spousal abandament

[bullettandmo 2]

hello. I writing this because I have been abandoned by my wife who is the green card holder. I  asM as us citizen. We have been married less than 3 years. She has totally left our marriage and refuses to pay our rent at our apartment. She obtained a well paying job so we moved into an apartment that i cannot afford by myself. She refuses to pay the rent. Now she is wanting a divorce and so do i, but i feel as she used me to get a green card. She now prefers to party with her friends from work instead of being a wife. i would like to raise an objection to her being able to get the 2 year condition removed from her green card. is there anything I can do? i would like her to be deported? 

[Rocio0010 5,579]

File for divorce, let her figure out the rest. You’re still on the hook for I-864.

[carmel34 3,626]

2 hours ago, bullettandmo said:

i would like to raise an objection to her being able to get the 2 year condition removed from her green card. is there anything I can do? i would like her to be deported? 

You can't do anything to have her deported, as she can file the I-751 with a divorce waiver, which will likely be approved since the relationship was bona fide when her conditional green card was approved, based on all the evidence you submitted.  If you have documentation that proves she committed immigration fraud, you could send it to USCIS, but there is no way to know if they will do anything about it or not.  Focus on the divorce and move on with your life.  Good luck!

 

https://www.uscis.gov/report-fraud/uscis-tip-form

[arken 4,197]

2 hours ago, bullettandmo said:

She now prefers to party with her friends from work instead of being a wife.

 Not exactly sure what it meant but you won't look good if you say such in any of the future actions like divorce or complaints.

 

 

2 hours ago, bullettandmo said:

 

i would like to raise an objection to her being able to get the 2 year condition removed from her green card. is there anything I can do? i would like her to be deported?

As said, she got the GC based on lots of evidences you provided. One complaint doesn't cancel the GC. Only if you have paper-trail evidences (not what you think) of her committing fraud by marrying you just to get GC, then uscis may think of taking some actions. Otherwise she can get the 10 yr GC by herself after divorce. Moving on is good for you if you two can't patch up.

[bullettandmo 2]

if i cant get her deported. Then can i file for spousal support as part of the divorce.  since i now am going to be living in a standard below what i was living. she made almost triple what i made. 

[Crazy Cat 41,850]

3 hours ago, bullettandmo said:

hello. I writing this because I have been abandoned by my wife who is the green card holder. I  asM as us citizen. We have been married less than 3 years. She has totally left our marriage and refuses to pay our rent at our apartment. She obtained a well paying job so we moved into an apartment that i cannot afford by myself. She refuses to pay the rent. Now she is wanting a divorce and so do i, but i feel as she used me to get a green card. She now prefers to party with her friends from work instead of being a wife. i would like to raise an objection to her being able to get the 2 year condition removed from her green card. is there anything I can do? i would like her to be deported? 

1.  Find a good attorney, protect yourself, and divorce.

2.  Move on and let go.  Her immigration is now her concern.

3.  Seek happiness for yourself.

You have no power to have her deported.  Did you forget that YOU have provided a great deal of evidence to prove a bonafide relationship?  Good luck.  I hope you find peace.

 

8 minutes ago, bullettandmo said:

if i cant get her deported. Then can i file for spousal support as part of the divorce.  since i now am going to be living in a standard below what i was living. she made almost triple what i made. 

Discuss that with your divorce attorney.  

Edited July 5, 2022 by Crazy Cat

[Crazy Cat 41,850]

By the way, a divorce does not change the obligations associated with an I-864.   

[Verrou 1,962]

get a divorce lawyer. nothing u can do about greencard. and saying " she like to party instead of being a wife" doesnt sound great either

[African Zealot 1,455]

1 hour ago, bullettandmo said:

if i cant get her deported. Then can i file for spousal support as part of the divorce.  since i now am going to be living in a standard below what i was living. she made almost triple what i made. 

Absolutely! Go after her money. We’re in 2022, equality of the sexes. A man is allowed to do what women routinely do.

 

😁

Edited July 5, 2022 by African Zealot

[Aluvaboy 66]

14 minutes ago, African Zealot said:

Absolutely! Go after her money. We’re in 2022, equality of the sexes. A man is allowed to do what women routinely do.

 

😁

It has nothing to do with equality of sexes! And "going after her money" is not going to happen either. The person with more money hires better lawyer(s) and gets a better verdict for them compared with the guy with no money or little money! The OP would be better off forgetting the whole thing and moving on! 

[African Zealot 1,455]

4 minutes ago, Aluvaboy said:

It has nothing to do with equality of sexes! And "going after her money" is not going to happen either. The person with more money hires better lawyer(s) and gets a better verdict for them compared with the guy with no money or little money! The OP would be better off forgetting the whole thing and moving on! 

You have a problem with it? 😂🤣😂

[Alex&Nayden 91]

2 hours ago, bullettandmo said:

if i cant get her deported. Then can i file for spousal support as part of the divorce.  since i now am going to be living in a standard below what i was living. she made almost triple what i made. 

It sounds like you are more upset that she is now making more money and as a result "she needs to be deported."

My advice: get a divorce and move on with your life. Focus that anger and energy on bettering yourself and gaining new skills so maybe you can earn the same salary as her because it sounds like that's what really upsets you. 

Edited July 5, 2022 by Alex&Nayden

[arken 4,197]

2 hours ago, bullettandmo said:

Then can i file for spousal support as part of the divorce.  since i now am going to be living in a standard below what i was living. she made almost triple what i made.

You can go for it.

[beloved_dingo 1,976]

1 hour ago, Aluvaboy said:

It has nothing to do with equality of sexes! And "going after her money" is not going to happen either. The person with more money hires better lawyer(s) and gets a better verdict for them compared with the guy with no money or little money! The OP would be better off forgetting the whole thing and moving on! 

That is not true, it is pretty standard for spouses that make considerable more money to pay spousal support or alimony to a dependent spouse regardless of expensive lawyers or gender, however in OP's case he will have a harder time because the marriage is short. Regardless, it is likely that a judge would at least enter a pendente lite order stating that the marital bills must be paid fairly, so the wife would have to contribute to rent again (and pay towards past due bills, etc.) in that case. 

 

Judges do not take kindly to one spouse refusing to pay bills or contribute to the marital estate during the pendency of a divorce, so it looks even worse that she stopped paying/contributing before a divorce was even filed. 

 

(I worked in family law for 5 years)

Edited July 5, 2022 by beloved_dingo

[Mobius1 175]

6 hours ago, bullettandmo said:

hello. I writing this because I have been abandoned by my wife who is the green card holder. I  asM as us citizen. We have been married less than 3 years. She has totally left our marriage and refuses to pay our rent at our apartment. She obtained a well paying job so we moved into an apartment that i cannot afford by myself. She refuses to pay the rent. Now she is wanting a divorce and so do i, but i feel as she used me to get a green card. She now prefers to party with her friends from work instead of being a wife. i would like to raise an objection to her being able to get the 2 year condition removed from her green card. is there anything I can do? i would like her to be deported? 

I have heard this way too many times, a USC flexing muscles over an immigrant they initially brought here (my first hand experience), if the immigrant doesn't follow their orders. So has USCIS, which is why they have put protections in place for those innocent immigrants as well as punishments for abusive ones. Let them figure it out but if you feel strongly about it, you can write to them explaining how she used you. Rest assured she will be grilled and decision awarded properly if found guilty with lack of marital evidence. 

 

 

Edited July 5, 2022 by Mobius1