More than a serious concern!

[MelindaandTarek 0]

Im sorry to hear this. I cant answer ur ?s or tell you what to do because I am not in your shoes. I suggest, like others have her, to give yourself some time to figure this out. Follow your heart and do what seems right for you...my thoughts are with you at this difficult time...

[Susan&Pete 0]

Thank you all for such kind thoughts and expressions. It truly means alot coming from couples who are going thru this process and distance from one another. The "everyday couples" that don't have to expierence being apart from one another, all the paperwork and fees and delays in planning a wedding (because you simply can't), they don't understand the dynamics of relationship that we have. They just see a one sided relationship that's not normal.

I have come to the conclusion that as far as our relationship goes, I'm giving him a couple of days to prove, beyond any doubt to me that anything maybe salvagable. i.e. I'm checking out if the relationship. The ball is in his court. He should start sending flowers everyday to my work. Even if he has to panhandle in the streets for money to do it. I deserve to showered with as much affection possible given the distance. And so on. -- But I don't think he going to do this.

In the meantime, I am going to start selling some of his things. The is not being done of malice, I'm covering expenses.

[britty 1]

Thank you all for such kind thoughts and expressions. It truly means alot coming from couples who are going thru this process and distance from one another. The "everyday couples" that don't have to expierence being apart from one another, all the paperwork and fees and delays in planning a wedding (because you simply can't), they don't understand the dynamics of relationship that we have. They just see a one sided relationship that's not normal.

I have come to the conclusion that as far as our relationship goes, I'm giving him a couple of days to prove, beyond any doubt to me that anything maybe salvagable. i.e. I'm checking out if the relationship. The ball is in his court. He should start sending flowers everyday to my work. Even if he has to panhandle in the streets for money to do it. I deserve to showered with as much affection possible given the distance. And so on. -- But I don't think he going to do this.

In the meantime, I am going to start selling some of his things. The is not being done of malice, I'm covering expenses.

I think the key here is whether he actually had a relationship with another woman or simply slept with her. Neither is excusable however one doesnt involve feelings etc. Its all very well for him to be sorry but if he really cared as much as you do, how could he do this to you? Only you can make the decision.

[L_n_O 3]

good luck hun

I hope you figure out what you want