxx Vehicle Insurance Card showing xxxx as covered by this insurance. Policy number: xxxxxxx . Effective date: 08/18/2021. Expiration date: 02/18/2022.

Copy of xxxx’s Vehicle Insurance Card showing xxxx as covered by this insurance. Policy number: xxxxx . Effective date: 08/20/2021. Expiration date: 08/20/2022/ 

Copy of Progressive Home Advantage Insurance policy statement listing our joint residence at xxxxxx . Policy number: xxxxx. Covered from July 23, 2021 to July 23, 2022. 

Copy of AAA (American Automobile Association) joint statement with a payment date of 11/16/2021.

Copy of xxxx xxxx Farm Vehicle Insurance Card and Renewal Policies showing xxxx xxxx as covered by this insurance. Policy number:xxxxxx. Covered from February 10, 2020  to July 9,2020.

Copy of xxxx xxxx State Farm Vehicle Insurance Card and Renewal Policies showing xxxx xxxxxx as covered by this insurance. Policy number: xxxxxxx. Covered from July 09, 2020  to January 09,2021.

Copy of xxxx xxxxxx State Farm Vehicle Insurance Card and Renewal Policies showing xxxx xxxxx as covered by this insurance. Policy number: xxxxxx. Covered from January 09, 2021  to July 9,2021.

 

Exhibit K: JOINT MEMBERSHIPS

Copies of Sam’s membership listing xxxx xxxxx as a complimentary member of the account.

 

Exhibit L: TRIPS TAKEN TOGETHER

Flight reservations for our (postponed due to COVID) trip to Argentina in July 2020.

 

EXHIBIT M: EMERGENCY CONTACT INFORMATION:

West Virginia University Outpatient Face Sheet for patient xxxx listing, xxxx, as emergency contact.

Family Vision Clinic patient sheet  for patient xxxx listing, xxxx, as emergency contact.

Paylocity profile for xxxx, listing husband xxxx as emergency contact.

Orthopedic ONE Patient Information sheet  for patient xxxx listing, xxxx, as emergency contact.

 

Exhibit N: PICTURES

Copies of photos of us together at various events with family and friends throughout the years

Copy of wedding pics.

Include some of everyday pics already sent with AOS.

 

Exhibit O: 

Copies of greeting cards, letters and packages from family and friends addressed to us throughout the years

[Rocio0010 5,580]

19 hours ago, Dude41 said:

Joint tax returns, joint bank accounts, joint investment accounts

Awesome.

 

19 hours ago, Dude41 said:

• 3 big trips together
• multiple small trips (Amtrack, bus tickets) 
• She cosigning my student loans
• Joint lease 
• Joint insurance and dental
• having each other as beneficiary on 401k accounts

Perfect

 

19 hours ago, Dude41 said:

So many pictures together

I would include not more than 10 throughout the years, into a Word document with captions, roughly explaining the event and the date. For example, Sophia and I at (friend) Jack's wedding, May 2021.

 

19 hours ago, Dude41 said:

Being from the same country

No, strike that off. Irrelevant.

[Boiler 45,743]

Talking of plus points she is on the hook for the I 864 and I assume Student Loans, so good negotiating points.

 

I can only recollect 2 people who failed to remove conditions, one admitted in writing the marriage was for an Immigrant benefit, the other disappeared a few weeks after entry and moved in with his GF.

 

There have been hundreds of posts from disappointed USC's who want to get their ex deported.

[A110 96]

On 9/16/2022 at 5:27 PM, Boiler said:

Talking of plus points she is on the hook for the I 864 and I assume Student Loans, so good negotiating points.

 

I can only recollect 2 people who failed to remove conditions, one admitted in writing the marriage was for an Immigrant benefit, the other disappeared a few weeks after entry and moved in with his GF.

 

There have been hundreds of posts from disappointed USC's who want to get their ex deported.

I am not too worried about my (our) I751 getting denied. I have seen some very weird cases getting approved and to your point unless there is a VERY clear evidence the whole thing was a sham it's hard to prove otherwise (the I751 Denials due to fraud is very low as you are also well aware and most are due to incorrect info, wrong timing and not providing divorce decree in time,etc) but I also know that there are so many cases (Relatively speaking) whose 751 got approved after a 4-5 year struggle. Now I don't think my spouse will write to USCIS given she is on the hook for 40K of loans and some joint assets  (I obviously can't hold back her portion but things will go UGLY for both parties) but I do have a professional career and the last thing I want is for this thing to drag longer than it has to. 

We did enter the marriage in good faith and our IO was very very cool during the interview and kept saying sweet stuff about us, there is nothing weird about our case and we dated for two years prior, I am trying to make this case as straighforward as possible. 

 

As for the marriage itself it has led into a weird toxic / codependent state that sadly is also the very biproduct of a "normal bonafide marriage" or else there would be no negative emotions floating around while being emotionally attached. 

 

Sorry for the long rant.

[OldUser 6,999]

@Dude41 even a straightforward "married filed jointly" case nowadays can take 12-24 months to get approved. In your place I'd focus finalizing the divorce and filing I-751 accurately with a lot of evidence. The processing times are our of your control. You have a valid status for all the years I-751 is pending. Worst case, you would be getting I-551 stamps in your passport every year after extension letter expiration. But this doesn't limit your ability to work, travel etc.