I think I am being used for a visa

[Shelldb 44]

My fiancé was approved for a K1 Visa, he said the interview process was so easy. The consular did not ask very many questions and he has been researching and preparing for over a year. I’m not sure, but I have a feeling I’m being used for a green card. He has tried to marry two others before me. Any ideas or suggestions on what I should do? 

[TBoneTX 45,308]

Welcome to the forum.

You'll have to be more specific about why you feel this way.

If you have objective evidence to support your feeling, tell us here.

If your best friend were to discuss that evidence with you, tell us what he or she would advise.

[TBoneTX 45,308]

In addition, we'll need details about your relationship history (meeting, duration, time spent together, warning signs, et al.) if we're to try to help you make sense of things.

[powerpuff 6,707]

 

13 minutes ago, Shelldb said:

He has tried to marry two others before me.

Do you know why it didn’t pan out? They were also US citizens?

[JeanneAdil 6,511]

you are free to withdraw at any time 

1. by contacting embassy and they will cancel the visa

2. not getting married to him if he is able to come

3. not filing AOS for him to stay legally/ he can not adust thru another woman unless u married and divorce him

then he's free to stay and AOS with a divorce waiver

 

make sure of your feelings because if u cancel ,  u can not undo the cancellation

make sure your head is doing the thinking

if u have evidence he is talking to other women,  then he probably has one lined up here in case things don't work out with u

trust your instincts 

if you are correct,,  u can save yourself a lot of future heartaches, time  and money

 

[Ontarkie 14,226]

11 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

you are free to withdraw at any time 

1. by contacting embassy and they will cancel the visa

2. not getting married to him if he is able to come

3. not filing AOS for him to stay legally/ he can not adust thru another woman unless u married and divorce him

then he's free to stay and AOS with a divorce waiver

 

make sure of your feelings because if u cancel ,  u can not undo the cancellation

make sure your head is doing the thinking

if u have evidence he is talking to other women,  then he probably has one lined up here in case things don't work out with u

trust your instincts 

if you are correct,,  u can save yourself a lot of future heartaches, time  and money

 

No AOS even if they divorced. AOS for a K1 must be with the petitioner no marriage no aos. But the rest is good. 

 

 

[Ontarkie 14,226]

1 hour ago, Shelldb said:

My fiancé was approved for a K1 Visa, he said the interview process was so easy. The consular did not ask very many questions and he has been researching and preparing for over a year. I’m not sure, but I have a feeling I’m being used for a green card. He has tried to marry two others before me. Any ideas or suggestions on what I should do? 

When did he have his interview and what country are we talking about?

If he just had the interview and no visa in hand then he has not been approved yet. It still has to go through a supervisor and if a high fraud country most likely AP and that can take awhile. 

 

Being that you are questioning his intentions think long and hard. Why are you just now starting to think this? Did he say or do something that tipped you off? Did you just discovered something or has your gut been telling you thins all along and now you are listening to it? 

 

What ever you do think and make that decision with your head not your heart. 

 

If you are certain he is taking you for a ride, and this happens more often then ppl want to admit. Contact the consulate right away and tell them that you are not getting married and withdraw the petition. If by chance he does have his visa in hand. Call CBP and let them know his name and you should have the case # tell them the relationship is over and you will not be getting married. They will prevent him from entering the country. 

[Redro 4,611]

1 hour ago, Shelldb said:

My fiancé was approved for a K1 Visa, he said the interview process was so easy. The consular did not ask very many questions and he has been researching and preparing for over a year. I’m not sure, but I have a feeling I’m being used for a green card. He has tried to marry two others before me. Any ideas or suggestions on what I should do? 

The K1 visa allows him entry to the US. But, his green card journey is far from over. 

If you do not marry him and you do not file for adjustment the I-485 and I-864 (and he has to apply for work authorization and travel permission) he won't have legal status in the US. 

If you're worried about being used I would try to stop or delay his entry to the US. 

The other members have given you good advice on how to proceed. 

 

If you'd like to talk about the issues you're worried about answer the questions @TBoneTX mentioned regarding you courtship and maybe you'll see a) he is using you or b.) he is someone who enjoys being super prepared for moving to a whole new country and is interested in the minutia of the process. 

 

ETA: If you read previous consulate reviews. You'll see the interview process is really easy. Especially if the couple is real.

Common questions are : when did you meet? how did you meet? what does your partner do? when was the last time you saw them? 

Edited May 6, 2022 by ROK2USA

[SalishSea 17,836]

2 hours ago, Shelldb said:

My fiancé was approved for a K1 Visa, he said the interview process was so easy. The consular did not ask very many questions and he has been researching and preparing for over a year. I’m not sure, but I have a feeling I’m being used for a green card. He has tried to marry two others before me. Any ideas or suggestions on what I should do? 

Trust your gut.

[SteveInBostonI130 3,459]

4 hours ago, Shelldb said:

My fiancé was approved for a K1 Visa, he said the interview process was so easy. The consular did not ask very many questions and he has been researching and preparing for over a year. I’m not sure, but I have a feeling I’m being used for a green card. He has tried to marry two others before me. Any ideas or suggestions on what I should do? 

 

This is one of the rare benefits of a K1 visa versus a CR1 spouse visa.  It gives you time to determine if the relationship is real or not.   Normally this would have been done before filing the petition, but it does give you a second chance to think things over.

 

As others have posted, if you feel the relationship is not genuine, then do not marry.  The beneficiary has to marry you to adjust status normally.  Inform USCIS and/or the embassy as appropriate.  

[Shelldb 44]

6 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Welcome to the forum.

You'll have to be more specific about why you feel this way.

If you have objective evidence to support your feeling, tell us here.

If your best friend were to discuss that evidence with you, tell us what he or she would advise.

 

[MarJhi 963]

Just be prepared for a charm offensive when he thinks you are going to change your mind (if you do).  If all he is after is a green card and he is almost to the finish line, he will say whatever he has to say. 

[Shelldb 44]

On 5/5/2022 at 7:35 PM, TBoneTX said:

In addition, we'll need details about your relationship history (meeting, duration, time spent together, warning signs, et al.) if we're to try to help you make sense of things.

We’ve been together for over two years. I have traveled to Lagos five times with February this year being the most recent. His flight is confirmed for this month. However, I found my answer. Thank you so much 

[Shelldb 44]

On 5/6/2022 at 3:57 AM, MarJhi said:

Just be prepared for a charm offensive when he thinks you are going to change your mind (if you do).  If all he is after is a green card and he is almost to the finish line, he will say whatever he has to say. 

You are correct! 
Thanks

[Shelldb 44]

On 5/5/2022 at 10:01 PM, Jorgedig said:

Trust your gut.

That’s exactly what I’m going to do. Something doesn’t feel right. I’m not at peace. 
Thanks