Divorced after 10 year GC, will this affect my citizenship in the future? Will ICE come pick me up?

[ariadeb 3]

So here's my story. I married a US citizen after 2 years of dating and received 2 year GC in 2018. In Dec 2020, we successfully removed the conditions (we filed jointly) and I received the 10 year GC.

 

However, the pandemic and the lockdown in 2020 had created a lot of problems to our marriage, and unfortunately we divorced in the summer of 2021. We even attended couples therapy. I also had my own individual therapy. The divorce was amicable. But there were lots of emotions and we were both hurt by it. I have since moved on.

 

Everything was fine until recently, 8 months after our divorce, he reached out to me asking for my A number. He told me he is moving to another address and is filing the Form I-865 to inform USCIS of his new address as my sponsor. Because we are divorced and have not been in contact, I felt I didn't have to give him my A number. So I consulted a lawyer and was told that I'm not obligated to provide that info to him. He got frustrated and claimed that I was legally required to tell him my A number so he could file the form, and I was delaying his legal process of filing his form. My lawyer said he can just leave it blank and USCIS will be able to grab it in their system. He bombarded me with text messages and emails. I had to block his number and everything.

 

This has cooled down now after i told him I didn't feel comfortable giving him my A number, and that he reaching out to me here and there really puts a lot of stress on me as we really shouldn't be in contact. We don't have kids together, etc.

 

But now I feel like my mental health has been disturbed by this as I have really been trying to heal. I saw some posts in here and some videos on some horror stories on Youtube. I am kinda irrationally worried that this is going to affect my citizenship application in the future at the 5-year mark which is in about a year, or what if he notified USCIS we divorced and have them look into my intentions, like he tries to derail stuff. I am just thinking all the bad scenarios. What if ICE shows up one day to pick me up. I am scared. When we announced to his family that we were divorcing, my then loving in-laws all of a sudden turned stone cold to me and falsely accused that I used them for immigration benefits with no basis. I was really angry and hurt that they said that about me. My family actually didn't really support my marriage because they are very judgmental and traditional people. So my ex in laws held that against me too. 

 

My mind is not in a good space because of this. Any advice is appreciated. I still have all the evidence we submitted for AOS and ROC and everything afterwards up until our divorce.

[Crazy Cat 41,888]

You are over thinking this by an enormous amount.  You are under no obligation to give your ex that information, although, he is just trying to comply with the law.  He MUST submit an I-865.  This will have no effect on your citizenship application.  Why would ICE pick you up???????  Your fear in unfounded.....Seek happiness for yourself and continue to move forward. Good luck.

[ariadeb 3]

5 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

You are over thinking this by an enormous amount.  You are under no obligation to give your ex that information, although, he is just trying to comply with the law.  He MUST submit an I-865.  This will have no effect on your citizenship application.  Why would ICE pick you up???????  Your fear in unfounded.....Seek happiness for yourself and continue to move forward. Good luck.

I’m just worried that our divorce and now me refusing to give him my A number might provoke him or his family to try to do something out of spite like maybe notify USCIS something? I’m just imagining the worst…sorry

[Crazy Cat 41,888]

Just now, ariadeb said:

I’m just worried that our divorce and now me refusing to give him my A number might provoke him or his family to try to do something out of spite like maybe notify USCIS something? I’m just imagining the worst…sorry

He and his family have no power over your immigration path unless they have proof that you committed fraud.  You are a legal permanent resident with a 10 year green card....I would just forget about this and seek happiness.

[Verrou 1,962]

21 minutes ago, ariadeb said:

I’m just worried that our divorce and now me refusing to give him my A number might provoke him or his family to try to do something out of spite like maybe notify USCIS something? I’m just imagining the worst…sorry

They can’t do anything to you even if they want to. Case closed and enjoy your life. You are allowed to file for citizenship even after you are divorced 

Edited April 9, 2022 by Misscloud

[Mike E 11,739]

2 hours ago, ariadeb said:

So here's my story. I married a US citizen after 2 years of dating and received 2 year GC in 2018. In Dec 2020, we successfully removed the conditions (we filed jointly) and I received the 10 year GC.

Did you file for divorce before or after your I-751 was approved?

 

Regarding you withholding your A number …

 

* Given he needed to enter your A number on the I-864 he signed and given his rights under FOIA, he is going to get your A number one way or the other. 
 

* And certainly he will get it if you sue him for support under I-864.  
 

* If he has reason to believe that you can be credited for 40 quarters of work under the SSA, then I suspect he can compel you to provide your A number and more.  
 

As divorcee myself, my advice is to not antagonize your ex. 

[ariadeb 3]

1 minute ago, Mike E said:

Did you file for divorce before or after your I-751 was approved?

 

Regarding you withholding your A number …

 

* Given he needed to enter your A number on the I-864 he signed and given his rights under FOIA, he is going to get your A number one way or the other. 
 

* And certainly he will get it if you sue him for support under I-864.  
 

* If he has reason to believe that you can be credited for 40 quarters of work under the SSA, then I suspect he can compel you to provide your A number and more.  
 

As divorcee myself, my advice is to not antagonize your ex. 

 

We filed for divorce after I-751 was approved. I have no problem for him to find out about my A number other ways, I was just being a bit careful and didn't want to give it to him myself. 

[Crazy Cat 41,888]

1 minute ago, ariadeb said:

 

We filed for divorce after I-751 was approved. I have no problem for him to find out about my A number other ways, I was just being a bit careful and didn't want to give it to him myself. 

Your A number is a legitimate request for the I-865 he is required to submit.  Don't you want USCIS to be able to find him if needed?  He can legitimately find your A number anyway, as @Mike E stated. 

[ariadeb 3]

7 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

Your A number is a legitimate request for the I-865 he is required to submit.  Don't you want USCIS to be able to find him if needed?  He can legitimately find your A number anyway, as @Mike E stated. 

I understand all of that. Well, he already filed without my A number. My lawyer told me he can leave it blank and USCIS can match the records and grab it in their system. I just hope it's not an issue for my citizenship application in the future or anything else bad.

[Crazy Cat 41,888]

4 minutes ago, ariadeb said:

I just hope it's not an issue for my citizenship application in the future or anything else bad.

Several of us have told you that he has no power over your immigration path.  Either believe us...or don't.  

 

I'm out. 

Edited April 9, 2022 by Crazy Cat

[ariadeb 3]

1 minute ago, Crazy Cat said:

Several of us have told you that he has no power over your immigration path.  Either believe us...or don't.

 

I'm out. 

No I got it! I appreciate your help!

[Mike E 11,739]

Just now, ariadeb said:

I understand all of that. Well, he already filed without my A number. My lawyer told me he can leave it blank and USCIS can match the records and grab it in their system. I just hope it's not an issue for my citizenship application in the future or anything else bad.

If you think it might be an issue for citizenship or something else bad, you’ve a simple remedy.  

 

It would be considerate if you inform your ex when you take oath so that he can

 

* stop filing I-865

* more easily sponsor another immigrant (whether as a primary sponsor through family-based or as a joint sponsor for a friend or friend’s relative).  Presumably you support the idea of more legal immigrants coming to the USA. 

[ariadeb 3]

3 minutes ago, Mike E said:

If you think it might be an issue for citizenship or something else bad, you’ve a simple remedy.  

 

It would be considerate if you inform your ex when you take oath so that he can

 

* stop filing I-865

* more easily sponsor another immigrant (whether as a primary sponsor through family-based or as a joint sponsor for a friend or friend’s relative).  Presumably you support the idea of more legal immigrants coming to the USA. 

Yes i will definitely inform him in the future.

[carmel34 3,633]

As difficult as it can be, try to separate your path to US citizenship from the post-divorce healing process.  There's no way your ex or his parents can try to have you deported, unless they have documents to prove that you committed visa fraud.  From your post, they do not have this information, so don't worry about that at all.  Marriages fail all the time for various reasons, and USCIS knows this.  Your application for US citizenship is now in your hands only, so file when you qualify.  If you are still struggling with the emotional healing process following the divorce, maybe go back to your therapist or talk to a friend that you trust, take care of your emotional and physical health, focus on your own interests, your future, your education, your career.  It's a long, difficult path, but you can put the pain of the divorce behind you.  Good luck! 

[ariadeb 3]

13 minutes ago, carmel34 said:

As difficult as it can be, try to separate your path to US citizenship from the post-divorce healing process.  There's no way your ex or his parents can try to have you deported, unless they have documents to prove that you committed visa fraud.  From your post, they do not have this information, so don't worry about that at all.  Marriages fail all the time for various reasons, and USCIS knows this.  Your application for US citizenship is now in your hands only, so file when you qualify.  If you are still struggling with the emotional healing process following the divorce, maybe go back to your therapist or talk to a friend that you trust, take care of your emotional and physical health, focus on your own interests, your future, your education, your career.  It's a long, difficult path, but you can put the pain of the divorce behind you.  Good luck! 

thanks for your input. I really appreciate it. My former in-laws were very loving. They even submitted a letter as an affidavit for our I-751 package describing my marriage. I have day to day text messages, pictures, etc. But as soon as we told them we were divorcing, they changed and stopped talking to me and even saying that I used them for immigration. That really hurt. And now, this becomes a seed for my anxiety and worrying. I am scared that they might act out of spite to contact ICE or USCIS because they thought I gave up the marriage too easily, or my timing was weird to them, etc. Yes I did ask for divorce after I-751 was approved but not immediately after. We also went through couples therapy and I have my own journals about that period of time.