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I received my 2 years green card 3 months ago . Now my Christian husband says we are one infront of God so I can’t go anywhere without him apart from church , work , grocery stores . What type of situation is this and what can I do . He has refused marriage counseling. I am currently in therapy for anxiety and panic attacks because he screams a lot when angry . Please help , what should I do ?

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Sorry to hear you are going through this.  I don't have much to offer other than my sympathies and prayers, but make sure you keep yourself safe, and document any verbal or physical abuse.

 

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3 hours ago, Maame k said:

I received my 2 years green card 3 months ago . Now my Christian husband says we are one infront of God so I can’t go anywhere without him apart from church , work , grocery stores . What type of situation is this and what can I do . He has refused marriage counseling. I am currently in therapy for anxiety and panic attacks because he screams a lot when angry . Please help , what should I do ?

Life is too short to live in an abusive marriage.  Stay safe!!!!  I would remove myself from that situation and seek legal counsel....immediately.

 

By the way, I don't think he can back up that belief...sounds like HE is sick or a manipulator......seek help, and seek happiness for yourself. 

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Call 911

make out a police report

ask the officers to help u get to a shelter

there will be help there to guide u what to do

or call 

National Abuse hotline 

800-799-7233

Christainity doesn't says "getting a green card makes u one with God"  

One with God in the Bible usually refers to Jesus and God as one

 

https://www.openbible.info/topics/one_with_god

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I received my 2 yrs green card 3 months ago , will it affect my case if I file for divorce by myself? My citizen husband yells and scream whenever he’s angry . I’m in therapy because I’ve developed anxiety and panic attack because of all the yelling . He’s not allowing me to see my friend ( female ) because he said he doesn’t trust me ( I’ve never cheated, lied or done anything wrong ) he’s refused counseling therapy. Yesterday was another 2 hours screaming and yelling because I didn’t get his package ready so he could return at the post office . I’ve been crying the whole night I’m afraid my heart will stop  beating one day . He always threatens me of divorce and calling immigration to accuse me of fraud .I know he won’t file for divorce unless there’s cheating involved ( according to the Bible ) but I’m sooo tired and ready to divorce if there’s no change. If I initiate the divorce, will it affect me if I’m going to remove conditions? 

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I am sorry you are going through this.  
 

Document the abuse.  File for divorce.  Get a divorce decree. Then file I-751.  Check the divorce waiver box and if you want the “extreme cruelty” waiver box. 

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Doesn’t let he gaslighting you. For him to proof immigration fraud he will need proof. Did you marry him for green card? If no so don’t worry about his threats. He is just trying to manipulate you.

 

Please look on google for the nearest woman shelter, contact your friends and leave  the house for your own safety. 
 

Call the police and report him.

 

Are he working for home and is not allowing you to leave the house? Please, don’t be afraid to take action to be safe. 
 

I suffer for panic attacks and anxiety for years and I can guarantee you that your heart will not stop. You are stronger and just need a safe and lovely place to live.


Be safe!!

 

 

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Unfortunate story.  You are not supposed to be needing to tolerate this alone and I’m not going to test this theory but I’m pretty sure I’d have a UPS package up my @$$ if I talked to my wife like that.  It would be a well earned experience too.

 

So:  Earlier advice stands.  Pick up the phone, dial 911, ask for help.  He won’t change.  Ever. You need to get out before it gets worse.  Keep all of your ID documents and receipt notices in one place so you can pick them up and bring them with you.  If possible you need a copy of everything in a safe place.  This is classic abuse.

 

This happens.  Impossible to really know someone until you live with them.  You need this documented and reported and ex spouses try the “immigration fraud” bluff all the time.  Seen it here for 16 years now.  Not once have I seen it successfully pulled off.  You would be good to dismiss that threat off the top.  
 

Note:  That support affidavit is enforceable in court in most states now.  It is he not you who is at a disadvantage but I dont think he knows that and it would be a good idea not to mention it.   Your attorney can sue for attorney fees and support and he’s on the hook for all of it.   It’s written on the form for goodness sake.  He’s a moron.  

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Before you dial 911, gather all documents that show bona fide marriage. When you're set, dial. You don't want him to hide them before you get to them

Immigration journey is not: fast, for the faint at heart, easy, cheap, for the impatient nor right away. If more than 50% of this applies to you, best get off the bus.

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I just finished with my therapy , my therapist thinks I should give him the chance for a therapy before divorce. He only agreed to speak to a pastor or elder of a church because he doesn’t believe in psychologist or worldly therapists . I told him either we get counseling or I file for divorce. He yelled and said I’m ungrateful, I don’t love him as I’m supposed to. He said when we go for my renewal interview . He will tell the officer I used him for green card. He will gladly sit in jail as I get deported. I told him I will speak with my immigration attorney on Monday but he said I’m trying to build a case against him . I don’t know if I did the right thing telling him that 

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related topics merged

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31 minutes ago, Maame k said:

. He said when we go for my renewal interview . He will tell the officer I used him for green card.

Joke’s on him. He won’t be invited to your I-751 interview because you won’t be filing jointly. 

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He will gladly sit in jail as I get deported.

Sit in jail for what?

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I told him I will speak with my immigration attorney on Monday but he said I’m trying to build a case against him . I don’t know if I did the right thing telling him that 

Personally if it were me in your situation, I would not be saying anything that would cause him to erupt emotionally.  
 

See your divorce and immigration attorneys as soon as possible.  

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