Divorce before removal of conditions

[Maame k 5]

Finally , I’m getting stronger and taking the right steps . I called 911 today to talk about my verbally abusive husband . They wanted to send a team  over but I was so scared of police showing up . I just called a womens shelter , I want to silently move all documents and my stuff and go to the shelter on Saturday then file for divorce on Monday . I’m still so scared , I don’t think he will sign the divorce papers . But I’m really scared of the anxiety and panic attacks. I pray this does not mess up my green card when I’m going to remove conditions. It’s gotten worse . After almost suffering a heart attack from my iron infusion he yelled at me for speaking my local language with my friend on the phone . 
please keep me in prayers . Any further suggestions are welcome 

[Verrou 1,962]

hope you will get a lawyer, just google for pro-bono lawyer in your area. 

he can refuse to sign, but u will still got your divorce, it just gonna be slightly longer if its the case. 

be strong !

 

[Rocio0010 5,674]

So sorry that you're enduring this. Please know that I admire you for how brave you are. 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

I called 911 today to talk about my verbally abusive husband .

Get a notebook and make a call log in which you write down the date, time when you called 911 and the reasons. You want to keep a written record as evidence in case you do VAWA, and with possible PTSD in the future it is possible you forget all the details. Write them down now that they are fresh.

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

I just called a womens shelter

Good for you!

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

I want to silently move all documents and my stuff and go to the shelter on Saturday then file for divorce on Monday

Grab ALL your documents, and also documents that you entered the relationship in good faith. 

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

then file for divorce on Monday

The right thing to do.

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

 I’m still so scared

Understandable.

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

I don’t think he will sign the divorce papers

It doesn't matter. You file for divorce and then you're done.

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

But I’m really scared of the anxiety and panic attacks.

Try mindfulness and breathing exercises on YouTube until you can see a counselor!

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

I pray this does not mess up my green card when I’m going to remove conditions

It is not going to, if you document everything like I told you.

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

It’s gotten worse

It usually does.

 

8 hours ago, Maame k said:

he yelled at me for speaking my local language with my friend on the phone . 

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[Maame k 5]

5 hours ago, Rocio0010 said:

So sorry that you're enduring this. Please know that I admire you for how brave you are. 

Get a notebook and make a call log in which you write down the date, time when you called 911 and the reasons. You want to keep a written record as evidence in case you do VAWA, and with possible PTSD in the future it is possible you forget all the details. Write them down now that they are fresh.

 

Good for you!

 

Grab ALL your documents, and also documents that you entered the relationship in good faith. 

 

The right thing to do.

 

Understandable.

 

It doesn't matter. You file for divorce and then you're done.

 

Try mindfulness and breathing exercises on YouTube until you can see a counselor!

 

It is not going to, if you document everything like I told you.

 

It usually does.

 

What a piece of (removed)!

Yes I’m in therapy for anxiety 

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[Rocio0010 5,674]

26 minutes ago, Maame k said:

Yes I’m in therapy for anxiety 

Good. If you are worried about your green card, ask your counsellor whether they would be willing (and if it is legal for them to) write an affidavit stating what you went through.

[TBoneTX 46,318]

5 hours ago, Rocio0010 said:

in case you do VAWA

If the OP already has a green card, VAWA isn't applicable; rather, she can remove conditions with divorce waiver, and apply without waiting the typical time.

[Ronald P 18]

7 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

If the OP already has a green card, VAWA isn't applicable; rather, she can remove conditions with divorce waiver, and apply without waiting the typical time.

I once dated a girl who was going through the exact same thing pretty much, and applied to have condition removed with a divorce waiver. One type of divorce waiver is specifically aimed at abusive spouses/ relationships. Providing evidence of such abuse will be extremely helpful, but you will also have the burden to provide proof that your marriage was a bona fide marriage based on “good faith” (that is how USCIS describes it)

So make sure you grab any records of joint bank accounts, proof of living together etc, before leaving too.

[Cathi 5,795]

14 hours ago, Rocio0010 said:

as evidence in case you do VAWA

The OP already has a green card, no VAWA. OP will need a divorce waiver.

[EM_Vandaveer 2,417]

5 hours ago, Ronald P said:

I once dated a girl who was going through the exact same thing pretty much, and applied to have condition removed with a divorce waiver. One type of divorce waiver is specifically aimed at abusive spouses/ relationships. Providing evidence of such abuse will be extremely helpful, but you will also have the burden to provide proof that your marriage was a bona fide marriage based on “good faith” (that is how USCIS describes it)

So make sure you grab any records of joint bank accounts, proof of living together etc, before leaving too.

Divorce waiver and abuse waiver are 2 different waivers. Both require proof of bona fide marriage. Divorce waiver also requires a divorce decree. Abuse waiver requires proof of abuse. Much easier to attach a divorce decree than to prove abuse, so a divorce waiver is preferable IMHO.

[Maame k 5]

20 hours ago, Ronald P said:

I once dated a girl who was going through the exact same thing pretty much, and applied to have condition removed with a divorce waiver. One type of divorce waiver is specifically aimed at abusive spouses/ relationships. Providing evidence of such abuse will be extremely helpful, but you will also have the burden to provide proof that your marriage was a bona fide marriage based on “good faith” (that is how USCIS describes it)

So make sure you grab any records of joint bank accounts, proof of living together etc, before leaving too.

How did her case turn out ? Did she get her 10 years green card ? For now , we have joint bank accounts , joint rent , just filed joint taxes , flights tickets 

[JeanneAdil 6,714]

you have my prayers

just stay in the shelter as they know how to help 

 

Get a copy of the police report for your records for the divorce and immigration steps later on