Got visa issued but wifey don't want anymore

[Josh or 18]

23 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

I guess questions are"

1.  Can u afford to buy the plane ticket?

2.  does she even talk to u now or has blocked u?

3.  do u have a place to go if she doesn't allow u to stay with her?

4.  can u change the address for delivery of green card at POE so u get the card as otherwise green card will go to her address?

I can afford to buy tickets in two weeks time

She still talks to me, but she said she doesn't want me to come and will mail the embassy about her decision

Yes I have a place to go

And last question. Yes

[davidvs 337]

46 minutes ago, Josh or said:

 

She still talks to me, but she said she doesn't want me to come and will mail the embassy about her decision

 

If she doesn't want you to come, stay home. 

[Crazy Cat 41,619]

3 hours ago, African Zealot said:

Although long term that would be cheaper and skip some steps in the stressful immigration journey, in this case I don’t support waiting one second more than necessary.

Agree.....I was giving the wife the benefit of a doubt....but I agree with you...

[Greektide 15]

Personally, I find no reason why you would want to come to USA since the marriage seems to be somehow over.Is it worth it ? And yes , America is NOT a paradise……..( my opinion).

[Timona 4,207]

2 hours ago, Josh or said:

I can afford to buy tickets in two weeks time

She still talks to me, but she said she doesn't want me to come and will mail the embassy about her decision

Yes I have a place to go

And last question. Yes

 

What is the reason she's giving? Honestly, "don't come anymore" isn't a reason. 

I am sure there is a specific reason as to why she doesn't want you to come anymore. If you caused it, I see no reason for you to fight to immigrate. If it's on her, then ethically, you can. 

 

We're only hearing your side of the story here. If you could be bold enough and honestly tell us the reason why she doesn't want you to come, then we can have a broader picture on what's best course of action. 

 

Or tell her to join VJ.

 

P.S: In your initial post, you said "she wants to go separate ways because you're coming too soon." Now it has changed to "she doesn't want me to come anymore." Honestly, who would want to divorce because their husband is coming home "earlier than planned"? Infact, she should be happy.

 

Unfortunately, I'm not buying this story. Sorry. I'm out!

 

Sorry @Mike E I had to borrow your phrase for today. You can have it tomorrow. 😁

Edited July 11, 2022 by Timona

[Ontarkie 14,193]

5 hours ago, MarJhi said:

So essentially the only real issue would be if the wife (if she chose to be that vindictive) told the authorities the marriage was a sham from the beginning and that she and the OP were committing immigration fraud from the beginning. Outside of that the OP is good to go?

She does not need to claim fraud. All she has to do is call the CBP or the Embassy or both and tell them she is getting a divorce and pulling her AOS until he actually enters the US she can still pull it. 

 

Looks like she has already told the OP she is messaging the embassy. They do not always tell the beneficiary to come back and void the visa. They just need to void in and he will be flagged. 

[African Zealot 1,455]

3 hours ago, Josh or said:

I can afford to buy tickets in two weeks time

 

It might be too late for you. If you need to see a loan shark, and get money to leave tomorrow, do it. Your predicament is dire.

Edited July 11, 2022 by African Zealot

[Mike E 11,739]

4 hours ago, HarryWL said:

 

Sadly once you leave America and travel more, this statement loses its foundation. 

True dat. I understated. America is the most advanced country on the planet currently and in all history of the planet.  And I’ve been to over 50 countries. Including yours. 

[nastra30 2,281]

Who would have thought. People praying to be with their spouse sooner and having to go through the torture of the waiting process, and all of a sudden spouse says oh btw don't come. And to think that she helped you through the process with fees, supplying docs, affidavit of support, etc and to say don't come. Wow. My wild guess, she has a new man.

It's up to you on how you want to play this - come or not to come.

To come - means like come now before things change with the visa. lol. And then try to work things out or divorce.

Not to come- well you are still home. divorce and move on.

[Family 3,988]

16 hours ago, Josh or said:

17 hours ago, Family said:

Until OP clears POE, the wife can try to do many things, so hopefully he feels comfortable providing some details .

Thank you very much. But like what details?

Details such as : 

When she “  broke it off” , said she doesn’t want you to come , WHAT WAS SHE COMPLAINING ABOUT? 

So what dis she actually say she is mad/ sad/ ticked off about IN HER Relationship/ marriage to YOU? 

 

Did she not know about your interview date?

When was the interview? What date was your visa issued and in your hand? Does she even KNOW you were approved? ( am assuming some AP delay between interview date and visa issuance)
 

Because I can’t imagine she broke off with a short one line text …so there must have been a minimum of a few HOURS,  days of dialogue between the two of you..ALL centered on her shocking decision…

 

Most USC Petitioners that  have pulled out at the last moment say their long distance love was unfaithful..

 

 

[Cathi 5,742]

If it were me I would be borrowing money for the ticket from every family member and friend possible. Two weeks from now will be too late. Please keep us updated with the outcome.

[TBoneTX 45,043]

6 hours ago, Timona said:

Or tell her to join VJ

Not if he wants to retain a shred of a prayer of coming to the U.S.

[Ellie_7 103]

Yes, please keep us updated with the outcome.

[SalishSea 17,751]

On 7/10/2022 at 9:42 PM, Josh or said:

And after my arrival if she didn't want things work out I can still  find my way around in the USA, 

Your visa and future green card is based entirely on a bonafide marriage.  You are standing on shaky ground here with marriage fraud.

[retheem 564]

4 hours ago, Jorgedig said:

Your visa and future green card is based entirely on a bonafide marriage.  You are standing on shaky ground here with marriage fraud.

But seriously this is lack of thinking. He should be typing this while in the US