Got visa issued but wifey don't want anymore

[Josh or 18]

Pleas advise. I got my cr1 visa issued, but my wife now wants us to go our seperate ways, as she complained I'm coming too soon, but I believe that's just an excuse she doesn't want me to come to her. But pleas can I still make entry into the USA?. Pleas advise how I can go about this.

[Ontarkie 14,322]

~~Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes, from IR1/CR1 P&P - as similar threads are discussed here~~

[arken 4,197]

12 minutes ago, Josh or said:

But pleas can I still make entry into the USA?. Pleas advise how I can go about this.

I'd say surprise her by traveling tomorrow and tell her, "Surprise, your husband is home, now you are hooked up with i864." May be the eroding love may bounce back. You want to be with your wife, travel to the US asap. Then figure out in person.
 

Edited July 11, 2022 by arken

[Mike E 11,741]

Enter the USA today before she notifies the embassy and/or CBP she wants to withdraw her petition and/or I-864.  
 

Once in the USA if she wants to divorce you she can, and you can then file I-751 under a divorce waiver. 
 

You should not enter the USA with the intent to get divorced. You intent should be get over a rough patch in your marriage.  
 

In the flip side if she were posting what to do, I’d tell her to notify the embassy, uscis, and CBP that she is withdrawing her petitions.  

Edited July 11, 2022 by Mike E

[TBoneTX 45,661]

Agreed -- accelerate your move.  Meanwhile, try to work out your issues, and continue working on them after you arrive.

[Timona 4,208]

1 hour ago, Josh or said:

Pleas advise. I got my cr1 visa issued, but my wife now wants us to go our seperate ways, as she complained I'm coming too soon, but I believe that's just an excuse she doesn't want me to come to her. But pleas can I still make entry into the USA?. Pleas advise how I can go about this.

 

 

Just make sure there's no other bird warming that nest. I wouldn't even encourage you to stay at her address, should a fight ensure and being fresh of the boat, you don't know where to seek help. 

Edited July 11, 2022 by Timona

[PGA 251]

SERIOUSLY? You people are awful. Don't encourage this person to come to someone who obviously has lost interest....and only for the visa? ...and from Diamond members and moderators....shame.

Edited July 11, 2022 by PGA

[Redro 4,611]

1 hour ago, Josh or said:

Pleas advise. I got my cr1 visa issued, but my wife now wants us to go our seperate ways, as she complained I'm coming too soon, but I believe that's just an excuse she doesn't want me to come to her. But pleas can I still make entry into the USA?. Pleas advise how I can go about this.

 

1 hour ago, arken said:

I'd say surprise her by traveling tomorrow and tell her, "Surprise, your husband is home, now you are hooked up with i864." May be the eroding love may bounce back. You want to be with your wife, travel to the US asap. Then figure out in person.
 

 

1 hour ago, Mike E said:

Enter the USA today before she notifies the embassy and/or CBP she wants to withdraw her petition and/or I-864.  
 

Once in the USA if she wants to divorce you she can, and you can then file I-751 under a divorce waiver. 
 

You should not enter the USA with the intent to get divorced. You intent should be get over a rough patch in your marriage.  
 

In the flip side if she were posting what to do, I’d tell her to notify the embassy, uscis, and CBP that she is withdrawing her petitions.  

 

46 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

Agreed -- accelerate your move.  Meanwhile, try to work out your issues, and continue working on them after you arrive.

 

13 minutes ago, PGA said:

SERIOUSLY? You people are awful. Don't encourage this person to come to someone who obviously has lost interest....and only for the visa? ...and from Diamond members and moderators....shame.

According to profile: OP is from Nigeria.

If things go south as soon as he arrives and he files for ROC with divorce waiver after never having lived with his spouse I don't think we'll have a happy ending. 

Depending on when the visa expires I would have a chat with the wife and try for counseling. If she is adamant about splitting don't go to the US. 

Edited July 11, 2022 by ROK2USA

[Timona 4,208]

@Josh or what is the reason why wifey changed her mind? Honest reason 

[PGA 251]

2 minutes ago, ROK2USA said:

 

 

 

 

OP is from Nigeria.

If things go south as soon as he arrives and he files for ROC with divorce waiver after never having lived with his spouse I don't think we'll have a happy ending. 

Depending on when the visa expires I would have a chat with the wife and try for counseling. If she is adamant about splitting don't go to the US. 

I agree...it is absolutely ridiculous to me that diamond members and moderators are actually recommending this as a strategy. It will be a world of hurt for this person and they are actually encouraging it. 

[Redro 4,611]

5 minutes ago, PGA said:

I agree...it is absolutely ridiculous to me that diamond members and moderators are actually recommending this as a strategy. It will be a world of hurt for this person and they are actually encouraging it. 

Especially as this just happened to an applicant from Nigeria where the USC was a little iffy on the relationship:

OP I would not travel to the US. There is a chance your partner has flagged your visa and you do not want to deal with being detained. 

[MarJhi 964]

2 hours ago, Josh or said:

Pleas advise. I got my cr1 visa issued, but my wife now wants us to go our seperate ways, as she complained I'm coming too soon, but I believe that's just an excuse she doesn't want me to come to her. But pleas can I still make entry into the USA?. Pleas advise how I can go about this.

Hmmm, are you more concerned about the end of the relationship or gaining entry into the US?

 

Do you know why it's "too soon" in her opinion for you to come to the US?

 

If you did make entry into the US and she wanted nothing to do with you, what is your plan?

[Josh or 18]

2 hours ago, Josh or said:

Pleas advise. I got my cr1 visa issued, but my wife now wants us to go our seperate ways, as she complained I'm coming too soon, but I believe that's just an excuse she doesn't want me to come to her. But pleas can I still make entry into the USA?. Pleas advise how I can go about this.

 

1 hour ago, ROK2USA said:

 

 

 

 

According to profile: OP is from Nigeria.

If things go south as soon as he arrives and he files for ROC with divorce waiver after never having lived with his spouse I don't think we'll have a happy ending. 

Depending on when the visa expires I would have a chat with the wife and try for counseling. If she is adamant about splitting don't go to the US. 

I'm going because I want us to see in person and try to work things out, as the process took three years and been two years we seen. And after my arrival if she didn't want things work out I can still  find my way around in the USA,  but my major concern is, is there anything she may do like sending email to uscis or something that could stop them from allowing me entry into the USA.? Has my visa already issued.

[Mike E 11,741]

1 hour ago, Timona said:

 

 

Just make sure there's no other bird warming that nest. I wouldn't even encourage you to stay at her address, should a fight ensure and being fresh of the boat, you don't know where to seek help. 

She signed documents asserting OP would live with her. There are legal consequences to denying a spouses access to their homes.  
 

1 hour ago, PGA said:

SERIOUSLY? You people are awful. Don't encourage this person to come to someone who obviously has lost interest....and only for the visa? ...and from Diamond members and moderators....shame.

OP and wife convinced either other, USCIS, and State the relationship was bonafide. OP has a right to figure out what is going on with the relationship 

 

1 hour ago, ROK2USA said:

 

 

 

 

According to profile: OP is from Nigeria.

If things go south as soon as he arrives and he files for ROC with divorce waiver after never having lived with his spouse I don't think we'll have a happy ending. 

Depending on when the visa expires I would have a chat with the wife and try for counseling. If she is adamant about splitting don't go to the US. 

That observation seems to be employing a stereotype.  
 

1 hour ago, PGA said:

I agree...it is absolutely ridiculous to me that diamond members and moderators are actually recommending this as a strategy. It will be a world of hurt for this person and they are actually encouraging it. 

Lawfully moving  to the most  advanced country in the planet is the opposite of a world of hurt.  

1 hour ago, ROK2USA said:

Especially as this just happened to an applicant from Nigeria where the USC was a little iffy on the relationship:

OP I would not travel to the US. There is a chance your partner has flagged your visa and you do not want to deal with being detained. 

I’ve been detained several times by CBP, INS, UK border force, Australian border force.  If one cannot cope with that possibility, one should not travel internationally. 
 

Based on the post, OP has done nothing wrong and will not be doing anything wrong by coming to America. 
 

1 hour ago, MarJhi said:

Hmmm, are you more concerned about the end of the relationship or gaining entry into the US?

 

Do you know why it's "too soon" in her opinion for you to come to the US?

 

If you did make entry into the US and she wanted nothing to do with you, what is your plan?

1. Get a job 

 

2. find a place to live. 
 

3. remind her that she has to provide financial support when his income falls below $1400 a month 

 

4. Find a lawyer skilled in the art of enforcing number 3

 

OP’s wife had a choice. And still has choices. OP is supposed to wait in limbo until it is “convenient”? Is OP an object or thing?

 

 

Edited July 11, 2022 by Mike E

[Mundo254 50]

54 minutes ago, Mike E said:

She signed documents asserting OP would live with her. There are legal consequences to denying a spouses access to their homes.  
 

OP and wife convinced either other, USCIS, and State the relationship was bonafide. OP has a right to figure out what is going on with the relationship 

 

That observation seems to be employing a stereotype.  
 

Lawfully moving  to the most  advanced country in the planet is the opposite of a world of hurt.  

I’ve been detained several times by CBP, INS, UK border force, Australian border force.  If one cannot cope with that possibility, one should not travel internationally. 
 

Based on the post, OP has done nothing wrong and will not be doing anything wrong by coming to America. 
 

1. Get a job 

 

2. find a place to live. 
 

3. remind her that she has to provide financial support when his income falls below $1400 a month 

 

4. Find a lawyer skilled in the art of enforcing number 3

 

OP’s wife had a choice. And still has choices. OP is supposed to wait in limbo until it is “convenient”? Is OP an object or thing?

 

 

Perfectly put.