What are the implications of K1 visa Marriage falls apart?

[Silentcloud 25]

27 minutes ago, Adventine said:

I believe the EADs will allow the kids to get social security numbers. Also, the 15 year old will soon qualify to apply for a driver's license. Depends on the state, but some require an EAD and SS number to grant a learner's permit and eventually a full license.

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SSN is part of the I-485 form and not EAD. Here is the screenshot.

[Silentcloud 25]

20 minutes ago, Family said:

And you only need one set of supporting documents PER person/ packet, not per form

. You will put each packet in its own envelope , then place all 3 in a Large Priority Mail Flat Rate box and write on top 

“ Family of three do not separate 

Thanks. Will do.

[Crazy Cat 41,898]

35 minutes ago, Silentcloud said:

I think it is illegal for kids to work under 18

In Texas, it's 14.

[Family 4,009]

The work permit is not limited to working age , and available for minors. It is the only  evidence of STATUS until Green Card. 
 

 

[Chancy 6,241]

13 minutes ago, Silentcloud said:

SSN is part of the I-485 form and not EAD. Here is the screenshot.

 

SSN application is also part of the I-765 form.  Screenshot --

 

 

[Adventine 3,196]

@Silentcloud as you can see from @Chancy 's screenshot the EAD form (I-765) also has fields to request for SSNs. There is a certain amount of overlap between the forms because they are used for many kinds of applications, not just AOS from K1.

 

People are recommending you apply for EADs for the kids, not so that they can work (although that's a nice bonus) but so that they can easily get SSNs, get IDs and evidence of their status in the US while waiting for their green cards. Depending on your field office, the green cards could take 1-2 years to be granted. The EADs usually arrive much earlier than that.

[Silentcloud 25]

After I patched up with her tendering apologies even though there was no fault on my end it went on a couple weeks and the situation went really bad. She decided to go back to Ukraine and I said sure. She initially was suggesting that she didn't want a divorce but just go away for good. I told her that she can go away but only after the divorce has been filed. She said that she wants to continue our relationship after the divorce and expecting me to come meet her in Ukraine or any other neighboring countries in the Europe. She said she has a great connection with me which she didn't have with anyone before and I'm a great husband and a father taking care of her kids. I have said very softly that it is not going work and it is very expensive to continue the relationship. I'll be her free sponsor to take her around the world bearing all the expenses for her. I don't make big money and also I don't want to have that long distance headache with no future.

 

I approached a local attorney for a no fault divorce and he assured me that she wouldn't get any alimony. The documents got prepared and gave them to her to read through at this point. Yesterday, she was asking to appoint a separate legal counsel for her at my cost and also reminded me of my financial responsibility towards her. I said I'm not going to do that and she can get an attorney on her own. I'm extremely exhausted and tired and just want to get over with and get back to my single happy life. After going through all the effort life has taught me a big lesson that showing unconditional love, respect and value to someone wouldn't get even 10% of that back. I'm not sad by any means but will take at least an year or more to get over all the financial and emotional loss and I have determined to stay single the rest of my life.

 

Thanks all for your emotional support and direction.

Edited September 1, 2022 by Silentcloud

[Boiler 45,557]

The best and cheapest investment you can make now are one way tickets for them.

 

What sort of support does she think you owe her?

 

I would also read up about VAWA.

[Silentcloud 25]

I don't know what she is expecting but I think she is talking a bunch of people on facebook and think that she can get a lot of money from me keeping the divorce law in this country i.e 50% of my income during the period of marriage or something like that. For 2.5 months of marriage doesn't get her anything. She wants to rush back to Ukraine right now and if she contests the uncontested route I took then she has to stay here and fight the case which will take a very long time and might turn out to be very expensive for me feeding the lawyers. As per law she wouldn't get anything but to get to that point to prove it, it might take a while. I lost a boat load of money to support them when they were in Ukraine, Poland and Germany and then bring them over here. It seems like a tourism trip for her i.e free ride to see America and then go back if she doesn't like it. Nothing could be more cruel than that.

[Boiler 45,557]

Reluctantly offer those tickets.

[Family 4,009]

That hurts. I feel for you. 
There are many on VJ that are well versed  AND posses a “ Special Set of Skills “ in divorce/family law, I hope they read your post and jump in. 
 

I say: 

Diid you properly serve her ? Or just have her look papers over…I hope you served. 
 

Buy the tickets for her ASASP, without further talks/ negotiations between the two of you.
It’s tough since she is still in the home…but STOP discussing terms with her…just say your heart is broken and that you are sure the court will settle fairly for everyone. 
THEN stop communicating on anything divorce related…YOU will be ok .
 

IT will be less costly for you IF she leaves .

Once filed and served, she needs to figure out a way to pay her own attorney or DIY it…even if she is outside the country, Court can accommodate in her appearance by zoom. …

 

 

 

[Family 4,009]

49 minutes ago, Silentcloud said:

expensive for me feeding the lawyers

You only pay YOUR attorney…no matter her wishes , and I don’t know a single one that will take her case on the contingency that “ MAYBE we get paid at the end of the proceedings by the other spouse”.

 

You know that old saying: Be careful what you wish for..you might just get it! Accommodate her wish.

CLOSE your eyes and book the flights. 

[Ontarkie 14,234]

There is no need for her to stay in the US for the divorce. Big mistake trying to get her to stay for the entire thing. She is now talking to ppl on FB which can instruct her to do crazy things. 

Give her what she wants a ticket home now. Discuss the legal stuff later once she is home. 

[Strawberrymermaid 346]

3 hours ago, Silentcloud said:

After I patched up with her tendering apologies even though there was no fault on my end it went on a couple weeks and the situation went really bad. She decided to go back to Ukraine and I said sure. She initially was suggesting that she didn't want a divorce but just go away for good. I told her that she can go away but only after the divorce has been filed. She said that she wants to continue our relationship after the divorce and expecting me to come meet her in Ukraine or any other neighboring countries in the Europe. She said she has a great connection with me which she didn't have with anyone before and I'm a great husband and a father taking care of her kids. I have said very softly that it is not going work and it is very expensive to continue the relationship. I'll be her free sponsor to take her around the world bearing all the expenses for her. I don't make big money and also I don't want to have that long distance headache with no future.

 

I approached a local attorney for a no fault divorce and he assured me that she wouldn't get any alimony. The documents got prepared and gave them to her to read through at this point. Yesterday, she was asking to appoint a separate legal counsel for her at my cost and also reminded me of my financial responsibility towards her. I said I'm not going to do that and she can get an attorney on her own. I'm extremely exhausted and tired and just want to get over with and get back to my single happy life. After going through all the effort life has taught me a big lesson that showing unconditional love, respect and value to someone wouldn't get even 10% of that back. I'm not sad by any means but will take at least an year or more to get over all the financial and emotional loss and I have determined to stay single the rest of my life.

 

Thanks all for your emotional support and direction.

Im really sorry this happened. My marriage also didn't work out but I realized before he got to the US that we were not a good fit.

 

Has she been officially served? I tried to serve my ex in Russia via email and hoped he would waive service but he did not so I'm having to jump through hoops to officially serve him. I would confirm with your lawyer that they can be officially served as her being back in Ukraine will greatly complicate that. It sounds like if she wants a lawyer and isn't going to sign then it might not be uncontested. I am dealing with the same. I am going to have to pay my ex husband to settle even though we never lived together and were only married 16 months. Its insane. 

 

Did you sign I-864?

[Boiler 45,557]

K1 not adjusted so only the I 134. Sounds like the FB guidance she is getting is I 864 related.