Fiancee is ready for a baby....

[Daphne . 1,866]

As others have mentioned as well, I would think twice about the ‘baby making’ until you passed the first (of many) immigration hurdles.

[RO_AH 1,659]

9 hours ago, Crazy Cat said:

I would exercise a great deal of caution....I would wait.

She is 38...Waiting may not be the best option.

[RO_AH 1,659]

9 hours ago, GinoNiña said:

My question is about how much monetary support should I provide for her during her pregnancy?

She is suggesting 50k/mo.?? That's a lot if you ask me. I was sending that to support my wife, her parents and younger sister who I was also putting through college along with our 2 children. So yeah 50k seems a lot. 

 

It could interfere with immigration but hard to say, maybe you will complete in time to have her come here. If not she would have to deliver there and apply for and receive a CRBA before your child could come here with her.

[RO_AH 1,659]

9 hours ago, Crazy Cat said:

It will mean another K-2.

I think he would need a CRBA not a k-2

[Adventine 3,196]

13 hours ago, RO_AH said:

I think he would need a CRBA not a k-2

 

This depends on Gino's history. He mentioned he was born and raised in the PH. He may not qualify for a CRBA. 

 

If the child does not qualify to be a US citizen at birth then the process becomes so much more complicated.

[GinoNiña 182]

15 minutes ago, Adventine said:

 

This depends on Gino's history. He mentioned he was born and raised in the PH. He may not qualify for a CRBA. 

 

If the child does not qualify to be a US citizen at birth then the process becomes so much more complicated.

Good point. But I’m US naturalized since 1990 and re-acquisition my  Philippines citizens 10yrs ago. I’m holding dual citizen. 

[GinoNiña 182]

14 hours ago, RO_AH said:

She is suggesting 50k/mo.?? That's a lot if you ask me. I was sending that to support my wife, her parents and younger sister who I was also putting through college along with our 2 children. So yeah 50k seems a lot. 

 

It could interfere with immigration but hard to say, maybe you will complete in time to have her come here. If not she would have to deliver there and apply for and receive a CRBA before your child could come here with her.

This will include for herself, her 14 yr old son, parents and a niece as well. Parents does not work. She lost her job during Covid.

But I think 50K pesos is still too steep. The house has no mortgage and live in the semi province area. They pay electric and water. 

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On 5/14/2022 at 1:51 AM, GinoNiña said:

Due to an enormous backlog my fiancee and I are thinking of having a baby while she is awaiting for her K1 visa interview. Our noa1 is 03/31/2022. 

My question is about how much monetary support should I provide for her during her pregnancy? Im going to see her next year February. That is when we both  agreed for our baby making process. She is 38 yrs old and lives with her parents. She has a 14 year old son and no permanent income. Im 52 yrs old with a stable income. 

Second question is: does a pregnancy or having a baby would interfere K1 process? 

 

Thanks is advance...

If you partner is 38 and you are 52 I wouldn't expect to have a baby just because you try in February. 

If having your first and having her second is very important you should be trying every time you visit. 

But, if she has a child you need to add that kid to the number of dependents you have to the affidavit of support. 

Also, any pregnancy over 35 is seen as a geriatric pregnancy so you might want to pay more for better medical care. 

Personally, if I was not confident with the medical care your partner would receive in her current city. I would wait until she arrives in the US to try for a child. 

With your advanced ages a successful and healthy pregnancy is not a sure thing. 

Edited May 15, 2022 by ROK2USA

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On 5/14/2022 at 1:27 PM, GinoNiña said:

This will include for herself, her 14 yr old son, parents and a niece as well. Parents does not work. She lost her job during Covid.

I get there is a whole lot of cultural background to supporting extended family, but who was supporting these extra 3 people until now?  And are you 100% on board with that once you start?  Even once here, "I'm too busy raising your child to go to work", sounds like a very likely retort to come up.  Have you 2 had a frank discussion about how you live now by yourself, how you will live together, what she will do for work, will she go back to school for better work, how long the extended family support arrangement is going to go on for, etc etc?  I'd even say going so far as a typical monthly money in/money out budget may spur a lot of a-ha revelations.  It can be easy to think of all the money coming in makes US people rich, but they have to have their eyes opened to the high amount of money going out too.

 

It can be uncomfortable, but the open talk may end up making you 2 stronger.

 

If she is not pregnant with your child, what are the allowance expectations of this family from you?  If the answer is 0, this is another hmmm moment.

 

Being 'of age' you 2 probably also have some aspects of being set in your ways.  The honest talk should probably extend into things and expenses about your lives that you may be willing to bend, but not wholly change/eliminate. A couple drinks after work with your friends, a day on the couch watching sports, or costly hobby may be part of your routine and stress management, but a deal breaker to her.  You never know until you talk about it.

 

 

22 hours ago, ROK2USA said:

If you partner is 38 and you are 52

My first thought to this from the original post was maybe that ship has sailed and a baby is just not realistic.  I know, I know. Anything is possible with healthy people, good medical care, a young attitude so don't beat me up for saying that.

 

Personally I've always thought bringing another mouth into an overpopulated world for the purpose of genetics was never a good enough reason, & to consider helping out in another way through adoption as a better choice.

 

 

 

Sorry to pile on GinoNiña and of course your life is your life; you you have no reason to explain or justify any of your situation or choices to anyone here (including all that garbage I typed above).  This forum is about trying to be helpful and I think by extension people want to make sure you see what others see as possible alarm flags.  I suppose its safe to say we all are rooting for you and want you to live your best, happiest life with someone you love and cherish.

 

To your original question, I would simply echo what others have advised and wait on the conception as hard as that may be to do.

[RO_AH 1,659]

7 hours ago, Natepartlan said:

My first thought to this from the original post was maybe that ship has sailed and a baby is just not realistic.  I know, I know. Anything is possible with healthy people, good medical care, a young attitude so don't beat me up for saying that.

My coworker just had a baby at 41. No issues at all. I was 54 and 55 when my last 2 boys were born.

7 hours ago, Natepartlan said:

Personally I've always thought bringing another mouth into an overpopulated world for the purpose of genetics was never a good enough reason, & to consider helping out in another way through adoption as a better choice.

Sorry but you are buying something being sold that simply isn't true.Who says that the world is over populated. Maybe take a look at google earth for a while. You could fit the entire world population in one state with each person having 1,000 ft. Of course that's not feasible but it does show that the earth is VERY big and can support more.

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2 hours ago, RO_AH said:

My coworker just had a baby at 41. No issues at all. I was 54 and 55 when my last 2 boys were born.

Sorry but you are buying something being sold that simply isn't true.Who says that the world is over populated. Maybe take a look at google earth for a while. You could fit the entire world population in one state with each person having 1,000 ft. Of course that's not feasible but it does show that the earth is VERY big and can support more.

Do you think a 1,000 sq. ft. of land contains all the stuff you will consume in your lifetime?  How about a year?  Can you grow all the food you need on this land?  How about all the metal, plastic, oil, etc. that you will consume?  All from this land?

On this 1,000 sq. ft., what happens to all the garbage you created during your lifetime?  What happen to all that stuff?  Next human being after you gets it all?

 

You can have the 1000 sq. ft. of land in the Shara.  Because every 1000 sq. ft. of land is as good and useable as the next.  

Edited May 16, 2022 by aaron2020

[RO_AH 1,659]

Just now, aaron2020 said:

Do you think a 1,000 sq. ft. of land contains all the stuff you will consume in your lifetime?
On this 1,000 sq. ft., what happens to all the garbage you created during your lifetime?

Did you read past my first sentence?

2 hours ago, RO_AH said:

Of course that's not feasible but it does show that the earth is VERY big and can support more.

Also did I say that Texas would become the entire world? My point was land mass, sorry if you missed that.

 

As for the garbage I live on an island and we have a power plant that runs off garbage. As population grows so does technology and innovation.

[aaron2020 11,651]

4 minutes ago, RO_AH said:

Did you read past my first sentence?

Also did I say that Texas would become the entire world? My point was land mass, sorry if you missed that.

 

As for the garbage I live on an island and we have a power plant that runs off garbage. As population grows so does technology and innovation.

Yes, I have seen how clean the Philippines, Thailand, and Vietnam have become in the last 50 years.  Go garbage power.  Yay technology and innovation.  

Edited May 16, 2022 by aaron2020

[aaron2020 11,651]

There is ENOUGH LAND for EVERYONE.  1000 sq. ft. . . . . . . . but it's not feasible.  Meaning not realistic.  Can't possibly happen.  But my point is that there is enough land for everyone.  

[RO_AH 1,659]

3 minutes ago, aaron2020 said:

Yes, I have seen how clean the Philippines, Thailand, and Vietnam have become in the last 50 years.  Go garbage power.  Yay technology and innovation.  

When your focus is very narrow and pointed to what you want to see, you will see what you exactly want. Some of the most beautiful places on earth are in all of those places that you just mentioned.

 

2 minutes ago, aaron2020 said:

But my point is that there is enough land for everyone.  

My point too.