Request to unwithdraw

[flowerlilz0819 7]

4 minutes ago, PaulaCJohnny said:

So, she doesn’t know? What kind of things did you write it? Did you told something that can hurt her like claim that she was trying to scamming you?

I did write things like that i was soo stupid to do so i regret it so much 

[flowerlilz0819 7]

1 minute ago, Crazy Cat said:

Won't your spouse wonder why the case is taking another 2 years???

I did tell him that the case did get sent back to uscis, all i told him was i dont know exactly why i said that because the fact that they didnt see my other inquiry tht i dont want to withdraw so im hoping they wont 

[Redro 4,611]

1 minute ago, Fattymay said:

I did tell him that the case did get sent back to uscis, all i told him was i dont know exactly why i said that because the fact that they didnt see my other inquiry tht i dont want to withdraw so im hoping they wont 

Where is your spouse from?

When is the last time you saw them...

You are in for another 1+ year wait.

This might cause tensions in your relationship again and you might want to withdraw that second petition if you do not discuss the factors that led to the first withdrawal.

 

Your spouse might be looking online to see why cases get sent back to USCIS.

They'll see it is because the relationship isn't valid OR a case was withdrawn.

 

Not immigration advice but relationship advice: 

You need to go to your spouse's country and spend some time in person with them.

This type of dishonesty is not good for a relationship. 

[PaulaCJohnny 713]

3 minutes ago, Fattymay said:

I did write things like that i was soo stupid to do so i regret it so much 

If you did this so be honest with your spouse. This can bite you hard in the future. 
Knowing what kind of thing they can ask about it is important. I don’t know if you are young and had spending time together but I think this is really necessary.

 

You claim this kind of things not just in one place like an email, you sent to a US Agency. This is serious.

 

Be honest and sorry for be honest, grown up. If you need to work things you can do it together,

[powerpuff 6,697]

We see this exact scenario every once in a while here. And the answers remain the same: withdrawals are final. No, you cannot cancel the withdrawal no matter how much you ask them. You will 100% have to start over. Just because they didn’t acknowledge it or acknowledged one and not the other, it doesn’t matter - IT IS IN THE SYSTEM.

 

We had a case where a couple was in this exact situation, continued the process anyway thinking “they won’t see it” only to have the beneficiary’s citizenship application denied few years later on the grounds that the green card should not have been issued in the first place. The person left the country after that because their permanent status was also in jeopardy. 

 

10 minutes ago, Fattymay said:

I did tell him that the case did get sent back to uscis, all i told him was i dont know exactly why

You lying to your spouse will have disastrous consequences when they will bring it up during the interview. Not only from the immigration side, but also from a relationship perspective because your spouse, undoubtedly and understandably, will be extremely upset and angry with you. 

 

 

Edited April 27, 2022 by powerpuff

[Rocio0010 5,579]

10 minutes ago, Fattymay said:

i dont know exactly why

Don’t lie to your spouse. You know why it got sent. Truth will set you free.

[Rocio0010 5,579]

16 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

Won't your spouse wonder why the case is taking another 2 years???

Or -if they re- apply without telling spouse what happened- spouse is going to ask why the heck they have to sign those forms again.

[powerpuff 6,697]

1 minute ago, Rocio0010 said:

Or -if they re- apply without telling spouse what happened- spouse is going to ask why the heck they have to sign those forms again.

Truth will come out eventually and it will be much, much uglier than just coming clean now.

[powerpuff 6,697]

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[flowerlilz0819 7]

37 minutes ago, powerpuff said:

We see this exact scenario every once in a while here. And the answers remain the same: withdrawals are final. No, you cannot cancel the withdrawal no matter how much you ask them. You will 100% have to start over. Just because they didn’t acknowledge it or acknowledged one and not the other, it doesn’t matter - IT IS IN THE SYSTEM.

 

We had a case where a couple was in this exact situation, continued the process anyway thinking “they won’t see it” only to have the beneficiary’s citizenship application denied few years later on the grounds that the green card should not have been issued in the first place. The person left the country after that because their permanent status was also in jeopardy. 

 

You lying to your spouse will have disastrous consequences when they will bring it up during the interview. Not only from the immigration side, but also from a relationship perspective because your spouse, undoubtedly and understandably, will be extremely upset and angry with you. 

 

 

Thank you for having so mich detail i will come clean today. It was wrong of me to not say a thing in the first place. I regret rushing to conclusion and withdrawing in the first place

36 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

Don’t lie to your spouse. You know why it got sent. Truth will set you free.

I know its eating me alive im going to come clean and lay it all out there 

[flowerlilz0819 7]

42 minutes ago, PaulaCJohnny said:

If you did this so be honest with your spouse. This can bite you hard in the future. 
Knowing what kind of thing they can ask about it is important. I don’t know if you are young and had spending time together but I think this is really necessary.

 

You claim this kind of things not just in one place like an email, you sent to a US Agency. This is serious.

 

Be honest and sorry for be honest, grown up. If you need to work things you can do it together,

Yes im still young im only 25, this is my first serious relationship, i rush to conclusion when im angry and that wasnt right of me; i didnt realize that they would acknowledge it so quick. Im going to come clean about it all, its eating me alive and hopefully moving forward our relationship will progress 

[flowerlilz0819 7]

45 minutes ago, ROK2USA said:

Where is your spouse from?

When is the last time you saw them...

You are in for another 1+ year wait.

This might cause tensions in your relationship again and you might want to withdraw that second petition if you do not discuss the factors that led to the first withdrawal.

 

Your spouse might be looking online to see why cases get sent back to USCIS.

They'll see it is because the relationship isn't valid OR a case was withdrawn.

 

Not immigration advice but relationship advice: 

You need to go to your spouse's country and spend some time in person with them.

This type of dishonesty is not good for a relationship. 

Egypt, i saw them about a couple months ago, i agree with your advice and discussing what led me to the first withdrawal; its such a big and serious commitment when applying. I just feel like we do need more time together im only able to go like once a year because of work and i only see him for a week or 2 even tho we constantly talk i feel like its different in person

[flowerlilz0819 7]

56 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

yes,   he will learn of this as he knew it was at NVC and now its going to take  new petition and another year

and the CO will more than likely ask "why u withdrew it the 1st time "  and he must be able to answer this (and all other questions ) to prove the relationship

we have no way of knowing why you were so angry buy he has too and now,  u must convince each other that you have the trust needed for a life together 

remember ,  this hurt u both 

I know as i thought about it more i did think mlre about the situation and how wrong of me it was i will tell him because if he wants to stay with me and redo this then we have to face our issue

[Redro 4,611]

8 minutes ago, Fattymay said:

Egypt, i saw them about a couple months ago, i agree with your advice and discussing what led me to the first withdrawal; its such a big and serious commitment when applying. I just feel like we do need more time together im only able to go like once a year because of work and i only see him for a week or 2 even tho we constantly talk i feel like its different in person

Egypt has a big backlog 😭

This person completed NVC stage July 2021 and still seems to be waiting for the interview

I think you will be waiting at least 2-3 years before you husband can join you in the US.

So, please take some time out and maybe if you can get more vacation time and stay with him for at least 2 months. 

I wish you all the luck going forward in this relationship. 

 

[Cathi 5,747]

42 minutes ago, Fattymay said:

Yes im still young im only 25, this is my first serious relationship, i rush to conclusion when im angry and that wasnt right of me; i didnt realize that they would acknowledge it so quick. Im going to come clean about it all, its eating me alive and hopefully moving forward our relationship will progress 

Even if USCIS didn't acknowledge it quickly does not mean that it would not have been the same outcome. The outcome would have been the same regardless. At this point you will need to start from the beginning and be prepared for an uphill climb because of the withdrawal. Especially during the interview.

P.S. 25 is not that young, you need to learn to control your emotions.