K1 visa (merged)

[Crazy Cat 41,894]

2 minutes ago, Jules Joniel said:

they finally put us on hold they told us within 30 days an officer will  call us, what do you think I should expect

Probably nothing.  You do not want them to call.  You should want to get any and all communication in writing.......

[Boiler 45,541]

Probably the limited time you spent together, they do not think it is a real relationship. The other questions were just to back that up.

[Redro 4,611]

You've only spent 16 days together since 2012?

That's a major red flag. 

I would spend more time together. Maybe get married. And really show you are trying to build a life together. 

[Crazy Cat 41,894]

@Jules Joniel, now, it is becoming perfectly clear.  The Consulate Officer denied your case based on very little time actually together.  A call from the officer will not help.  There is no appeal.  There is only one solution, imo:  Spend a LOT of time together, marry, and then start the spousal visa process  Actually, the best way to convince the next CO of your relationship is for the US citizen to move to your country for a year or two and live as a married couple.  

[Jules Joniel 3]

20 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Probably the limited time you spent together, they do not think it is a real relationship. The other questions were just to back that up.

you advise me to do what exactly.

[Boiler 45,541]

1 minute ago, Crazy Cat said:

@Jules Joniel, now, it is becoming perfectly clear.  The Consulate Officer denied your case based on very little time actually together.  A call from the officer will not help.  There is no appeal.  There is only one solution, imo:  Spend a LOT of time together, marry, and then start the spousal visa process  Actually, the best way to convince the next CO of your relationship is for the US citizen to move to your country for a year or two and live as a married couple.  

Do this

[Crazy Cat 41,894]

1 minute ago, Jules Joniel said:

you advise me to do what exactly.

The ONLY cure for that is more quality time together........

[Jules Joniel 3]

9 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

@Jules Joniel, now, it is becoming perfectly clear.  The Consulate Officer denied your case based on very little time actually together.  A call from the officer will not help.  There is no appeal.  There is only one solution, imo:  Spend a LOT of time together, marry, and then start the spousal visa process  Actually, the best way to convince the next CO of your relationship is for the US citizen to move to your country for a year or two and live as a married couple.  

she couldn't move we can just spend could just spend more time together.  Could I just marry, and ignore the k1 file, or close it

[Crazy Cat 41,894]

2 minutes ago, Jules Joniel said:

she couldn't move we can just spend could just spend more time together.  Could I just marry, and ignore the k1 file, or close it

Marriage, alone, does not cure your issue.....Only a LOT of time together will solve this issue........

Edited May 4, 2022 by Crazy Cat

[powerpuff 6,712]

1 minute ago, Jules Joniel said:

Could I just marry, and ignore the k1 file, or close it

Yes. But just marrying will not solve your biggest problem - spending more time together in person. If you choose to marry and restart you have to understand that you both will need to make an effort to spend A LOT of time together.

[aaron2020 11,651]

1 minute ago, Jules Joniel said:

she couldn't move we can just spend could just spend more time together.  Could I just marry, and ignore the k1 file, or close it

Marrying doesn't solve your problem.

 

Ignoring the K-1 does not solve your problem.

 

The US Government does not believe your relationship is real.  How are you going to prove that your relationship is real?  BY SPENDING TIME TOGETHER.  THAT IS THE ONLY SOLUTION.

[Crazy Cat 41,894]

4 minutes ago, Jules Joniel said:

she couldn't move we can just spend could just spend more time together.  Could I just marry, and ignore the k1 file, or close it

Where is your fiance?  Your fiance needs to be here in our discussion.....right now.

Edited May 4, 2022 by Crazy Cat

[Jules Joniel 3]

8 minutes ago, aaron2020 said:

Marrying doesn't solve your problem.

 

Ignoring the K-1 does not solve your problem.

 

The US Government does not believe your relationship is real.  How are you going to prove that your relationship is real?  BY SPENDING TIME TOGETHER.  THAT IS THE ONLY SOLUTION.

that's Exactly what i'm going to do, i'm even going to move to the dominican republic because my country has too many armed gangs, she's going to come to see me more often, and spend about a month each time, we're also going to get married.

9 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

Where is your fiance?  Your fiance needs to be here in our discussion.....right now.

I don't really know how to integrate it!

[Crazy Cat 41,894]

1 minute ago, Jules Joniel said:

she's going to come to see me more often, and spend about a month each time, we're also going to get married.

That will certainly help......I hope she will sign in and join us here on VJ.

[slavaskii 886]

Just now, Jules Joniel said:

that's Exactly what i'm going to do, i'm even going to move to the dominican republic because my country has too many armed gangs, she's going to come to see me more often, and spend about a month each time, we're also going to get married.

First: I'm sorry to hear of your denial, especially in light of the fact you both appear committed to each other.

 

Second: I agree in full with the above, that 16 days since 2012 is/was insufficient to convince the consular officer of the legitimacy of the relationship. I would argue that marrying right away, even, is probably dangerous considering the recent K1 refusal and how it would appear down-the-road. Spending more time together and then marrying seems like the best option. From the CO's perspective, it likely seemed as if she was 'doing you a favor' by reconnecting and starting the K1 process. 

 

I'm glad to hear you are both full steam ahead on making this still work.