I have a fiancé in Nigeria... please help

[pdenney1967 8]

2-3 yrs... man, I can't wait that long... I think after 8 months of online dating and video chatting, I might have to call this off... I don't have that kind of patience. 

[MarJhi 968]

3 hours ago, pdenney1967 said:

2-3 yrs... man, I can't wait that long... I think after 8 months of online dating and video chatting, I might have to call this off... I don't have that kind of patience. 

If you aren't willing to wait a few years then it was probably never meant to be, especially if you never met in person before. Once you meet in person, spend all day together every day is when you start to see the real person, the good and the bad. Online dating is all show, trying to put your best foot forward.

[MarJhi 968]

13 hours ago, pdenney1967 said:

2-3 yrs... man, I can't wait that long... I think after 8 months of online dating and video chatting, I might have to call this off... I don't have that kind of patience. 

Just out of curiosity, what did you consider a reasonable wait time?

[pdenney1967 8]

I'm new to this whole thing, so I watch 90 day fiance, and I guess I get false information from that show... but anyways no more than a yr....

[Redro 4,611]

10 minutes ago, pdenney1967 said:

I'm new to this whole thing, so I watch 90 day fiance, and I guess I get false information from that show... but anyways no more than a yr....

If you watch 90 Day Fiance you should have picked up on the fact the Nigerian partners aren't in the US yet and some of them have been on several seasons (someone can correct me if I'm wrong). 

 

Edited April 12, 2022 by Kor2USA

[pdenney1967 8]

No you are correct... I don't know why I think mine is more important...

[milimelo 4,550]

14 hours ago, pdenney1967 said:

2-3 yrs... man, I can't wait that long... I think after 8 months of online dating and video chatting, I might have to call this off... I don't have that kind of patience. 

May want to focus on finding a significant other in the US then. How did you find her in Nigeria anyways? Or she found you? 

[pdenney1967 8]

She actually found me... and then we video chatted immediately, I wanted to know that I wasn't being played or scammed and we video chat on the regular now... have been for about 8 months, I was going to try to go to Nigeria for a week and visit soon... I don't know...

[MarJhi 968]

1 hour ago, pdenney1967 said:

I'm new to this whole thing, so I watch 90 day fiance, and I guess I get false information from that show... but anyways no more than a yr....

Yeah  90 Day Fiance wasn't giving you false information I think, they just don't have the time (and the show would be incredibly boring) if they showed viewers how much waiting was involved. If you search timelines on here from just a few years ago, that 1 year timeline you were expecting was possible, maybe even the norm, but now it's a disaster. 

[SalishSea 18,125]

On 4/11/2022 at 8:40 AM, pdenney1967 said:

I haven't been there yet... I was asking what to do and in what order... this is so confusing to me

You're not eligible to petition anyone you haven't met.

 

Also - how could you possibly know you want to marry someone you've never met?

[SalishSea 18,125]

On 4/11/2022 at 9:35 AM, pdenney1967 said:

So obviously cr-1 is the way to go... I need more info on this

You need more info on the process in general, and in the particulars for Nigeria.  Nigeria is a very high-fraud country when it comes to US immigration.

 

You seem so ready to jump into something, but if you travel there and marry on the first visit, the visa will not be approved.

 

Take a breath, slow down, and start your reading and research.  Nothing is fast about this process, or cheap.  Either option will take YEARS.  Missteps along the way will add time and money to your process.

[SalishSea 18,125]

20 hours ago, pdenney1967 said:

2-3 yrs... man, I can't wait that long... I think after 8 months of online dating and video chatting, I might have to call this off... I don't have that kind of patience. 

Yeah, doesn't seem like you're up for the immigration process.  Find someone local.

[pdenney1967 8]

I agree, and when you say ain't cheap that scares me, I mean I make good money, but maybe I should just chill and see what happens in my life here in the states... because really this is all going to quick for my taste as well