elections affecting k-1

[andrewfromdenver 31]

2 hours ago, Adventine said:

@Crazy Cat the problem is that some people like to show off that they've got a foreigner boyfriend who sends them all sorts of gifts. Even a poor American is rich by PH standards.

 

But no, they can't stop her visa process because she reported something illegal. 

exactly......she has friend engaged to obnoxious australian and she parades him around social media like he is the best thing since slieced bread

[Dashinka 24,513]

28 minutes ago, andrewfromdenver said:

hahaha.......i filipina give up facebook? are you kidding?

Honestly, I have no idea, and certainly you cannot force her, but it certainly has brought her a big headache.

[andrewfromdenver 31]

20 minutes ago, Dashinka said:

Honestly, I have no idea, and certainly you cannot force her, but it certainly has brought her a big headache.

even beforehand its been big headache......in fact every fight we had over last 3 1/2 years been about facebook........and a few friends i know in same situation ....same thing

 

most american adults dont take fb that seriously.........but in philippines its their lifeline

[Boiler 45,535]

Have you discussed this with your Lawyer, I agree seems fishy to say the least.

 

Does not seem something requiring immediate attention anyway so see how it rolls.

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[RO_AH 1,659]

6 hours ago, andrewfromdenver said:

 

she is only one with american fiance out of whole group

Welcome to the Philippines. Sadly when they see foreigner they see money. She should do her best to lay low and hope it blows over.

[RO_AH 1,659]

6 hours ago, andrewfromdenver said:

can they do that? stop our visa process? as far as i know our process comes from USA not philippines province

They can't do anything to stop the visa process, but she will need to pass CFO before she can leave. I'm not sure if her Local government would have the pull to affect that, but you never know. But like others have said because you are a foreigner she is making a big fuss hoping to scare your fiancé enough to get money out of it. 

Edited May 10, 2022 by RO_AH

[andrewfromdenver 31]

15 hours ago, RO_AH said:

They can't do anything to stop the visa process, but she will need to pass CFO before she can leave. I'm not sure if her Local government would have the pull to affect that, but you never know. But like others have said because you are a foreigner she is making a big fuss hoping to scare your fiancé enough to get money out of it. 

well it somewhat worked....she is scared....and she has to pay (meaning "i" have to pay)

 

anyways found out what happened....her english is better when she calms down

 

i guess its common practice for local candidates to buy votes

 

a girl in her barangay with same last name (not related) had signed up to sell her vote.....without asking permission she also signed my girls name and some of her family's name and promised their votes too AND collected the money claiming she spoke for people who arent even family (but share a surname)......my girls friends saw her do it as they are mutual friends.....supposedly this girl has done it before and whole barangay knows

 

except my girl and her family voted for other candidate.....they didnt appreciate this girl collecting money on their behalf falsely claiming to represent them.....so my girl blasted her on facebook for it, so did many others around the small town as they said that she did same thing to them

 

my girls other "friend" who is also mutual friend of this girl was mad at my girl for voting the other way, she says that girl's husband worked for govt and just got voted out, and always pesters my girl to send chocolate and powdered milk and other things for her (so she must think im wealthier than i really am)......well that girl got upset her side lost so she screenshotted her fb and sent to the girl who was doing the vote thing

 

now that girls uncle is "president" of barangay (at least for another month he just got voted out) and he summoned her to some kind of open hearing, where that family tried intimidating my girl and acting like they wanted to jump her, and demanded she pay 200,000 pesos and told her that her fiance (me) can afford it and that if she doesnt pay they will put a case on her and jail her and not let her leave philippines and stop her visa and if she cant pay take part of her dads farm....as i said its common knowledge in the small community my girl is engaged to american....my girl was not allowed to bring witness (first mutual friend) that saw the girl in question (his niece) sign names and gloated about having the money

 

my girl said she already deleted fb post and and asked if she can apologize and not do it again......but since it was man's niece people asked (i guess some kind of open hearing) that they bring someone else in so they brought in someone higher than barangay president, the municipal kagawad

 

so second hearing was yesterday and that kagawad had ordered to pay 10,000 in damages to the other girl and did not want to hear about the issue of buying votes which i understand is illegal (but common).....as i said it doesnt help that my girl is very outspoken on politics and spoke out against someone connected......and all these people got voted out if my girl would have waited a month to talk s*** it would have went the other way......i talked to my friends fiance who lives in another province who said that this is way filipino local politics usually work...they are messy and set neighbor against neighbor and also provides opportunity for corruption and nepotism

 

none of the many other people who had been complaining about this girl and family for doing same thing to them have been summoned for hearing and demanded to pay......yet none of them have money either.....my lawyer says they cant stop her visa......which i was pretty sure of but needed confirmation......but he doesnt practice in philippines and doesnt know what can happen there.......and if they can punish her family

 

im telling my girl to stay the eff off facebook unless she wants to show pictures of her food and family from now on.....no more politics no more calling people out......and no more posting gifts or anything that makes her look in the slightest wealthier than her neighbors

 

and again i know i got my comment deleted....whatever i been here 3 years and been to philippines many times and am experienced in relationships.......spare me the treating me like i fell for the water buffalo sick routine .......not you ro_ah but others

[RO_AH 1,659]

4 hours ago, andrewfromdenver said:

i guess its common practice for local candidates to buy votes

People there LOVE election time. My wife used to get a lot of money every election. The thing that is stupid is that no one follows you in to vote or knows how you voted. Well except in your girls case where she opened her mouth lol.

 

4 hours ago, andrewfromdenver said:

demanded she pay 200,000 pesos and told her that her fiance (me) can afford it

My wife is my 3rd relationship with a Pinay in the Philippines and I learned a lot from the first 2. When getting into the relationship I explained to her it is best as much as possible to keep me and our relationship as low key as possible. I warned her once people know that we are in a relationship they will all come to her for money, even her family. Everything that I told her came true.

 

4 hours ago, andrewfromdenver said:

im telling my girl to stay the eff off facebook unless she wants to show pictures of her food and family from now on.....no more politics no more calling people out......and no more posting gifts or anything that makes her look in the slightest wealthier than her neighbors

Great advice. Never good to be mayabang.

[GinoNiña 182]

Somebody is just frustrated with this backlog, this site is the perfect place to vent. Lets put our heads together and find out the real backlog count shall we? 

[John & Rose 7,239]

On 5/10/2022 at 11:55 AM, Chancy said:

 

Sigh.  I'm sorry to say this, but please set your BS meter to max and seriously consider if you are being scammed.  I'll let the USC regulars here lay out the details, but unless there's a typhoon or other natural disaster, asking for "rescue money" is such a tired old modus operandi of scammers.  And I don't mean the alleged extortionist kagawad.

 

100% my thoughts...scammer.  Too many unrealistic things going on in the beneficiaries life...LOL

[MarJhi 963]

Maybe I got lucky, my filipina fiance has Facebook but she only posts maybe 1 photo a year and never discusses politics (US or Philippines) on social media. When we started the K1 process we had a discussion about keeping quiet on social media because you never know if someone with power over your immigration process in either country will not like your politics. But like I said, it was never an issue because she is as active on Facebook as I am, which is not very much at all. We don't even list each other as friends on Facebook because it is not the means by which we communicate. For us Facebook is a backup plan in case other forms of communication go down.